IAmA mother, wife, college graduate, and stripper. AMA

GW? GW.

http://imgur.com/a/2Ni9h

sigh I was waiting for that to pop up. I'm surprised it took this long. Ya pervs. :P

So is this an old GW sub? You look fantastic by the way.

Do you have any other collegues that are stripping their way through school? Or any physicists, engineers, doctors, etc that also strip?

Yup, this is from last year. I was three months preggo at this point, but in great shape due to a triathlon training class I was taking senior year. I'm aiming to get back at that level of fitness by this summer.

I do know three other girls who are doing the same. One undeclared (but leaning towards biochem) major, one pre-med, and one who has a masters in education but couldn't find a job teaching and is now going back for something more science-y and marketable.

and one who has a masters in education but couldn't find a job teaching.

This blows my mind. I'd be stripping too, if there were a male strip joint in my city. And if I were in shape.

I congratulate you on the enormity of your success and I wish you the best.

Thanks. :) Yeah, the market is horrible for teachers right now. Which is awful, because hiring good teachers should be a priority.

I have RES, so I can flip through this slideshow pretty fast! Is doing this representative of what your private dances resemble? What tricks/moves do you like to show off in your professional dancing?!

Pretty much, but with more actual moving/dancing. Also private dances involve me actually sitting in the guy's lap.

I'm learning some cool stuff on the pole, but it takes SO much strength. My entire repertoire consists of about 4 moves right now. -__- But I'm much better at just dancing, so I usually focus on that.

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1) Honestly, I'd hope we could just joke around and be cool about it. But if anything even close to harassment started up, I'd make sure to nip it in the bud.

2) Zero. I would never hook up with anyone that I met at the club. Too potentially dangerous.

3) The least I ever made was one spectacularly shit-tastic night where I went home with $30. Average, I'd say $250. The most? $750. And please realize I don't exactly live in a wealthy area, so this money goes a LOT further than it would in a major city.

4) Since we officially got married, I've had 3. Two guys, one girl.

5) Impregnate me again. But we both know now isn't the right time.

What's HIS count on hookups since you got married?

He's at 2 girls since we got married. I have the lead only because I'm bi and therefore have twice the market. :)

How long have you been a stripper? Did you use it as a way to pay for college?

4 months total. Broken up, though: 3 1/2 months last year, and I just went back a week ago.

I actually bartended my way through college. I started doing this just before my final semester senior year. So no. But maybe I can pay off some of my loans this way. :)

I am also a mother of a 4 year old. I have considered this line of work, since I'm single and need money for college, but found I was too nervous. Where you ever really nervous and what did you do to get past that?

Oh god, I was SO nervous my first night!!! I was literally shaking when I first went up. The only thing that helped was time, honestly. Also, another girl went up with me for the first couple times that night (she showed me the ropes, I let her keep the tips from those sets). But for about 2-3 weeks, I still got nervous and shaky going up on stage. I am, believe it or not, a naturally shy person. But in this line of work, you learn to put on a face. You become an actress, catering to the customer's wishes.

Do you do private lap dances or just dance on the stage? Is it a full nude club?

I do both. The club has two sides: topless with a regular bar, and fully nude with a juice bar (as per state law). Dancing on the stage can get me up to half my money for the night, but typically I make more on the private dances.

Have you taken up any offers, on the side, from customers to make some extra cash? Going above and beyond the stripping.

Nope, never. I won't even entertain the possibility of going down that road. I just don't want to deal with the ramifications of doing anything illegal and getting caught. I do get plenty of offers, though.

whose idea was to "open" your marriage?

It was both of ours. My husband and I dated for 6 years before tying the knot, and we had an open relationship from the beginning. Granted, it was a little bumpy right off the bat figuring out whose boundaries existed where (I had a little jealousy to contend with in the beginning), but things have been running smoothly ever since we moved in together 3 1/2 years ago. We both have a couple friends who we occasionally sleep with on the side and everyone's happy.

Thanks for doing this AMA . It's always good to see different people here . By the way,you didn't need to expose your Real life ID directly to everyone(just exposing to mods here is enough) .

... didn't know that. facepalm

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I'd say she's a sinner and a saint.

All of the above, technically. ;)

Where do you plan on working next seeing you have a degree in biochem, it seems like a promising field, also sorry for all the down votes your getting, reddit can be tough sometimes

My plan for now is to work at the club for a year or two more while my daughter is still very young. Then I'll hopefully be able to find a position in a research lab somewhere. I'm super-interested in pharmaceutical research, actually, so ideally I'd love to get a job in that area.

I figured I'd get down-voted some, it's what comes with saying I'm a stripper. Mixed responses like in real life.

What are you going to say in interviews for a biochem job down the road when they ask why you haven't been working in your field for several years post-grad?

"I took some time off to be with my daughter during her early formative years." Also, I do have a legit part-time substitute gig, but I only get called in once every couple of weeks.

After the Connecticut shooting, I work in such a heated job as you do, apparently being a video game dev is like working for the devil (can you believe that?)

But I like your choice, you have potential to change the course of humanity, and I thank you for that.

Good luck -asasdasasd

Thank you. :)

I can't believe you would be demonized for working in video game development! That's horrible. That's as ridiculous as saying that some guy who stabs his wife did it because he read Game of Thrones. Fuck that.

I KNOW RIGHT? The guy liked a game made by the company that I work at, so it makes me the spawn of the devil. Had to resort to creating a new work account because I was getting flamed :/

Show this to everyone who hates on you.

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Will do. :)

being a biochemist, what do you know about the serotonin system and how that works? is it true many strippers shave downstairs?

Oh I'm all about the serotonin rush I give the customers! That's how I get my money! Though I think I should focus more on the release of dopamine, that has more to do with the reward and pleasure center of the brain. ;)

As far as shaving, every single girl there shaves her crotch. It just seems to be the standard for this line of work. I do it too, but if I wasn't working at a strip club, I wouldn't shave it ALL off all the time.

I've been doing a lot of research on how various psychedelic drugs affect the brain and how we experience the world. it's really a fascinating area. what made you want to go into biochem?

That is definitely an interesting field of research! I went with biochem because I've always been science-oriented and I couldn't choose between biology and chemistry. So I did both!

did you take ochem?

Butofcourse. Organic is pretty much the entire basis of biochem. I know everyone complains about it when they take it (I did too at first), but I really like it. I feel like I have a real relationship with carbon, nitrogen, oxygen, and hydrogen.

I was hoping to get into the business side of pharma/biotech but after taking intro bio and doing terrible, I'm afraid I don't have the skills or interest in science to pursue it anymore.

Hey, if you have skills elsewhere and aren't interested in pharma/biotech, then don't push yourself. You don't want to end up unhappy in a dead-end job.

Senior chemistry major here. It's funny, I had the same reaction to organic. I absolutely hated it, but after taking it, learn to love it.. Or at least respect it! Are you ever planning on pursing a job with your degree?

BTW, awesome AMA.

I will definitely be pursuing a career with my degree in a little bit. I am too much of a nerd not to be excited about all science-y goodness I can achieve.

And thank you. :)

How's the compensation? Do male strippers make more or less? Where would be a good starting point to get into the industry?

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That almost makes me think about driving down to the City just to strip.

I live in a pretty economically depressed area, so the compensation is much lower here than elsewhere (~$250 on an average night). But it sure as hell beats running myself ragged behind the bar for 8 hours straight with drunk people accosting me.

While I have met a couple male strippers, we didn't talk shop. One was a midget and one couldn't string a damn sentence together, he was so dim. Obviously this is not representative of the entire demographic of male strippers. But I imagine they probably make the same amount at private parties if they work the same way the ones I did worked. Not sure about clubs...

Why do you choose to be a stripper? Is your husband ok with this? Thanks for the AMA!

I chose to be a stripper because it looked like fun! A friend of mine started at the only (decent) club in town, and I went down to visit her her first night. I'd never even been in a strip club before. After seeing men literally hand her money just for being topless in front of them, I figured I could do it too.

Yes, my husband is okay with this. He has literally no jealousy and trusts me completely. We had been dating for 5 1/2 years already when I started doing it, and (obviously) we got married with no reservations (except the friggin' cost of a wedding).

Congrats on your baby! How old are you? You look 21 ( which is a good thing)

Thank you! I'm 25. Looking younger is definitely better in this industry. :)

Would you ever sleep with a guy from the club? You do have an open marriage.

No, I wouldn't. Too many unknowns about the guy. I did see a number of girls I work with do this though. Strippers dating customers always (with FEW exceptions) either leads to the girl quitting or the relationship ending.

Turning the question around, ould you be fine with your husband dating another stripper at your club?

He actually was having sex with my friend who worked at the club (the one that got me to go visit her there). So yeah, I'd be okay with it. I trust his taste in women.

What kinds of boundaries, rules, etc do you and your husband have for the open relationship part? How often do the rules end up changing, even if just a little?

See my response to omegaterra

The main rules never change. But depending on the other people involved, sometimes I'll be uncomfortable with certain things and ask him not to do them until I know the girl a little better.

Do your in-laws know? Do you plan on telling your daughter when she is old enough?

My in-laws don't know, but I feel they wouldn't care much.

And I certainly do plan on telling my daughter. When she's old enough to not run around school screaming "My mommy's a stripper!!!". I plan to raise her to view it in a more positive light than our society typically portrays it.

How would you react if your father-in-law or brother-in-law walked into the building you work at?

I would be surprised but not ashamed. The more interesting question is how would THEY react?? My brother-in-law went to college to be a pastor.

My brother-in-law went to college to be a pastor.

Now that would be a fun story. Seems like you could make bank that night lol

"Oh Father, OH FATHER!"

lol But for real, he'd be too embarrassed to look me in the eye. He got awkward when I was breastfeeding my daughter in the same room as him.

I'm always thrown off and feel like a creeper when I see somebody breastfeeding in public. Mostly because usually when I do a second look to verify what I saw they see me and think I'm being a weirdo, when in reality... I am a weirdo but wasn't being one at the time!

When I breastfeed in public, I throw a cloth over my shoulder so my boob isn't showing. I honestly don't care if people see my breasts (duh: stripper), but I just don't want to deal with people staring. I wish it wasn't so out-of-the-norm to see a woman feeding her baby in public, but meh. Can't change society in a heartbeat.

Yeah, really. I figure once you meet someone in a place, there's no room for stone throwing by either party.

This. The girls' views at work are basically "If you're going to judge me for being here, I'm going to judge you for coming here."

Would you support your daughter to become a porn star? What about a prostitute?

Porn star, maybe. Depends on the situation. Prostitute, probably not. Anywhere where the law starts getting involved I'd be nervous for her. Too many women are taken advantage of or hurt in those fields for me to be 100% gung-ho for anyone I know to work in them.

What if prostitution became legal and well regulated? A lot can happen in 18 years.

If that were the case, I'd be more comfortable with it. I would love to see that field regulated and the women (and men) working in it given rights and held to standards the same as everywhere else. Nothing will ever prevent prostitution from happening everywhere; it seems pointless to try and stop it.

6) How many times do you go on stage a night? Can you explain to us what are some of the things a stripper does back-stage before a performance?

7) What is the oldes lady you have seen performing as a dancer?

8) How often does a guy finish during a lap dance?

9) Is a dollar a song good for pervert row?

10) What is the most money you have made off one customer?

6) Depends on the night - the more girls there are on, the fewer complete rotations can be made that night. As few as 5, as many as 10 or so.

7) Oy. There was one lady... she musta been close to 50. Huge hard fake tits. I'm pretty sure she just used the club as a place to pick up customers of another sort. All the normal customers would clear the stage seating as soon as she got up.

8) It's only happened to me once. So far.

9) No. That'll get you a smile and a thank you and I won't come back.

10) I've made $200 off a single guy from private dances twice now. If only those guys came in more often...

Would you allow/encourage/ support your daughter if she ever decide to do the same? Are you concerned on how she would feel? Thanks for the AMA!

If she chose to go the same route down the line, I would support her. Now granted, we wouldn't be doing no nasty mother-daughter routine (ew). I might be worried a little for her safety, but hopefully I raise a kid who can handle herself.

do you have stretch marks from your pregnancy? If so, how do you deal with those when you are stripping?

I do, but thankfully they are small and unnoticeable in the dark club lighting. I was considering covering them up with a little makeup, but honestly they don't show up in the club. A couple other girls who work there have them, but I think overall body shape/tone is more important than some skin changes.

What would you say to your daughter if, once she's older, she wants to dance naked for money?

I'd be supportive but concerned for her safety. I'd probably ask her where she's working and check the place out, but other than that, I wouldn't interfere.

Is there any difference in how the guests behave in compare to the indecent clubs in town? You look amazing for being pregnant just a few months ago, have you done any workout or so? Thank you for this AMA!

When I said decent, I was only referring to the quality of the girls looks-wise. I've only ever worked in the one club, so I can't really compare.

And thank you, I worked at getting back in shape quickly. Insanity workout. Ouch.

Heh, okay. Does the quality of the girls affect how much money you get? Do you have girls with different body types at the club you work in? Were you nervous in the beginning, or did you just went up there and did your thing? How much money do you get after a good workshift? Do you pay taxes for the money you earn?

I'd like to think quality affects quantity, but sometimes a less attractive, super pushy girl can get more money out of a guy than I can. But me, I get repeat customers. More in the long run.

We definitely have girls with a variety of body types, but not past a certain range. You'll find tall, short, big boobs, small boobs, lotsa ass, no ass, etc... but you won't find anyone who's too big overall. I'm on the larger end of the girls working there, and I feel that's saying something.

Yep, I was definitely nervous at first. But I just jumped in balls-deep and did it. It got easier after that.

On average, I'll make about $250 on a weekday night. And no, I haven't paid taxes on anything yet. Unless a girl makes a LOT of money or really sends up a red flag with the IRS, it's not an issue. We all just hope we don't get audited.

Is any of your income not cash?

Nope. Everything is cash. I have a bunch of $50 wrapper things for all the singles to make bank deposits easier.

Have you ever been in a monogamous relationship?

In terms of sex, no. I had boyfriends before him, but he was the first guy I had sex with. We were very good friends/fuck buddies for a year before we started dating.

Honest question, you seem like an intelligent, nice person... since you've never been in an exclusive relationship, do you think that - if you had never met your current husband - that you would be in an open marriage today?

Probably not. We were pretty formative for each other in terms of our sexual outlook. He was my first, I was his second... I don't think I would have had nearly the same experience with anyone else.

You were his second? Are you saying they opened their relationship just to include you?

No, they also had an open relationship from the beginning. God, this sounds weird. We were all friends who hung out and fooled around and then they started dating.

Starting out open is very unusual... had he ever been in an exclusive relationship before?

Nope. He just had the one girlfriend before me.

Do the rest of your family know about this? How do they feel about it? Has anyone who was important in your life left because of your career choice?

Weeeell, most of my 6 siblings know. 3 of my 4 brothers know and are supportive, and my younger (of 2) sisters knows. As for my parents... I would prefer them not to, because I know they would be disappointed and think they did something wrong. But if they find out, shrug I'd deal with it.

And no, no one important in my life has shunned me because of what I do. Literally all my friends know where I work. Some of them come down to visit/hang out on occasion.

That's great to hear that your family is so supportive of you, goodluck with your career :)

Thanks!

I also grew up in a family of seven... We have the same boy to girl ratio, too.

If i had a sister who graduated biochemistry I'd be beginning to feel suspicious!

So how many times have you gotten asked if your parents are Catholic?

thanks for the ama! a few questions... you said you were naturally shy and i'm guilty of the same. but you also bartended? i've been looking into starting out as a bar back to move up to a bartender to help out my cash flow. but i'm very shy in front of a group and i'm still a kid in many ways. would i make a fool of myself trying to get into bartending? you think it takes a certain personality type?

and kudos on insanity... if i haven't worked out in a long time and work from home, do you think it would be wise to jump right into it or should i try to get a little into shape first? yes, unrelated... but thanks!

You wouldn't make a fool of yourself! I actually once worked with a guy who was literally the most anti-social person I knew outside of work. All personality types can tend bar, believe me. Being quick and able to multi-task are the real skills you need.

I would work up to Insanity first. I had to, myself. I started out with a good power yoga workout and light jogging, then once I stopped being sore from those, I went into Insanity. I'm halfway through now and my body's gotten used to it (somewhat), but it really isn't a workout to just jump into if you're not already used to some exercise. That being said, good luck to you if/when you start! The results are pretty awesome if you can stick with it.

What, if any, rules or guidelines do you have for your open relationship? Is there anything that is off limits outside of the marriage and do you both have the same rules? Is it awkward at all when for example, you're home with the kid and he's out with someone else? In the reverse, has he ever felt awkward?

Thanks in advance.

Rule #1: Complete honesty!!! Rule #2: Ask beforehand and respect the other person's right to say no for any reason (or no reason at all).

The only things that are off limits outside the marriage are unprotected sex, anal, and using boyfriend/girlfriend labels.

And no, I don't feel awkward watching my daughter while he's out on a date. He does the same when I want to go out with a friend(s). There have actually been occasions when each of us has had sex in the house while the other person is here. I know it sounds weird, but it doesn't feel weird to us.

What's the most you've ever earned from a single private dance?

About $200.

Would you like a free hug?

I don't need one, but I'll always take one. :)

Great example that relationships work on a per person basis. It may be counter culture but it only takes one proof to demonstrate truth. =)

I like that saying. steal

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Went back a week ago. I needed some time to lose all the weight and start to feel normal again.

What did you do after high school/between HS and college? If you bartender in college, it is obvious you took a break or something between high school and college.

Actually I didn't. I went straight from high school to my local community college. I was a nursing major for two years, realized I sucked at it, switched to liberal arts and science for a year to take some gen ed courses. Then I transferred to a state university, declared biochem my first semester, and graduated 3 years later due to a number of courses that had to be taken sequentially. Also, I waited tables before bartending.

Hello!

Thank you for doing this AMA. You have a unique combination of roles, which is really interesting :)

I'm currently finishing up my last year of undergrad For a BSc and know that it's tough work. How did you manage to balance doing this and your degree (sleep, exams, etc)?

Mainly I worked weekends. I did have to do one weeknight and then be up early the next morning, but it wasn't so bad. Fridays were the worst... up at 8:30 for my 9:40am class, then go go go until 3 in the morning when the club closed. On those days, taking my heels off at the end of the night was the most pleasurable part of the evening.

I've always had to balance school and work, ever since I was 16. You just find your limit. I couldn't do 40 hours of work a week plus full time school - that was when my grades started slipping. I kept my work hours under 30 and tried my best not to waste time during the day.

Hey, Thanks for a amazing AmA. You have lot of courage, I hope you get your dream job soon. One question, since you are in open relationship what are you thinking about men who (could) offer more money of "extra" services?

I still wouldn't. Just because I have the freedom to sleep with someone else doesn't mean I automatically will. I also don't want to get involved with breaking the law. Slippery slope and all that.

And thanks. :)

Woohoo, I got my BS in Biochemistry too.

Maybe I should follow your path, all I do is sit on my big butt all day.

You're welcome to try it. :) It'll definitely pay the rent.

Had a look at your submission history, and you had a fantastic first gonewild post some months back. Why was there never another?

Well I didn't think there was much of a market for preggo pics. Though I have been considering doing an update.

After reading your responses to these questions, I just want to say that you seem like a really cool person. Best of luck in all of life's adventures!

Thanks. :)

Do you think you will ever have a more traditional marriage with your husband? What about when your daughter is old enough to understand the circumstances? I've entertained thoughts of an open relationship but ultimately decided I couldn't handle it and admire people with that kind of confidence.

I don't think my husband and I will ever have a "traditional" marriage. We entertained the thought of closing the relationship when we got married, but we're just both happier with it open. We plan on raising our daughter so she doesn't look negatively on this sort of thing. Stressing honesty, consent, and overall respect will be more of a focus for us, I think. And of course, we'll explain things in age appropriate terms.

Was biochem your major from the get go or did you start out with a different major? What made you go into biochem? I'm currently a bio major and its definitely a hard field being science and all, but in the end I love it so the hard work is actually enjoyable!

This AMA is wonderful by the way! You're defying the image society gives to strippers and open relationships. Best wishes to you and your family!

I started out a nursing major, but then realized I just don't have the balls to deal with the patients. I liked the medicine/science aspect of it, though, so that influenced my move to biochem. I really do love it, same as you. :)

Is your husband working as well? if so, what does he do? like you've said in other comments, child care isn't cheap!

My husband does work a 40-45 hour a week job. He's a field service tech, so he drives around a lot. Thankfully, he works for an amazing company that really takes care of him (and by extension, me and our daughter).

Several questions after reading through this:

1) One of the things that has struck me about stripping is how unhygienic it appears to be for the stripper what with handling money with your mouth and having a guys face in your cleavage. As a single woman, this is one thing, but does this issue ever concern YOU as a nursing mother (especially with your background in biochem)?

2) Many of the strippers I've spoken with use stripping as a means to finance a degree, and seem to look forward to obtaining that degree so they can get out of the industry. Now that you have your degree, why aren't you more actively seeking seeking out a biochemistry job? In one of your posts you mention that you are 25. Why not begin building the foundations of a scientific career now instead of a "year or two" down the road when your resume will show a year or two long gap between graduation and work with no scientific experience?

Best of luck!!!

This doesn't concern me at all. I shower when I get home. Besides a little sore throat when she was 2 weeks old, my daughter hasn't been sick in the slightest. My background in biochem gives me faith in my (and by extension, her) immune system to fight off anything we do come by.

I'm not actively seeking out a biochem job because I want to stay home with my daughter for the first year or two. Childcare is expensive as fuck and this way, she gets to be cared for by her parents. I think having a kid is a common enough experience that future employers would understand me taking a little time off.

Has there ever been big big problem arise in your marriage from it being open? If so, what were they and how did you and your husband deal with it?

It sounds like you and your husband have worked out all the kinks in the arrangement. :)

There have been a couple issues in the past where I didn't set clear enough boundaries and he overstepped them, but that was more a matter of communication than an issue arising from the open aspect. We communicate reeeally well now, and this has definitely worked things out.

What kind of boundaries did you fail to communicate, and how did he cross them (or how did you feel he crossed them?)

Boundaries are a big deal in my wife and I's relationship now, and while our marriage is monogamous, we haven't ruled out the idea of opening it at some point.

There was one instance fairly early on where he fooled around with a girl up at his college (we were long distance for the first 3 years together) and ended up getting a blowjob from her. I was upset because I didn't really know this girl, didn't know her intentions (did she just want to fool around or was she looking for a relationship?), and he hadn't asked me beforehand. But we worked through it. Seriously, understanding your boundaries is key to any relationship, but especially an open one.

When do you plan on putting an end to the open marriage? Not trying to coach you on parenting but is it the best idea to keep it open while your daughter is a teen? Also would you want the life you're living for your daughter? (Please why or why nots for all aspects of your life stated above "mother, wife of an open marriage, college graduate, stripper") Thank you.

I don't plan on putting an end to the open marriage unless something truly drastic happens.

As far as keeping it open while she's a teen, it's not like we'll be parading other sexual partners in front of her and subjecting her to listening to constant fucking upstairs. That's not healthy for anyone. I'm pretty sure things will be quiet for us sexually during those years. Having an open relationship means that the potential for other partners is there, not that we are constantly banging other people 24/7. We'll be discreet enough not to make her feel awkward.

How'd you get into the business? Did you have to know how to dance ect to get the job? I've always thought about it, but didn't think I had a good enough body...but you and I look similar so...(not to say you are ugly!!! I just don't have good self esteem lol) You are gorgeous!

I got into when I saw a friend of mine literally getting handed money for being topless in front of a guy and thought "Fuck. I can do that." I never had to officially audition for it, the owner just gave me a night to come in and try it out. I am a good dancer, but you really don't have to be in this business. Men (and some ladies) are more interested in nudity than dancing ability.

I've always had a little bit in the way of self-confidence issues, but DAMN will you get an ego boost once you start working in a club. There is a customer for every body type and having men tell you how gorgeous you are all night long... I won't lie, it's nice.

And thank you. :)

thanks for doing the ama, very interesting to say the least!

i'm curious though, when apply for jobs in your biochem field, will you be putting stripping on your resume?

Nope. I wouldn't want to sabotage myself like that.

cool, that's what i figured, but wanted to find out for sure.

is it only cash income for you?

Yup, only cash.

You said the bar is split in two sections, nude and nonnude. Do you dance in both?

Yep. I did only the topless one at first, but eventually just didn't care.

Congrats, Biochem has to some of the driest stuff to learn imaginable

Also, what do you think of anal sex?

It's not dry if you're interested in it! It's pretty cool to study the chemical basis of life processes. I'm in touch with my inner Krebs cycle. :)

Anal sex is great if there's LOTS of lube.

Whats the most difficult job: being a mom, being a wife, being a stripper, or school/work in biochem?

The mom part. Babies are such an uncontrollable factor. I can control my job, I can control my relationship, I can control schoolwork... I can't control a fussy baby at 3 in the morning when I've tried everything else and she won't stop crying. But that's why I'm so glad to have a partner in raising her. I don't know how single moms do it.

Hi there :) I have few questions. Perhaps you can answer them?

1. How do you manage to keep all the lysosomal storage disorders segregated in your mind? Mine always mix up :(

2. Any shortcuts to help with leukodystrophies? I memorize them one morning and forget them next day.

3. If given the chance to work in a lab at some professional school will you give up this line of work?

1) and 2) I did not have to study these. They sound more like pre-med or med school territory. But you can always google study aids, charts and such. I found many online that helped me.

3) If someone offered me a job right here right now that paid enough to cover childcare and then some, then I would take it. But for now, I enjoy what I do. :)

How would it change your work if the dollar bill became replaced with a coin?

I feel like "making it rain" would hurt a lot. -__-

how far have you gone with a client? does taxes get deducted from your pay? why was stripping your choice to get money? girls say that too when they need cash but do porn

The farthest I have ever gone with a client (voluntarily) is rubbing up on him while he's hard. Call me vanilla, but I've never performed any sexual favors for a client.

No taxes are deducted from my pay. It's literally all straight cash. I keep all my stage tips, get my portion of the up-front fee for private dances from the bouncer, do my tip-outs, and leave. That's it, no paper trail really.

I chose stripping because it's easier and more fun than my previous job was. Simple as that.

Ever share someone with the hubby?

Many times. Most recently, 3 days ago.

What draws you to the polyamorous lifestyle?

Technically we are not polyamorous as we don't have boyfriends/girlfriends outside of our relationship.

Honestly, it's not so much a matter of being "drawn" to the lifestyle, it is simply what makes us happiest. We weren't lured in by the shiny aspect of sleeping with other people, it's just... what we do. :)

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How likely is it that a family member would go to a strip club, and yours in particular?

I don't live in the same part of the state as my family, so it'd be super-unlikely for me to encounter anyone I'm related to. I don't bother thinking about it, because that would either lead to me appearing uncomfortable on stage (turns off customers) or me quitting, and neither of those are helpful. You just have to realize that it's a possibility, and weigh the pros and cons of working there with dealing with a situation like that.

Also props on the PhD - that's a lot of hard work right there!

Why do you have an open marriage? Is one man not enough? What would your parents think about the marriage and the stripping?

It's not about one man being "enough" or "not enough". I love my husband and sex with him is all I need. But that doesn't account for everything I want. Variety is the spice of life, after all.

My parents wouldn't approve of either. They're pretty conservative Christians. :(

How great are belly button rings?

SO great!