IAmAn owner of a swingers club. AMAA!
Hi reddit! I run Country Club, a club for swingers in Champaign-Urbana, IL. Proof: http://www.lifestylecountry.club/reddit
My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for 5 years, and we started Country Club 8 months ago. As swingers clubs go, we are a small one, with 59 member couples. We don't have a physical location, but we are a nomadic group that holds events once a month in various locations.
We have two different types of events -- free, casual meetups in public places like bars; and paid, private events. Our small meetups usually draw about 10 couples. Most recently (yesterday), we threw a big champagne pool party with 40+ couples.
Some FAQs are below. If you have any other questions, ask away! I will not be answering too much about my personal life, since I am trying to keep my identity private. Outside of running Country Club, I am a professional with a full-time, respectable career.
Q: So... You just show up to one of these parties, and fuck?
A: No. If you imagine swinging as just showing up to an orgy and fucking strangers, you are way, way off. Swingers call swinging "the lifestyle", because that is what it is. You make friends with people. Sometimes you go out for brunch together. Sometimes you hook up. Sometimes you don't. And, even at the parties, it's not a free-for-all where you can do anything, with anyone, any time you want. There are plenty of parties we go to where we don't hook up with anyone at all; it's just that the option is there.
Q: Do you allow singles?
A: We are a club for couples, but we do allow a limited number of bisexual singles, with the caveat that the gender ratio at our events is always 50-50. We receive a lot more interest from single men than single women (so many men), so we have to be very selective as to what men we allow at our parties. This is not usual for swingers clubs, however. Most do not allow in single men at all, but they do allow single women... Which I think is terribly sexist, but maybe that's just me.
Q: What about the risk of STDs?
A: You use condoms, always. And you get tested, often. If you don't trust the people you're about to hook up with to do the same, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them.