Rev01Yeti

I can't really imagine myself being entertained by the idea of swinging, that is, my most loved one having sensual time with someone else, but I'll ask anyway... There is one thing I wonder about every time I happen to read about the swinging lifestyle or when I chat with someone who is into it. (Yep, unsurprisingly I don't know such people IRL.)

To me, it seems like being a swinger requires the epitome of a stable relationship and a rock-solid self-esteem. Not just people have to negate any feelings of unforeseen jealousy, but in the case of added "unicorns", they have to be exhibitionist and voyeuristic too.

In other words, swinging as a lifestyle really seems like a life choice that only a very small percentage and only very (emotionally, sexually) confident, I might say, experienced people/couples take. In this way, it's not that surprising that most think of it like some kind of immoral hedonism, most couples can't even manage to have a "healthy" monogamous relationship for long.

What are your thoughts on the general personality traits "required" to enjoy swinging? Is there such a thing as an "embarrassed swinger" or a "shy swinger"?

You initially argued for asexuality while being in a romantic relationship. On logical grounds, clearly, love and sex should have no connection, for some reason, many connect that. (Love hereby refers to romantic love as we all know love can mean a lot of things.)

I completely agree that on a logical sense, swinging is completely understandable; sex is fun and leisure. It can be even an emotional experience without hurting the existing emotional (should I say intellectual?) relationship between the partners. But for some reason the vast of majority of humans still do connect romantic love and sexuality at least to a degree. This connection is actually a worthy topic of examination, I'm sure there are already dozens of academic books about the subject.

I guess many still like to give value to things for no logical, rational reason. Not letting others have sex with your life partner seems to be a major example. Although a sense of ownership certainly might come into play.

Nope, I'm agnostic atheist, but irrational.