IAmA specialist in helping people overcome perfectionism. Ask Me Anything!
***EDIT 8/23: Thank you so much to everyone who participated in this AMA. It was really fun for me to answer your questions and engage with you! I may still be able to pop in and answer a question or two, but if you are interested and want to learn more about this stuff, I will be posting blogs and youtube videos on my facebook page. You can find me here:https://www.facebook.com/rebeccanewkirklcsw/?ref=aymt_homepage_panel
A lot of people have asked for book recommendations so here are some great authors to look into: John Bradshaw, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Diana Fosha, Bessel van der Kolk, John Gottman (for relationship stuff).
If you are not in New Mexico or Virginia, but are interested in looking into therapy, Psychology Today is a great place to find therapists in your area. Thank you all for asking meaningful, interesting, and kind questions.
***EDIT: I have to go into a session right now but I am really enjoying delving into your questions! I'll be checking back in over the next few days to answer more questions, so feel free to continue asking. I'll talk to you all soon!***
Hi Reddit! I’m Rebecca Newkirk. I graduated with my Master's of Social Work in 2012. I specialize in helping teens and young adults work through their trauma and shame, so they can start to feel excited about their futures. My work is infused with humor (which I believe is essential to get through the hard stuff). I'm very transparent and honest with my clients, which I believe is necessary when working with those who have trauma so they can re-learn how to feel safe in relationships (or at all). If you want to nerd out with me about the techniques I use here are a few of my favorites: mindfulness, Gestalt, and Internal Family Systems. If you don't want to nerd out, suffice it to say I like to help people go back to the root of their issues so they can feel better now.
Perfectionism may seem like a non-issue to some of you, but it can be debilitating. The need to do everything perfectly can stop us from doing things that are important to us because we’re afraid we won’t perform them flawlessly.
When I’m not teaching classes at New Mexico Highlands University, or helping teens and adults through the pain in their pasts so they can be excited about their futures, I probably have my nose in a young adult fantasy book, my hands wrapped around a barbell, or my arms around my new daughter. (Yes, my username is an allusion to Dumbledore’s phoenix!)
Ask me Anything about perfectionism, shame, trauma, or Harry Potter!DISCLAIMER I'm not able to provide counseling thru reddit. If you'd like a free consultation, you can contact me at https://www.rebeccanewkirklcsw.com/contact-rebecca-newkirk/If you're experiencing thoughts or impulses that put you or anyone else in danger, please contact the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or go to your local emergency room.