anefisenuf

As a person who has a history of complex trauma and also trauma that was not interpersonal in nature, it often feels like security and confidence are perpetually out of my reach. I am not consciously seeking "perfection," but my underlying fear that something horrible is going to happen lends to that being the result. It doesn't help that messages from certain relationships and also from our culture reinforce these negative feelings that I have about myself, making it especially difficult to reframe. How does a person who has spent their entire life waiting for the other shoe to drop learn how to feel secure in themselves? I find it so hard not to feel justified in my need to do everything "right."

Wow. Damn. Thank you, you really nailed it with that reply. Thanks for doing this AMA, looking forward to reading more of your responses.