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Rebecca, I'm a genderqueer woman and I have tonnes of trouble dressing in the morning because I have the feeling I'll be judged based on what I wear.

I'm so tall that I've been quite mistaken for a transgender woman on several occasions and treated so horribly I've had to get dental implants and heal from injuries received on that basis. I feel horrible for how they're treated too, but this is about me.

How do I get dressed when I constantly feel that things that make me beautiful make me a target for sexist abuse and things that don't make me beautiful make me a target as though I'm someone who don't know how to properly "fool someone into thinking I'm a woman"?

Applied for military service, discovered intersex condition. Failure to the family. :/

She meant label someone and judge people of that category. 'Black people are stupid.' 'Transgenders is going to hell.' 'Homosexuals are an abomination.' That's what she means by labelling.

You're right language is fuzzy.

Thanks very much. I do feel you've targeted my question well, and also answered well.

Most of what you say is what I figured was true, especially because all your hypothetical reactions have happen to me as well.

Before I sleep, I usually pick out what I think I should wear based on the weather and my preference for styles.

In the morning, I'll put it on and sometimes it feels all wrong.

I'll redress for longer than I wish to, trying to find a way to feel comfortable.

Sometimes I think the largest discomfort (ha!) is because I'm so tall that no matter what I do people are going to stare all day anyway.

It always feels like the stare that happens when your co-workers know you're going to be fired and you don't. It's really ominously spooky most of the time.

Mostly I'm fine until some guy starts follows me or demands my time while hitting on me.

Getting dressed in the morning tends to feel like dressing for a day among lions where I'm just as likely to be mauled as not.

I use mindfulness meditations, eye movement therapy, and hold the opinions you stated, but can't shake the feeling I'm very vulnerable to harm that seems eminently around the corner... and that whether it's the "less bad kind", or "worse" is wholly up to someone other than me.

You are actually correct.