IamA victim of more than six years of cyberstalking and online and offline stalking/harassment. My stalker has been arrested three times and is awaiting sentencing. AMA.
EDIT: 8am: Whoa hello reddit front page. So many good questions overnight...cracking knuckles and diving in.
Edit Oct 20: I have been floored by the kind and frankly mature discussion that has been the majority of this reddit AMA, and I am very grateful! This will be the last edit I make to this top post, but I'll be continually going through and answering questions, and if there's any significant update in the case (like when she is sentenced) or next steps, I will post about it from my blog at http://penbitten.com. Thank you all again so much, I think raising these issues and helping people understand why they are not as simple as "turn off the computer and walk away" is a big, big step in the change that must occur.
My short bio: I'm Melissa Anelli, and I've done an AMA here before about my work in fan communities. The topic of harassment, stalking, and bullying that happen online and then expand to offline seems to be reaching a turning point: I have also hit a turning point in how I deal with my own case. I have been stalked, harassed, and abused by the same woman for almost 6.5 years. It began digitally, and then began mushrooming into offline contact - a trip to my town, packages and messages and postcards sent to me and my family and friends, etc. She has used emails, contact through every viable method of digital outreach, as well as physical mailings to intimidate and threaten, and make near daily threats of rape and murder.
After an FBI investigation and three arrests, my stalker is awaiting sentencing, and may be close to entering a plea deal that allows her to continue her campaign of abuse (for it has been proven that nothing but incarceration will stop her). I have resisted doing an AMA for a long time for fear she would join up and take part. But the issue and those that touch it are too important, and I'm hoping my case can help people understand why it is vital we work harder to stop this type of abuse.
Outside of this story, I run the popular fan convention GeekyCon (http://geekycon.com) and GeekyNews (http://geekynews.com) as well as Harry Potter site The Leaky Cauldron (http://www.the-leaky-cauldron.org). I wrote a book about the Harry Potter phenomenon, served as a consultant on Pottermore, and am a board member of the HP Alliance (http://thehpalliance.org) as well as advisor on YouCoalition (http://youcoalition.tumblr.com).
My Proof: NPR story from last Feb: http://www.npr.org/2014/02/23/281167415/fed-up-with-harassment-author-reveals-her-cyberstalker
NYPost from when she was arrested the second time: http://nypost.com/2013/07/18/harry-potter-and-the-deathly-wacko/
My latest Tumblr update: http://penbitten.com/post/99597562281/so-it-seems-stalker-might-get-off-lightly-how-would
Here's the proof of my identity I used for my last AMA: https://twitter.com/melissaanelli/status/357601620852359168