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Hey Melissa! I've been a follower of yours for a while now, pre-book 7. I've always respected how well you carry yourself and articulate your feelings and opinions. My question to you relates to my own story of harassment. My story is no where near as long and involved as yours. I was best friends with a guy who turned out to sociopathic. There was some mental and emotional abuse in the "friendship." After 8 months, I finally saw the light and broke it off. It got 100000000 times worse before it got better. It has been a little over two years since our "friendship" ended. He still texts me and messages me via various social media outlets. Do you have any advice on beating the sinking feeling I get everytime my phone goes off?

You are a true inspiration and I hope your stalker goes to jail where she belongs! No one deserves to go through what you have been put through.

Thank you so much for your kind words! I spend so much of my time with people telling me I'm over reacting that it is such a nice change to be taken seriously. People usually say "Lorrie, your just overreacting! It's not that big of a deal." And to be honest, most days it's not. He only contacts me about 3-4 times a month. But when I get a message from him, even just a "I miss you...." It messes me up for the next 36 hours or so. I'm always left wondering what I did to deserve this. (Though I know I didn't do anything.) I keep my detective up to date on all of the communications and nothing has been threatening for about year. His last threat was the ever onimous "don't worry, I'll pay you back one day. When you least expect it." And it's something where I know that it's probably an empty threat, but this guy knows where my family lives, every time there is an unexpected knock on the door, my heart jumps. Just now in the course of typing this message, I got out of bed to make sure the door was locked. thanks for letting me vent and for understanding. Your situation is so much worse I can't even imagine what you went through.

Thanks so much for the advice. I've been doing therapy. I've talked with the local police and unfortunately nothing he does is considered a crime. I have a great detective who I pass along all the messages to in cas it ever escalates. I have him blocked on all social media, but he uses other accounts to contact me. I haven't wanted to change numbers but it might come to that. It took a lot for me to realise it was an abusive situation and I certainly never want to go back.

Thanks again for the advice.