melissaanelli

I have seen this and reported it to tumblr and they have yet to take it down.

Oh god this is such a big, big, question. I think we need greater cooperation between our legal systems: some of the stickiest gum in the works here has been getting agencies to talk to each other clearly. Part of what kept this going for so long was that the lines were confused.

PURE fantasy on my part and will never happen (and in some cases/countries shouldn't): globally recognized legislation for the cessation of harassment - that a person using any digital platform to harass is subject to the laws where the victim lives. Problematic for some areas, totally irrational on my part, but man, would that have made this all easier.

However governments NEED to clarify the lines on this sort of thing with each other so that communication is easier. And that is TOTALLY possible.

We need a rape and death threat made online to count as the same type of abuse as if they had made those threats in person. The Internet is too much of a part of people's lives now to pretend it's any less important or has any less power to impact.

As for supporting me, THIS - keep upvoting this issue, keep spreading it on social media. Raise the issue to press, and continue to press on how people need to be kind and respectful to each other online and off. That's the best possible help!

*edit for clarity

The first death threat. Actually, I didn't think it was stalking at that point. I thought it was a one-off death threat, and I took it seriously, and warned staff, but I didn't think it would continue. When almost every day thereafter contained some message, threat, or vile insinuation, stalker started to apply. And as it worked itself offline, harassment and abuse applied. Not that you can only be harassed and abused offline, but that was the first time I started assigning those words to myself.

She's had many. I couldn't say what has triggered it - it's clear she is very ill.

I can't believe I'm about to say this on reddit but we can't talk about these things if we aren't open and honest about them right?

Yes. Trust issues without any doubt. Dating issues...yes. Any experience of intensity initially freaks me out, unless I already know and trust a person or there's already something that binds us. Even someone complimenting me in a non-platonic way can be a trigger. I work through that. With therapy. If that's me, imagine a rape victim, or an in-person sexual harassment/abuse victim. This one of the reasons why it's so important to me that these issues start getting more attention and we start getting even more serious about them.

I think of myself as normal, however, throughout. And that is only because I have incredible family and friends who help me through these things.