Looking for my son's heart. In Canada even though the donor and recipient want to meet you can't find each other. Help me find my greatest gift and AMA
Last September 2017 my son was declared brain dead and I decided to try to save the lives of others through this tragedy. Through the gift of life network in 24 hours we found recipients for 4 of his organs.
While this was a difficult time for me now and then, I knew my son would have wanted to find something good out of this terrible accident. Initially I thought I would be able to contact the recipients and find out who they were but I misunderstood and we were only able to anonymously write each other after 6 months and only if we both wanted.
I wrote the heart recipient first as that seems to be easier to do. While I also wrote the kidney and liver recipient only the heart recipient has replied. We have now exchanged 3 letters. The latest thank you coming a few days ago with a picture of his heartbeat. I had sent him my sons with the request he send his back so I could have a tattoo made of my sons heart into his heart.
Letters I might add that must be void of names and places that could possibly help us find each other. They are screened vigilantly even though we have both expressed the desire to meet. This to me is sad.
Although it's been such a difficult year, here is what I know. The heart recipient is 54 years of age. ( as am I) I know through his letters he has 2 children one is a girl. I know his brother died of a similar heart condition 7 years ago. He seems quite religious as he thanks God and "my donor's mother" a lot.
We just passed a year recently and I sent him a happy rebirthday letter. He has taken up gardening ( my son loved to garden and he cried when I told him this because he has just started to take this up and his son asked him if his new heart was a gardener in a previous life. Ok, wait. Now I know he has a son and a daughter.
I am in Brampton. I think he is in the GTA (greater Toronto area ) because he talked about coming into pick up my letter which implies nearby. A heart transplant is a rare thing. Someone has to know someone who had one September 25th 2017 ? I haven't been able to do Christmas. Thank you for your help. Ask me anything..