I work in a host club in Okinawa, Japan which isn't really known for its host clubs but if you look hard enough there is some nightlife here. A 'host' in Japan provides entertainment and drinks but there is no sex involved. There are many host documentaries on youtube that you can find like Vice's Documentary ("Boyfriends for Hire in Japan")

My Proof: Here's my host profile and timestamp

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amazing_ape95 karma

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Mythixz106 karma

I don't have sex with any of my clients but a lot of them are around my age (20 years old)

DaWhiz39 karma

Are you going to play Final Fantasy XV when it comes out? I hear they based a lot of the characters on Hosts just like you.

Mythixz88 karma

You're going to hate me but I've never played a FF game in my life haha

puritycontrol55 karma

How did you get into this job, and what was appealing about it to you?

At what point do hosts "age" out, or are there older, mature clubs that appeal to equally older women?

What do your family and friends think about your work?

What are some of the funniest/craziest experiences you've had? How about the most depressing?

How would you compare this industry to Western strip clubs? Both are equally deceptive, in a way, as the host or dancer sells their time for companionship in some form. Obviously, the end services differ, but in the end, the customer goes home alone (usually!) and out of a lot of cash.

Mythixz92 karma

I was taking a walk and someone scouted me but I don't really know what was appealing about me at the time

the oldest host at my club is around 27 and he still looks like he's in his early 20's and I don't know any clubs around my area suited for older women.

My family was first against it but most of them live further up north or in the US. My american friends think it's the best job in the world since I get paid to have fun basically but my friends here in Japan don't really care much about my occupation

funniest/craziest would probably be my birthday event. I got blackout drunk and apparently started chugging straight from a tequila bottle while half singing Coldplay's Viva la Vida and then I passed out. Most depressing would be the amount of stress this job can build up over time.

hmm interesting comparison but i wouldn't say both are equally deceptive. Even though they spend a lot of money on me I usually end up being good friends with a lot of my clients and even hang out with them whenever I have free time

11tybillion25 karma

How is your job stressful? Serious question.

Mythixz31 karma

Keeping the image of being a host. Making sure my hair, clothes, and everything else is perfect also adds on to the stress.

DieSchadenfreude16 karma

This is about asd close to a man knowing women's "grooming pressures" as I can imagine. You can't just go out.... you have to make sure your hair, makeup, and clothes are in order at the very least.

Mythixz13 karma

that's a really good point, but without those pressures of keeping my image I'd be pretty gross

puritycontrol14 karma

Interesting, thanks for the response!

Have you seen The Great Happiness Space? If so, would you say that is an accurate portrayal of the industry?

Mythixz26 karma

All clubs are different in their own unique way but yes it's pretty accurate :)

Leuku10 karma

What do you think is the reason for the amount of stress you build up from this work?

Mythixz10 karma

Usually money

Tuss2 karma

Is the salary bad?

Mythixz8 karma

The No.1 host at my club makes around $30,000 a month, so no not really

Tuss3 karma

Follow up: Do you accept foreign customers?

Mythixz3 karma

Yes :)

Jenny123456748 karma

i heard there was competiton between hosts on who is the most popular or gets most out of their clients is it true?

Mythixz69 karma

Yes, that's true. Essentially we're all going for the No.1 spot but all my coworkers are still good friends

Slumberfunk13 karma

How is that spot determined, exactly?

Mythixz37 karma

amount of money they make in a month

LuckyCharmss42 karma

Do clients ever give you expensive gifts?

Mythixz133 karma

I've gotten some Vivienne Westwood accessories and a mcdonalds giftcard one time

NutmegTadpole36 karma

Maybe this is inappropriate to ask, but how much do you make in a month on average? I have watched a couple documentaries on host clubs and it seems like hosts make a decent amount of money, even if they aren't the #1 host.

Mythixz93 karma

I'm not the number one host but I make around $4,500 at best in a month

corgiroll34 karma

Have you seen The great happiness space? What do you think of it?

Do you ever feel emotionally drained by your clients wanting your attention all the time?

Do you ever have non Japanese speaking clients?

How long have you worked as a host?

Would you ever recommend being a host to other people?

How much alcohol do you consume a shift usually?

What makes a good host?

What do you think about the population decline going on in Japan?

Mythixz52 karma

1.I watched a lot of host documentaries before I started this job. I think it shows both pros and cons of this job pretty well

yes

all my clients are Japanese

only for about 9 months so not too long

it really depends on the person but I'd recommend it to people who have an interest in it.

not much when I have school the next day but a fair amount when I have the day off.

Communication in my opinion

I'm only 20 so I'm not worried about it right now haha

Valkyrie7728 karma

When I last visited japan, most of the people there seemed to have an amazing sense of style.

Do you have a stylist or do you style your hair yourself?

Where can I learn to style like this?

Mythixz43 karma

I go to a hair salon to get it styled but my mom is a hair stylist so I picked up a few things from her.

kirsikka3 karma

could you talk more about your styling routine?

Mythixz32 karma

My stylist does my hair for me and what she usually does is a lot of teasing and a shit ton of hairspray

SirSammich26 karma

Have you ever met someone who really freaked you out? Like someone who actually thought that what was happening was a real relationship?

Mythixz32 karma

luckily no

Aristolchia26 karma

do you have any crazy client stories that you like to share?

Mythixz165 karma

one of my coworkers clients cave him a fleshlight thing after work we played catch with it

Jenny123456725 karma

what type of customers do you get the most ?

Mythixz56 karma

Most of the clients that come in are hostesses themselves but that's mostly because of the time we open/close

snnx2740 karma

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Mythixz31 karma

Haha same here but I guess since we both work in the same type of business they can be more comfortable around us

CookieDoughPopTart12 karma

Do you ever feel sad or guilty knowing that that's the reason they're there? When I watched 'The Great Happiness Space' I found that part of it really depressing.

Mythixz19 karma

Nope, they should know by now what a host is really after so I don't really feel guilty especially when theyre in the same type of business

snnx273 karma

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Mythixz6 karma

I would never go out with a client.Ever.

A thing about the last part of your question is that when I moved here I still had a girlfriend overseas in the U.S. I didn't want to have a long distance relationship so I told her that I would be working as a host and she didn't take it too well.

MauriceChevalierEh25 karma

Have you watched the TV series Ouran High School Host Club? And if so do you find the concept really weird or are school host clubs an actual thing? (P.s.I think the show is great but have no point of reference for host culture as I live in Australia)

Mythixz36 karma

That anime is not accurate at all with the actual host clubs, watch a few documentaries on YouTube such as the great happiness to see how it is like :)

lowspeedlowdrag17 karma

How do you feel about Americans and the military presence on the island?

Mythixz50 karma

I lived in San Diego for 13/14 years and I recently just came back to Okinawa so I don't mind it at all

alsdjkhf27 karma

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Mythixz76 karma

I'm having withdraws man, please send carne asada fries and in n out

PM_ME_UR_ASS_GIRLS2 karma

How's the base/atmosphere there? Japan is one of the places I'd like to be stationed in in the future if i can.

Mythixz2 karma

The summers are ruthless here

tom_fuckin_bombadil3 karma

I'm impressed that you managed to keep up your japanese language skills enough to be a host...especially after living in the US for 13 years

Mythixz6 karma

Yeah same here honestly but I'm just good with languages in general

LuckyCharmss16 karma

How much liquor does a host drink on a average?

Mythixz29 karma

I usually drink a few shots and champagne if my client orders one.

Slumberfunk25 karma

Have you considered working out a deal with the bartender to only serve you water and get the liqour cost in money instead?

Mythixz17 karma

There is no bartender in a host club, we the hosts make the drinks ourselves and for the clients

alexdtree14 karma

Is there such things as host clubs that employ attractive foreigners?

Mythixz19 karma

I have no idea, sorry

alexdtree5 karma

I'm guessing you've never seen a host who was a foreigner then?

Mythixz9 karma

No not yet but that'll be interesting to see!

SuperMoses8212 karma

Have you ever felt some clients were being taken advantage of? Have you seen clients put themselves in debt due to an addiction to host clubs?

Mythixz37 karma

Yes, we all make money off of out clients so the brutal truth is we are always trying to take advantage of them somehow :/

TitsOnANun12 karma

Here in korea there are similar, but far less common host clubs. More often it is a noraebang (private karaoke room) with girls (or guys in this case). Anyway, I have been told that the most rotten customers and most demeaning ones (also the ones that drop a lot of money) are the ones that are in the same business. So Noraebang girls that want to blow off some steam.

Is this the case for you?

What's the most rotten or worst customer story you can remember?

Mythixz12 karma

There are some bad clients for sure but we always put on that fake smile just to make sure they're happy.

moonprismpowermakeup11 karma

How are the hotness and drinking ability ratings on your profile determined?

Mythixz16 karma

I actually have no idea :(

uniteon10 karma

Do any of your fellow employees see this as a career? Whenever this is reported I always think if these guys are making so much money they might as well start up their own business or save up and retire young.

Mythixz25 karma

I'm going to school right now so this is only a job that'll only last for another 3 years or so for me but yes a few of my coworkers have been hosts for well over 10+ years

fuzzycuffs9 karma

How much of an alcoholic are you? I'm fully aware of how much hosts need to drink. Seems like an occupational hazard.

Mythixz20 karma

I only drink on the job to balance it out. When I'm at home I'm usually drinking tea

Thatguybehindglass8 karma

Do you think that hosting would get in the way of a relationship?

Who's your favorite LoL champ?

Mythixz33 karma

Yes that's why I don't have a SO at the moment and Kayle is my waifu

DieSchadenfreude8 karma

So, knowing you've spent at least some time in the states, I'm wondering something. Did taking on the host type style make you feel silly at first? What with the hair, way of dressing ect. As a chick I've never understood why that style is appealing (no offense meant).

Mythixz15 karma

this is going to be pretty far down so no one else will see but back in the states I was in that 'scene' phase for a while so the hairstyle change didn't affect me at all. Japanese girls like more 'cute' looking guys than muscular alpha types so it's just how the culture is around here

antankh4 karma

What are the chances of a foreigner working as a host?

Mythixz19 karma

Well I haven't seen any foreign hosts before but I have seen documentaries on YouTube where I saw a white guy working as a host

antankh2 karma

I assume he spoke fluent Japanese?

monkeyflyer4 karma

Was your hair already like that when you were scouted, or rather did you look different before joining (then had a makeover)? From internet pictures, it seems that only hosts or the real fashionable types have that type of hair style/fashion sense.

Since you have friends that are hosts and friends that are not, do you have a different persona to your host friends compared to your non-host friends? Do you ever hang out with both hosts friends and non-host friends at the same time?

Mythixz10 karma

This is what I looked like when I was scouted, they didn't force me to change my style at all but I just adapted and changed it on my own to fit the image more.

That's a really good question and no not really, after work is done I normally around everyone (hosts and non-host friends)

krsrn4 karma

Did you look like that before you went back to Japan? Sorry if that sounds rude, what i mean is, has that always been your sense of style, or did you change it just for your job? I was in Tokyo last year and I walked past lots of host clubs. I know you guys (and the girls) have a very specific style, and I found that it seemed that it was almost unique (even by Japanese standards) and so if I saw someone dressed/styled like that on the street, it'd make me think they were a host. I thought those styles were popular in the early 2000s but now seem to be almost the domain of hosts, is this correct?

Also, what made you want to do an AMA?

Mythixz5 karma

Didn't see it as rude at all :) but uhm no not really, back in the US I dressed VERY differently from how I am now and I was on /r/cringe and saw a documentary from Vice on about my job and some people asked me to do an AMA

Oh_mar4 karma

OP When will you come back to wow?? Lol

Mythixz11 karma

I've played WoW for years and I'm not going back to it ever again

SuzyYa4 karma

are you american born? do you get extra omg he's so cool points from the ladies that come in because you know english?

Mythixz10 karma

no, born in Okinawa and moved to the US when I was around 7 and yes, knowing english helps me a lot actually

eblyy3 karma

I'm guessing you're probably working now so I hope it's not too late to get my question answered haha.
But woah I didn't know Host clubs were that big of a thing. I've been to hostess bars in Taiwan, and heard that there's host bars here too but not many. I guess my question is are host bars more popular than hostess bars in Japan?

Mythixz3 karma

Oh no, kyabakuras are way more popular but host clubs are still known to everyone

skankstro3 karma

Hey I know I'm late but I'm about to be stationed there for 3 years. I hear us military likes to piss off locals, how do I NOT do that?

Mythixz2 karma

I've personally never had a problem with them

Arecam3 karma

Would you be upset if I copied your profile photo, framed it, and placed it with the rest of my family photos?

Mythixz11 karma

You woudn't daresendpics

biktaka3 karma

I am strangely enough quite jealous after watching that documentary. Whats the strangest and whats it is the best gift you got thusfar? Are you hoping on getting paid more in the future? What kind of gifts would you like in the future as host?

Mythixz12 karma

I've gotten expensive gifts before but the best one I've gotten is the McDonald's gift card haha but I'm quite content with how much I make now

gushibo2 karma

If I remember correctly, Okinawa was not always part of Japan. What are Okinawans' attitude toward mainland Japan?

Hostility against mainland Japan increased in the Ryūkyūs immediately after its annexation to Japan in part because of the systematic attempt on the part of mainland Japan to eliminate the Ryukyuan culture, including the language, religion, and cultural practices. Japan introduced public education that permitted only the use of standard Japanese while shaming students who used their own language by forcing them to wear plaques around their necks proclaiming them "dialect speakers."\

From wiki History of the Ryukyu Islands

Mythixz1 karma

Well when I was born, Okinawa was already part of Japan so I have no hostility against mainland

jessicateacher2 karma

how long does it take to get your hair done?

Mythixz5 karma

About 13 minutes but im usually just on my phone while I'm getting it done

Eze-Wong2 karma

Wow thanks for doing the AMA.

1) Have you found any tips that work particularly well on girls? Like making connections, using puppy dog eyes, acting "Alpha"? Have you had to use any pick up techniques or weird social tactics like push and pull? Or have you just been mostly authentic?

2) Is there any girls that have taken a particular liking to you? And what did you do in response?

3) Have you ever seen a customer outside a host bar? How did that go? Was it weird and did they ask anything from you?

4) What do you think makes a good host? What qualities have you learned that all guys should have to make their ladies more happy?

Mythixz9 karma

1.My personality is the 'cute' type and I just act like myself honestly so i don't know any techniques or anything like that

2.I made them order champagne, I have to take advantage of them liking me

3.I see clients all the time outside of my club, we usually just say hi make some small talk and go on about our day

4.being able to communicate well with anyone and be good looking

Strujillo2 karma

If someone asked you where they can go and pay for sex. What would be your response?

Mythixz4 karma

I'm a host not an escort

Erraahh2 karma

Can you send me some Awamori?

Mythixz6 karma

only if you send me some in n out

sn4ck52 karma

Hey that's a mega64 poster. Did you ever get a chance to meet them at comic con?

Mythixz3 karma

I got a special edition DVD signed by them a few years ago :)

Mikkabouzu-san2 karma

Do hosts have to drink?

Mythixz3 karma

nope! I got buy on just water for a while

Moal2 karma

You said that you have no SO because of this profession.

Do you still go out and casually date/see girls outside of work?

And have you or your coworkers ever thought with a client, "Dang, if she weren't a client, I'd totally want to date/do her."

Mythixz15 karma

I usually spend my free time playing LoL

131045982102 karma

  1. Do you think host clubs would be less popular if Japan was less populated?

  2. A lot of outsiders see this as very...odd. In another documentary Vice did, they described Japan as compartmentalizing human experiences, so there's a girl you pay for sex, a girl you pay to cuddle with, a girl you pay to talk to, etc. Do you agree?

  3. How is your English so good?

Mythixz9 karma

1.yes

2.yea and I don't think it's a bad thing really

  1. I lived in San Diego for 13-14 years haha

madboi201 karma

Does Ouran High School Host Club inspire you in any way? Love that series 👀

Mythixz1 karma

No that anime is no where near the reality of what a host club is in my opinion

iwantedtovote1 karma

Have you ever fallen in love with a client?

Does it bother you that a large majority of your clients are prostitutes themselves? (and by prostitutes I mean hired company, I know you don't have sex with the clients. Most girl's in that profession do though)

Mythixz1 karma

No and no, I only see this as my job but hopefully it stays that way

Lotus131 karma

  1. Do you plan on living in Japan for the rest of your life, or would you like to come back to American one day?

  2. What do you like & dislike most about Japan vs America?

  3. What are you studying?

Sorry I don't have any host questions, you already answered a lot of them.

Mythixz7 karma

  1. no, I plan on traveling the world once I have enough money saved up!

2.Japan is my home so im going to be a little biased and say people here are a lot more nicer but I miss the mexican food...a lot

3.studying to become a programmer but Java is 2hard4me

yourm2-2 karma

  1. the Japanese culture is a conservative one, even if you had sex with your client you will not reveal or tell-all.is this a near correct assumption or an inaccurate truth?

  2. why do you move to Okinawa, do u host for men or strictly opp sex ?

  3. aren't you afraid of radiation exposed?

  4. what's your daily routine / workout / food / where you shop and hang out

Mythixz32 karma

1.yes

2.I was born here so I wanted to move back and men CAN come into the club but 99.9% of the time its ladies

3.wutlol

4.wake up/school/LoL/sleep/work I'd rather play league than work out haha

Vi_Stands43 karma

how are your servers in Japan? What are your thoughts on Gnar?

Mythixz1 karma

I play on NA so my ping is around 150~ ish and I haven't played Gnar yet since I main mid/bot

_mousy-9 karma

How's your English so damn good?

Mythixz1 karma

I lived in San Diego for 14 years, basically grew up there

windg0d-9 karma

I used to live on camp lester right next to camp foster. Have they sold all the bases back to the japanese yet?

Mythixz1 karma

Nah there are still a lot of bases here

dogeraemon-21 karma

If i wanted to go to Japan to find a girlfriend how terrible of an idea is that?

Mythixz32 karma

for the sole purpose of finding a girlfriend? terrible idea.