My short bio:

Hello world, I'm your dirty girl!

I'm a 25 year old Romanian girl who started camming five months ago. I am employed at a videochat studio in Romania in semilegal conditions. I work 8h a day, 5 days a week. Sometimes I'll even be online for 16h at a time. I have an account and work on ten different websites.

Keep it polite and I'm willing to answer all your questions.

My Proof:

I sent my proof confidentially to mods because I want to keep my real identity a secret.

*edit: Wow, thanks for the gold, whoever you were!

** Thank you everyone for the questions, the support and being generally so understanding and nice. Your sheer curiosity has astonished me trully. I am very tired now and am going to sleep. I will answer all other questions when I wake up. As for those who pm'ed me without me replying, can you please send the pm again? I might have missed it in the little flood I got today. Hope you had a good time :)

*** Edit #3: I am baffled! Second day and the comments and pm's keep on pooring! I didn't expect this topic to have such interest. Some of you told me it even reached the front page and that is utterly impressive and I want to thank everyone again for being so welcoming and taking a true interest in what I do. I appreciate all of your pm's as well and since a lot of you would like to keep up with me, I figured I might as well start a blog and post there. If you want, here it is: - as a general notice, I'm not good with blogs, so I'm not sure how to add a comments section to tumblr or how to make a proper layout for it.

****EDIT 4: It has been 1 year today since this IaMA and I wanted everyone to know I left the camming industry as it started feeling like I was enabling people with real issues (porn addiction, anxiety, agoraphobia etc) and that I cannot handle doing that.

Thanks again for everything!

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johnny_ringo1491 karma

I am having trouble understanding this AMA. You have 2 degrees, are well read, speak better English than 99% of people on this site, have a cracking sense of humor and a good perspective on yourself and career. You love anal and arrested development.

I fear there is a team of PR monkeys with a brilliant sense of what reddit likes and is doling it out in spades. Too good to be true, for sure?

Edit: and you make sandwiches and have a cat. I believe this is reddit becoming sentient.

MonikaWithaK1253 karma

I lost it at You love anal and arrested development

One of my degrees is in Communication if that answers your question. But the truth is I spend a lot of time online. I don't have a lot of friends and very few get me for me. I seek comfort on the internet and lurk around Reddit and Imgur.

cliclia1285 karma

This is probably a stupid question but what do you do when you're on your period?

MonikaWithaK86 karma

stick a tampon up in there and not show string. Don't do vag stuff. No go into work and do a double shift later to compensate.

rhymingisfun1267 karma

Have you ever developed feelings for a customer? Or had a relationship or anything like that?

MonikaWithaK2598 karma

Yeah, I trully fell for the guy I was discussing geopolitcs with. We had this really flirty smart talk with a lot o sexual tension. 100 minutes of bliss.

If you're reading this, come back to me.

zapt01623 karma

this needs to happen, and be converted into a movie adaptation. kind of like a modern Pretty Woman.

MonikaWithaK2601 karma

Can Emma Watson play me?

JackassWhisperer1087 karma

  • What's the most common thing you are asked to do?
  • What is the most outrageous thing that you have been asked to do?
  • How much money do you make from doing this line of work?

MonikaWithaK1704 karma

  • Anal (which I do and enjoy). That I don't do: pee

  • There's a lot to say here.

  • I've been asked to watch someone eat his own feces. (refused)

  • Asked to watch someone cut his dick off. (refused)

  • Asked to do a handjob on my glasses, then suck & gag on them. (started doing it, laughed mid session and the guy left)

  • Asked to take out my dildo after doing anal, sniff it and describe the small as being horrible. (did it, but faked the smell thing)

  • I make around $1300 per month, which is great considering I'm a beginner. More experienced models make around $5000 per month. I made $1000 my first month and that is huge. 99% of girls (even experienced ones) don't make more than $300 their first month.

Keep in mind that I make double that, but the studio keeps 50% of my pay to insure training, model support, tech support, lighting & cam equipment, very fast internet connection, and even the lighting bill lol.

iloveartichokes1470 karma

you're getting ripped off. you can make way more money doing it on your own.

MonikaWithaK799 karma

I am not experienced enough yet to make more money on my own.

ForeverAloneAlone716 karma

She's in Romania. I'm sure that's a decent living over there.

heywaymayday868 karma

According to the Economy of Romania Wikipedia page. The average Romanian gross monthly salary is $680 USD. Take that into account that 22% of the population is below the poverty line, and I would say this girl is doing pretty well.

_BreakingGood_397 karma

Take my life savings and move to romania, never need to work again.

ithinkimtim689 karma

Yeah but then you have to live in Romania.

EpikYummeh184 karma

But they have really fast internet! What more could you want?

KillAllTheThings387 karma

A little less Dracula.

MonikaWithaK61 karma

a little more action

4runnerlyfe-33 karma

only $1300 a month? that's really sad

MonikaWithaK44 karma

Um, most people in Romania don't make more than $350 a month and that's considered a good salary. I'm actually above 70% of my conationals with that amount.

Also, there's a lot of girls who don't make more than $400 a month doing this job.

whativebeenhiding874 karma

What if you have to poop? Or eat a sand which? Or scratch your head? Is there a pause button?

MonikaWithaK1150 karma

Yeah, you can pause at will. We are allowed 45 cumulated minutes of break time per shift (8h shift).

orgyofdolphins867 karma


MonikaWithaK2130 karma

I was worried about that at first, but a few days ago I was really horny and off the job and I don't have a boyfriend, not a fuck buddy atm so I masturbated to some lesbian porn with Sasha Grey.

thatotherguy9863 karma


redpandafury91 karma

Not OP but in a position to be able to answer. We have quite a few good dishes, depending on the region, but the most popular are likely mamaliga (corn meal) and sarmale (ground beef wrapped in vine leaves). As for backpacking, I wholeheartedly recommend Transylvania, as it is breathtakingly beautiful. Some larger cities to consider are Brasov, Sibiu, Sighisoara and Cluj, but if you fancy a hike in the mountains or skiing, you can go to resorts such as Sinaia, Predeal or Busteni. Another recommendation is a pligrimage of the monasteries in Moldova, even if you are not religious. The landscapes are truly incredible, and the architecture is not bad either.

MonikaWithaK41 karma

thanks for answering

MonikaWithaK53 karma

I like salata de vinete.

I don't hike. can't help you with that one. But I like our mountains.

usualsuspect02722 karma

Besides just stimulating yourself have you ever been legitimately turned on by someone you were talking with?

MonikaWithaK1212 karma

Yes! A lot of times.

The first step is to show me respect and pay for the time and attention I am offering you. That just makes me pay a lot of attention to you and I will be genuinely interested. Not because you possess the cash I so desperately desire, but because I'm sick and tired of freeloaders so I will just ignore them. This is my job first and foremost.

Secondly, yes I have been so turned on by a fellow at one point that I would look at his profile pic while masturbating for others.

proud_to_be_a_merkin1110 karma

As a broke, chaturbate freeloader: I'm sorry.

MonikaWithaK897 karma

as long as you're nice, respectful, and contribute to conversation, you're welcome. I un-muted the greys today and didn't regret it.

papadoc03722 karma

How often do guys try to ask you out while you're working? Like, try to make you their girlfriend instead of their camgirl?

MonikaWithaK2272 karma

All the French guys, all the arab guys, some americans.

Guys who don't even tip or buy private time ask me to marry them. Honestly, I get asked to marry someone at least five times shift.

And I know there's girls who take advantages of men's feelings and promise to marry them in exchange for money, but I want to stay away from that. I don't want to toy with anyone's feelings. I only toy with my private parts.

hedgehogsinhats711 karma

What does "semilegal" refer to?

MonikaWithaK1024 karma

In my legal contract, I am employed as a "computer operator" (like telemarketers) and my salary is supposedly fixed to minimum wage (730 RON = ~ $220) + sales commision.

I only get what I earned, meaning if I haven't made any money on the websites, I don't get minimum wage. "Sales commision" is rather fictional, never the exact ammount I make.

hodown94705 karma

What's something you're not willing to do on camera?

MonikaWithaK1369 karma

Loaaaads of stuff. Here's my list of stuff I was asked to do on cam and refused:

  • pee / drink pee

  • poo / eat poo

  • vomit / eat vomit

  • insert a hairbrush into my anus

  • insert a bottle into my vag

  • insert show heel into my vag

  • stuff panties into my vag

  • masturbate with food (cucumbers, carrots, bananas)

  • watch someone cut his dick off

  • watch someone try to kill himself

  • cut my boobs

  • cut my vag

  • just cut any part of my body for that matter

  • racial play saying the n word

  • sissy play calling someone a "fag"

  • nothing with animals

  • incest role play

  • play with period blood.

  • suck on an used tampon

nothing else comes to mind

**edited to space out list

just_redditing237 karma

That's a lot of crazy as shit to deal with. Is this job worth it? Is there anything else you'd rather do instead?

MonikaWithaK655 karma

Yeah, I'd rather cook all day long which of course has nothing to do with my majors or my BAs.

I enjoy my job. I'd enjoy it even more if I wouldn't read "bb open boobs", "spread asshole" all day long and if 95% of people on those websites wouldn't act like I owe them anything.

WookieJuggler741 karma


MonikaWithaK2069 karma

that line gets me so wet. you have no idea. brb I need to grab a mop.

just_redditing270 karma

How about a naked cooking show?

MonikaWithaK511 karma

That's planned. But for later on. I might do a phot shoot with naughty cooking or something.

thefunkman10195 karma

I... I never knew... People would enjoy cutting their own dick off...

"Hey baby you're turning me on, want to watch me cut my sausage off for your pleasure?"

MonikaWithaK186 karma

Do you enjoy eating your own poo?

wing03156 karma

"play with period blood."

Curious... so 8h days, 5 days a week.

When the menstrual cycle comes to that point, do cam girls get days off?

MonikaWithaK211 karma

stick a tampon up her cooch and not show string.

fullmarksdemello-8 karma

Panty stuffing and phallic food play are pretty mainstream; what's your aversion?

MonikaWithaK10 karma

I don't think it's safe. That's all.

Digitaldude555524 karma

What was your first day on the job like?

MonikaWithaK1154 karma


The trainer was this really quiet chick that they have since fired and replaced. She taught me... nothing.

Oh wait! She taught me how to fake masturbate. Which came in handy for all the 3 minute privates I got... and still get very often. I'm not going to dildo my vag 20 times a day for 2 min. No sir. I'd rather fake it. If you're a gentleman and stick around for at least 15 min before the dildo goes in, then it's going to be real. Otherwise, I can't be wet 24/7. Girls don't work like that.

Nuggets_are_alive239 karma

How do you fake masturbate?

MonikaWithaK1406 karma

The dildo is parelel to your hand and covered by your arm. If you just move your arm... ok wait. Can I make a gif of this?

poopsliquid371 karma

please bb open boobs

MonikaWithaK619 karma

k bb just wait

Japock184 karma

r u ok

MonikaWithaK923 karma

Annie, are you OK,? Are you OK, Annie? (Annie, are you OK?) (will you tell us that you're OK)

destinybond119 karma

What do you mean when you say you fake it?

MonikaWithaK444 karma

Dildo's not going in, it just looks like it does. Baffled? So was I.

If the guy is there for just 3 min, he's not interested in actually seeing it go in, he just wants to see something that looks like it is. Honestly, how can you expect a girl to be ready to put a dildo in her vag in less than 3 min. That's why I have a personal rule of mot getting naked in the first 3 minutes. It takes me longer to put my bra, panties and shirt back on.

beer_demon460 karma

I noticed on there are many Romanian girls, are they also sexcam studio employees getting 50% of the payments (which are already 50% of what they website gets)?
Are you on that site?
Are some of them just working from home independently?
What stops you from resigning and using your own account to get twice S much?

MonikaWithaK904 karma

Oh honey, Romanians are the queens of camming. We have very fast internet here. There's about 2000 studios in Romania and who knows how many indy models.

I for one don't even say I'm from Romania.

  1. I am not allowed per studio contract with the website to disclose my exact location.

  2. I don't want some demented fellow to fly to Romania and give me trouble. And there's a lot of lunatics on these websites. I'm not saying everyone is, but you never know who's going to stalk you.

Yeah, CB is my favorite so far. Let me break it down like this:

You pay $10.99 for 100 tokens.

For an independent model, 100 tokens = $5

For me, 100 tokens = $2.5 (each studio has different commision, most is 50%).

Yeah, I'd make twice as much, but wouldn't have tech and model support 24/7. I would have to pay a very big bill for very fast internet and I would have to invest in some state of the art computer and cams + lighting.

miscology456 karma

What is a videochat studio actually like? Is it like a real studio, or just some rented rooms in an apartment?

MonikaWithaK760 karma

It depends. Some are rented apartments, some are rented houses.

The studio I work in is a rented house with about 15 rooms, all designed for this line of work. It's mostly IKEA furniture and bright colors on the walls. (IKEA is medium to expensive in Romania).

watchyourface444 karma

What happens when your family finds out?

MonikaWithaK922 karma

They would be very upset. Dad would have a stroke, stuff like that.

My family is very conservative and although I am not ashamed of what I do, they would be. They still nag me about not finishing a certain college they wanted me to finish. I have two BAs in other subjects, the first BA I got on a scholarship.

ostermei2297 karma

Dad would have a stroke

There's a joke in there somewhere, but I don't know that I'm entirely comfortable making it.

gwr215668 karma

im sure theres plenty of dads that would have a stroke.

MonikaWithaK2996 karma

yeah I am one of the leading causes of strokes in men.

fullmarksdemello-112 karma

She can barely speak English, wordplay's a little pointless.

edit: gaiz. gaiz this account is new and there's this "wait 9 minutes" thing for comments if I get downvoted.

So do me a favour and downvote, but don't also leave a comment? Because I can't reply, and that's just inconsiderate. It's practically bullying. Are you lot? A bunch of bullies? C'mon. You were bullied in school, remember? And now the camwhore is here and you're all so fucking excited but chill. Everybody just chill.

MonikaWithaK48 karma

What makes you think I barely speak English, oh snobby one?

fullmarksdemello-151 karma

Child I couldn't care less if you can speak English or not. You have your webcam and you have your little AMA and you're here clamouring for my attention? Why?

I mean I know that being a compulsive attentionwhore is in your job description and the fabric of your very being, but do your everliving best to not speak to me again. Ok?

Unless I ask you a direct question (which will contain no big words, don't worry), please don't try to engage me again. Don't let me refresh and get all happy to receive new mail, only to find out it's you on the other end.

edit: "my family is very conservatory" hahahaha and then and then you come into my inbox saying "what is wrong with my English?!" like it's my fault you're Romanian and holy shit, son, you know that old saying? "You never make fun of someone who speaks broken English because it means they speak a language you don't"? That doesn't apply when the dumb fuck villager whore actually asks you what's wrong with her English. Then you're allowed to point and laugh, because that villager whore is an asshole.


MonikaWithaK37 karma

Wow, just don't post if you don't agree with my ways. No one is forcing you to be in my world or to agree with my views. If yours are different, that doesn't mean we all have to agree and go by your lifestyle. I don't think I was rude to you.

GentlemanJoe36 karma

Your English is excellent, but I think you meant 'my family is very conservative'. A conservatory is something different

MonikaWithaK88 karma

I'm sorry, I mean conservative. I'll blame it on my lack of sleep, take it or leave it.

Thanks for pointing that out.

WeaselSlayer383 karma

Ever put a shoe on your head?

MonikaWithaK256 karma

Not yet.

rudeboyskunk329 karma

What kind of things do you like to do when you're not camming?

MonikaWithaK1074 karma

Watch other cam girls.

Haha, I do watch other cam girls from time to time.

I read books (I like quality SciFi like Frank Herbert, Strugatski brothers, Asimov, but also fiction, philosophy, psychology... I like Sartre, Camus, Nietzsche.... I like to read about religion - have you read Mircea Eliade? he's fantastic). I like cook books and culinary books too, also books dealing with nutrition and the chemical nature of food.

I like to watch TV series, mostly comedies (Community, Modern Family, I liked Arrested Development a lot). I will watch dramas from time to time. I like movies, but Hollywood very seldom. Almodovar, Jarmusch, Greenaway, Jodorowsky, European movies... the likes.

I like to walk around Bucharest and sit in parks just noticing people or reading a book.

I go out with my friends to concerts, parties, even the theatre sometime, but I'm not a big fan of feels a little fake.

I play with my cat and I love her very much. I like to spoil her with treats and expensive sand. And I can afford to now!

I spend a lot of time online even off cam. I'm a very social person, I just have very few close friends and I can't nag them to go out all the time. Most of my friends have moved to other countries anyway.

Ph4ndaal656 karma

After you wrote this, did you hear about ten thousand redditors sigh with quiet longing?

MonikaWithaK596 karma

Yeah, weird this this telepathy.

2_old_2B_clever114 karma

Woo-Hoo Herbert and Sartre, you're my kind of naked girl!

MonikaWithaK333 karma

I also do erotic reading to books that aren't erotic literature. I read a chapter of a Nobel prize winning books while masturbating yesterday. (please don't shout my name out loud if you saw me)

xcv530267 karma

What are your plans for later? Family plans, or plans for when you are too old to do camstuff etc?

MonikaWithaK1104 karma

I plan on making a sandwich later. Dark bread with seeds, lettuce, ham, cheese, cucumbers. You should try it. Or maybe White bread, baby spinach, olives, tuna, leek. You can try this one too, it's delicious.

All jokes aside, there's no such thing as too old for cam. There's fetishes and there's prefferences. GILFs and such. The oldest woman who works in the studio is 48 or 49.

I don't plan on camming until I'm 50 though. I want to have a stable relationship at some point but that's regardless of my camming. With or without kids, I'm ok - I've given long thought to this.

My biggest dream is traveling the world and teaching people who live in poverty how to cook nutritious meals on a very low budget.

xcv530595 karma

"My biggest dream is traveling the world and teaching people who live in poverty how to cook nutritious meals on a very low budget"

That's a nice dream. I hope you'll be able to fulfill it.

I will try your suggested sandwiches tomorrow ;).

MonikaWithaK407 karma


Tell me what you think about the sandwiches.

Mister_Dane_Joe15 karma

Damn. Dark bread with seeds, lettuce, ham, cheese and cucumbers sounds amazing

MonikaWithaK47 karma

Use turkey ham and goats yellow cheese if you can. Best combo.

kriskringle19250 karma

I know all girls are different in "what makes them tick," but do you have any tips for my girlfriend? She is desperate for ideas on how to climax from vaginal stimulation, it seems like she's tried everything!

MonikaWithaK568 karma

Not all girls climax from vaginal stimulation. Actually most girls don't (wish I had a source for this, but I googled and can't remember where I read this).

I don't climax from vaginal stimulation, but I've recently discovered anal + clit stimulation to be very very climactic. If she hasn't done anal yet, don't just force yourself into her, it's going to hurt like hell and you might even bruise her. Look for some anal training vids.

kriskringle19187 karma

We've done anal twice, she seemed to really enjoy it!

MonikaWithaK339 karma

My personal favorite is lying on my belly with a pillow under my ass. You get better penetration and the way to her clit is free for your hand :)

joeroganfools230 karma

Are you recruited by someone at a job fair or is it like taken where they kidnap and drug you?

MonikaWithaK643 karma

They kidnapped and drugged me. I am still under the effect of the drug as I am doing this AMA.

Neah, I chose to do it. First out of poverty, secondly because I started to really enjoy experimenting with my sexuality. (I figured out anal can actually make me cum if done properly - also, I learned to do anal very well)

Violated_Pee_Holes224 karma


MonikaWithaK150 karma

yeah they do, but we call it a salad and it's gross.

burgeoning_philosoph190 karma

Where/how did you learn to speak English so well?

MonikaWithaK1099 karma

Cartoon Network... then I got a BA in English Linguistics.

trznx67 karma

Made me smile. As a Ukrainian, this is so true.

MonikaWithaK109 karma

Eastern Block, cummies

Divolinon181 karma

What was your most positive experience while on cam?

MonikaWithaK405 karma


I met this historian with whom I talked about Ukrain and geopolitics for about 100 minutes. He never came back to see me though :(

This one time on Chaturbate, people were super nice and chatty and tipping me and I made 5000 tokens in 3h and had a super time chatting, stripping and all. I like tip based sites more than being taken private. I'm very social and I can talk about a lot of stuff. Just throw me a subject and we can have fun with it.

speedy621169 karma

How do you feel about Taco Bell?

MonikaWithaK448 karma

We don't have Taco Bell in Romania and I've never been to a country that has Taco Bell.

I like Tacos though. Does that count?

Vladith167 karma

How hard is it to be "in the business" without friends and family finding out?

Are women ever pressured or coerced into doing cam work?

MonikaWithaK255 karma

My friends know what I do. I'm not ashamed of it.

I just wish my mom were more open minded and I could tell her as well. That is the hardest part for me. I don't have a close or open relationship with my parents, but I've been working on making it better over the years so it bothers me that I can't be open about my job with my parents.

Thunderfire123 karma


MonikaWithaK269 karma

Nope. The studio I work for is like one big familiy. The owner's sister works there, also her cousins and such. And they're all super nice.

I answered the money question twice before. I make around $1300 per month.

JustaregularGAguy119 karma

Is this your first foray into sex work? If not, what other things have you done, or would you consider? Do you feel you're being exploited in any way?

MonikaWithaK334 karma

Yes, it is my very first job as a sex worker.

I've considered and still consider shooting porn. I've considered escorting but it's not for me. I'm still considering opening a dungeon and being a bad ass mistress. As a note, I do mistress stuff on cam as well.

I don't feel exploited. I am at liberty to refuse anything I'm not comfortable with. In this respect, I lucked out. There are studios that don't let girls have breaks or don't let them refuse customers. The one I work for is more progressive, I guess. I actually feel really well there.

wiiboy999109 karma

About how much do you make from all 10 websites in total? Also, how does your 'sales commision' compare to that total?

MonikaWithaK183 karma

I have 5 websites which I am on almost all the time. The other 10 are more like filling if there isn't traffic on my main 5 websites. Each girl has different websites she does best on.

I get 50% of what I make.

Detroiteanca96 karma

Did you find this job through classified ads like the matrimoniale section of a paper? Do you know people other than coworkers in the webcam industry?

MonikaWithaK192 karma

Nope, but I wish all the guys asking me to marry them on these websites would hit (matrimoniale) instead of sex cams.

I found the job through google. I purposely looked for it and I checked out the studio on RECOM and stuff like that. I'm pretty good at being nosey.

I recently found out a long time friend of mine also does this periodically.

mtzronald69 karma

Do you think you'll keep doing this for a long time or will you move on to something else?

MonikaWithaK190 karma

I want to do this another few years then move to porn. I'm really set on getting a career in the adult field.

And after porn, I wanna travel the world cooking. Then I want to do this again for a while to raise money for a trip to space. Ok, I'm dreaming. Yeah, I wanna do this for at least 2-3 years if not more.

wildmetacirclejerk27 karma

hi there i'm a frequenter of camsites and noticed quite a bit that the romanian chatrooms seem to be on at all hours of the day.

2.5 Question(s):

1) how can we generally cheer you up on an offday? [besides tokens which are a given] are their any polite romanian phrases that would bring a genuine smile to romanian girls faces? i know its hard work but there's no reason it can't be fun and pleasant at times.

2) have you or any of the girls you known, ever fallen for someone that you've met despite having known each other from camsites?

i'm pretty sure the answer is no, but i remember a few cases of ukranian and spanish girls that did in fact meet and marry the man of their dreams after a few years of camming. and No it wasn't a whole gold digging bride thing

2.5) Or is it in general woman operators keep as closed off as possible because its work and they don't want to attract weirdos?

MonikaWithaK44 karma

Hello first person to use a greeting on here,

  1. Please don't use Romanian in a cam girl's room. Most often than not, we are not allowed to disclose our real location or to speak Romanian. When I see Romanian on any of my websites, I just want to close the whole thing down.

A good way to cheer a girl up is obviously to tip her and to show true interest in her. Ask her stuff, get her to talk. We really like to talk. I get a lot of people calling my beautiful and no one who will actually have a conversation.

  1. Yes, I know a girl who had a very rich businessman visit her room and spend an obscene amount of money on her. The guy had more to lose than she had so she agreed to meet him. They're married at the moment.

2.5. It depends really. You can't stop feelings developing. I take it very professionally, but I might develop feelings, you never know.

HireMeThroughAMA22 karma

I think I'd be a great Cam Boy. Are any of those sites hiring? Is there a minimum penis size I would need to qualify?

MonikaWithaK35 karma

Hahaha, there's no minimum requirement. There's preferences and fetishes.

You can check out the male section of Chaturbate and see for yourself if you think you can do that. If you ask me, on tip based sites, at first you have to do a lot of free shows to create a fan base then be very engaging.

drag0s17 karma

Cati ani crezi ca o sa mai lucrezi la slujba asta?

Pari fata desteapta. Te-ai gandit sa iti deschizi firma ta proprie in loc sa platesti altora comision?

MonikaWithaK66 karma

I'm not sure you can ask questions in Romanian. I'll just answer bilingually.

Probabil vreo 2-3, hai patru ani maxim. M-am gândit să fac independent, nu vreau să-mi deschid firmă. Încă nu cred că sunt la nivelul la care pot face independent, încă mai ma multe de învățat și am nevoie de sprijin (atât de la trainer, cât și tehnic).

I'll probably be doing this for another 2, 3 maybe 4 years tops. I've considered going independent, but not making my own studio. I don't think I am yet at that level where I can do this independently, I have a lot to leanr and I need support (both from the trainer and tech support).

Omar6711 karma

What made you want to go into this kind of work?

MonikaWithaK61 karma

Oh, just the need to get verbally abused day in, day out. j/k

I got the job because I was in desperate need of money. But that's not the main reason. I'm not against sex work. I applaud it. I don't find anything shameful in what I do and it's a great opportunity to get to know my body sexually even better.

I've experimented with my body much more on cam than I have in real life. I honestly know what makes me tick and what gets me aroused or to cum much better than I did after about 20 or 30 sexual partners.

Divolinon8 karma

So, you have an account on these websites. Ever just went to check out the other girls?

MonikaWithaK34 karma

All the freaking time, obviously. There's always room for better and checking out the girls who are better than you helps you learn and grow.

Tributarian7 karma

Do you think this is a good line of work? Are there women in similar lines of work that are taken advantage of?

MonikaWithaK30 karma

A lot of camgirls are being takes advantage of too. There's studios that won't let girls take breaks or say "no" to any request. There's studios who force girls to dildo their parts the whole time. There's studios where the owner will try to rape you. As for similar lines of work, yeah, can we legalise prostitution and escorting already? Those girls get the most abuse.

I was lucky enough to find a very decent studio.

ptitguillaume4 karma

Most of the questions I had have been answered.

I feel a little bit concerned that you want to move to porn video later. I'm maybe wrong but I guess only a few end their carreer and are happy with it and I don't speak about being recognized in the street or your family learning the hard way how you earn your money. But I guess, you know what your doing and your are much more involved in the sex indsutry than I am. You also seem really down to earth and all grown up, nevermind, forget it.

So, I have found a question : Have you regular 'customers' (/viewers) ? and for those who are considered 'regular', how often do they 'visit' you virtually ?

MonikaWithaK6 karma

It depends what you consider regulars.

I have repeat customers/viewers, but I wouldn't call them regulars. They spend about 40-70 min with me each time they come, but it's like once a month.

Yeah, I don't feel the sex industry is something I should shy away from. I'm very comfortable with my sexuality and my self esteem is not bad. I am choosing to do this because I want to experiment and to gain money.

deteugma3 karma

How poor are the working conditions? How are the girls treated? How much of your pay do they take? And how many women are completely desperate and exploited? And do you how how the conditions are your studio compare to others in terms of pay or treatment of models?

Edit: When I hear an Eastern European accent on those sites, I assume the woman is being exploited. But based one what you're saying, it sounds like these studios aren't necessarily subjecting the models to slave conditions. So, to restate my question, I guess I'm just asking about working conditions.

MonikaWithaK6 karma

The conditions at my studio are amazing. We have separate rooms, great internet connection, real good support (amazing coworkers and bosses, honestly). The girls are treated like they would be for any non-adult job.

But rest assured this the 1% of studios. Very few actually work like this.

The studio taked 50% of our pay.

I don't know the statistics on desperate, exploited women. I know for sure it doesn't happen where I am at. Maybe that's why I am very comfortable doing this AMA. The studio doesn't know I am doing it.

Da_Dude_Abides2 karma

Why would you work for a studio rather than work for yourself? How much do you make?

MonikaWithaK3 karma

I've answered these questions. Please check above :)

Iamdingdongmaster2 karma

What made you get into this sort of work?

How long are you likely to continue for?

MonikaWithaK3 karma

answered this above :)

shit_never_works2 karma

Have you ever considered going independent?

MonikaWithaK3 karma

Yes, many times. I still have a lot to learn and the studio trainers + models with mroe experience really help with that.

There's also a matter of not being able to open another accounts with my ID on certain websites.

baaimagoat2 karma

What made you start out in a studio instead of just broadcasting on your own from home? I would never do that, it seems too big of an obligation. To me it's a pretty big commitment, you're brave to do this :)

MonikaWithaK9 karma

I just though I might need help doing it and I was right. I wouldn't have figured out a lot of stuff if I were just doing it from home.

For example, you get a lot of freeloaders and abuse that you should just ignore and use the ban button at will (on websites that have a ban button, most don't). There's a lot of slut shaming. There's slaves. OMG ARE THERE SLAVES. I can now figure out someone's fantasies or desires from 3 questions:

  • "what do you work as?" (if in exec/manager position, wants a mistress. the higher the position, the more humiliation and pain he wants)

  • "are you married?" (if yes, wants anal. if separated/divorce, wants attention and understanding)

  • "where are you from?! (if from france, generally wants marriage)

a_sense_of_contrast2 karma

  • You mention that you have prior education (BAs), how do you feel about your education in light of ending up in this field?
  • Before starting this line of work, what were your ambitions, through your studies, for your profession?
  • If you were not doing this line of work, what would your income be in the profession(s) relative to the things you studied at school?


MonikaWithaK6 karma

  • I don't see why you can't be educated and pursue the adult industry. Courtesans were sex workers with an education if you think about it. Boy, was I fascinated by courtesans when I was younger. I don't think my BAs were in vain. I worked in both fields of my BAs and wasn't satisfied with it. It just wasn't for me. I figured out very late what I wanted to do with my life and I don't have the money to pursue that career yet. Camming helps me save up for that and it also helps me explore my sexuality. I am in no way ashamed of what I do.

  • I haven't lost my dreams. This is just helping me fund my dreams. I talked about my biggest dream earlier.

  • For my first BA, it would be around $300 a month. For my second BA, field in which I have worked, it would be around $500 a month.

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MonikaWithaK8 karma

You don't. I find you.

Um, I really don't want to post anything that would show my face or stuff like that on here. I don't want to get recognized and beaten on the street for slut shaming.

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MonikaWithaK9 karma

How do I know you won't make my info public?

vrgr231 karma

What exactly do you mean by "semilegal"?

MonikaWithaK2 karma

I answered this earlier.

I-am-a-girl-1 karma

She means illegal.

MonikaWithaK3 karma

It's half legal :P

InTupacWeTrust-4 karma

Have you told your parents you do what prostitutes basically do and How beautiful is Romania?

MonikaWithaK4 karma

I feel a bit of resentment.

I haven't told my parents yet because they are very traditional and conservatory. They wouldn't understand and I would like to keep on speaking to my parents for the moment.

Romania is gorgeous. Aside from all the corruption. Have you heard of Rosia Montana?