My short bio: Was diagnosed with colon cancer in August. Currently undergoing CAPOX chemo treatment. 4 3-week cycles.

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P_V_404 karma

How old are you?

I was diagnosed with colon cancer in May of 2019, and am (only) in my late 30s. I've seen some data suggesting that occurrence in younger people is on the rise, and I would encourage anyone with troubling symptoms (in particular the bloody stool you've mentioned) to treat that seriously and get it checked out.

jerval1981467 karma

39 and I was diagnosed with colon cancer on September 15th. Today is my first chemo treatment

BluePinky200 karma

Good luck man. Hit me up if you want to talk or have questions.

BluePinky131 karma

Low 40s.

atomicscrap22 karma

Diet related?

BluePinky5 karma

Hard to know.

MUMBAI_MAN397 karma

What were your symptoms/ when did u know you had cancer? Good lucky anyway

BluePinky461 karma

Bloody stool. Went for a colonoscopy (once they started allowing elective procedures) and here we are.

100LittleButterflies218 karma

Ummmm... How is a colonoscopy elective? I mean if you're into that, sure. But this seems like an important diagnostic.

BluePinky73 karma

I had the same question.

beastlyabs18 karma

Wanted to follow up on this question. Were you experiencing these symptoms constantly?

478900447 karma

Going to go with "often" other than constantly. I have a friend who went through this and sometimes he had (mild) pain & blood but associated with constipation until the amount of blood got startling. He said at one point he looked down and the entire bowl of water was red. He ended up surviving but they had to remove a fairly large section of his colon.

BluePinky29 karma

Pretty much.

Not_KGB16 karma

How bad were the symptoms?

BluePinky69 karma

Anywhere from zero to Nightmare on Elm Street.

sgtabn173140 karma

I hope all is well after your diagnosis! I know it must be a very hard thing to deal with, especially with everything else going on in the world atm. Colon cancer seems to be rising among the younger population. In the interest of spreading awareness, what were your first symptoms?

BluePinky82 karma

Bloody stool.

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bathroomheater138 karma

Fellow cancer person here, have you found that one food that doesn’t taste awful yet? Also just a suggestion but drink lots of water to help your kidneys out. They are taking a beating right now.

BluePinky138 karma

I am drinking a lot. I have zero appetite to eat anything to be quite honest. They keep telling me I need to keep my protein intake up, but I have not been doing great with that.

Wafe_Enterprises144 karma

Testicular cancer survivor here. Went through chemo last year, idk where you live or your circumstances, but I would seriously consider some marijuana (indica based) edibles. Was a huge game changer for my experience, nausea and appetite issues would have been 10x worse without it.

BluePinky90 karma

Yeah, a friend keeps telling me to try it. The nausea is pretty bad but the pills they gave me kinda help.

bathroomheater33 karma

I smashed those chocolate boost protein drinks they are an excellent meal replacement when you don’t have an appetite. I also found a lot of tomato based foods were tolerable

BluePinky41 karma

OMG those shakes are horrible. Taste like chocolate chalk.

azglr96115 karma

How is cancer treatment going in relation to covid? Wishing you a speedy recovery!

BluePinky172 karma

It's not something I would do for fun. As far as relation to covid, my wife cannot come with for my infusions. Other than that, not much.

Betabutter74 karma

I’m so sorry about what you’re going through, I hope your chemo goes well! How old are you?

BluePinky54 karma

I'm in my low 40s.

478900434 karma

Going to assume it was the first colonoscopy that you had? They need to start pushing to start those much younger. =/

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Funderpants66 karma

So first good luck! I had the same symptoms as you and survived stage 3 colon cancer. So . Just curious. What stage are you? and what is your favorite comfort food on the really lousy days?

Mine was pizza and ginger chews.

BluePinky75 karma

Early stage 3.
Spaghetti and meatballs all day.

HerpesMcGerpes66 karma

How are you doing mentally/emotionally? What are you doing to cope with the stress?

BluePinky192 karma

To be quite honest, I am doing just fine on that front. Being nervous and stressed out about something you cannot control never helped anyone.

lovinglogs54 karma

Are they optimistic on your recovery?

I start a new job in a month as an IV lab technician who compounds the chemotherapy IVs at our cancer center.

BluePinky74 karma

Yes, they are. Good luck on your career, that sounds rewarding.

elhnada49 karma

What is (in your opinion and for your situation) the best way possible for a friend to support you? Talking about it or making you think about something else?

BluePinky75 karma

Just act as you would normally do. It's not contagious.

wastingtoomuchthyme49 karma

Do you have good health insurance?

BluePinky65 karma

Yes, thankfully.

ijustwantadoughnut58 karma

I'm an oncology pharmacist. Just about everyday I lament the state of healthcare in the USA. Fortunately, my clinic has a huge financial assistance department that can arrange for free drug, radiation, copay assistance, etc, but its not enough. One patient who was in the country illegally was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer. We were able to get her free drug and treatment, but it delayed her care by a week. Another patient has no insurance and is delaying her radiation appointment to identify a treatment plan because she doesn't want more charity care. Radiation will probably cost $200k. Shes receiving free drug that costs $36k cash per month. That cost isn't even unusual for an oral chemo regimen. Another patient on a $38k/mo drug ended up paying $1000 copay each month because he didn't qualify for assistance. He was very well off, and the cost didn't seem to bother him, but I don't think anyone should have to pay that for a life saving medication. Another patient wants to join a clinical trial, but insurance won't pay for something experimental. The back of the napkin estimate for treatment is $350k, and it will take 17 days total. There's a lot of issues with the cost of cancer care.

BluePinky42 karma

Interesting. I paid out of pocket for my first three days of oral chemo because it was taking insurance too long to approve. The price was over $1000 through the hospital pharmacy. When I went to my local pharmacy and asked them, it was approximately $60.

wastingtoomuchthyme35 karma

$1000 vs $60?

What the hell?

BluePinky38 karma

I know, right? I stopped trying to make sense of it.

Jupaack38 karma

When are you gonna create a post about the day you beat cancer?

BluePinky69 karma

Let me check my calendar.

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BluePinky61 karma

I wouldn't say it's showing who really is a friend because people deal with things differently. Some people are unsure how to deal with it and decide to not deal with it at all. It's not about how much of a friend they are, it's just that people deal with thing differently.

cashewthegay26 karma

Have you decided to sell meth yet? Or is that a later stage of cancer?

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ziggystarfist19 karma

Shitty. What a punch in the jejunum. How far into the cycle are you? Just beginning? Close to the end? Do you have access medical/legal marijuana or cbd?

BluePinky15 karma

About halfway through. I'm sure I can get if I need.

yashsonawane02319 karma

How are you right now?

BluePinky26 karma

Today I feel okay so far.

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HillaryBinLaden15 karma

Does your cancer cause severe pain? If so, is it being managed properly with opioids? Due to the heroin epidemic chronic pain patients have suffered immensley from medication reductions and out-right removal due to doctors fearful of the DEA. Cancer patients, once considered deserving of pain management have even started to be denied pain treatment when they began to crack down even harder about 2 years ago and manufacturing limits were set rationing opioids. I'm wondering if you've encountered difficulty getting or filling prescriptions.

Best wishes I hope the treatment is effective for you.

BluePinky22 karma

I am not in pain.

brokecollegekid6915 karma

how ru feeling? R-CHOP alum from 2018-2019. Is there an end date for you or ru going to be on this long term?

BluePinky16 karma

4 21-day cycles, then radiation.

brokecollegekid696 karma

good luck! radiation wasn't nearly as bad as chemo for me but towards the end it started to creep up and i had a hard time eating and exercising. Are they doing a targeted area for Colon Cancer or wider? for me I had a 5 inch tumor in between my lungs and 1 inch on top of my heart so they did basically my whole chest.

BluePinky7 karma

I don't really know much about the radiation yet.

lndrjm13 karma

The doctors have any idea if it comes from habits or genetics?

BluePinky23 karma

Not really, it sometimes hits people out of the blue. They don't really know why it develops in some people and not in others. I don't have a family history.

Tgambilax9 karma

Do you feel like you’ve lived a healthy lifestyle?

BluePinky11 karma

In the last 13 years, yes. I was a smoker beforehand.

lndrjm5 karma

It fucking sucks, I imagine. Do you have the feeling you'll pick bigger fights after getting better? Like be more aggressive towards life and your personal goals? Or more in the line of setting down and enjoy more a low profile lifestyle, be closer to family and friends kind of life?

BluePinky8 karma

I have no idea. Day by day. We'll see.

tjbassoon11 karma

Not a question, just a little solidarity from a 30-something cancer patient. Esophageal, turned to stage 4 about 18 months ago, been on two different chemo treatments since then. Currently on something similar to you, involving oxaliplatin, which is one hell of a drug isn't it? Fuck that shit. Fuck cancer.

BluePinky7 karma

Borat high five!

CherisaBear8810 karma

What are some things that you had to stop doing in order to start and continue the chemo? Do you miss it?

BluePinky23 karma

Can't eat or drink anything cold for about a week after an infusion. Room temp or warm only.

Galdin3119 karma

Hi, Stage 4 CRC here, How are you holding up with everything? I'm starting round 3 of Folfox tomorrow. I was also dx in August. Have you found the lovely people at Colontown or yet. Good luck on your treatments. We got this.

BluePinky10 karma

We got this indeed. (Borat) High five!

Booyacaja8 karma

Thanks for doing this. Did you know something was seriously wrong with you or was it more of a hunch that something ain't right? Asking for all the hypochondriacs out there who catatrophize every little symptom. Best of luck to you btw!

BluePinky9 karma

It was more than a hunch. You're not supposed to bleed when using the bathroom. Didn't think it was cancer though.

Ticklish_Kink_Wife8 karma

How’re you doing?

BluePinky9 karma

Doing okay, all things considered.

Caleetay7 karma

Is the treatment painful? Or is it the side effects that are bad?

BluePinky18 karma

The treatment itself is uncomfortable, but not really painful. the side effects are no joke.

auchsindfrei8 karma

What side effects are you experiencing? On a scale of 1 - 10, how bad are they?

BluePinky29 karma

Neuropathy is the worst. Tingling in the fingers and toes, serious sensitivity to cold. My fingers don't work as they should. My thumbs lock up sometimes, even typing just feels clumsy.

Evills14 karma

Were you aware that often the most serious side effect of chemo is neuropathy before you got cancer? I'm doing my PhD on chemotherapy-induced peripheral neuropathy and tbh even I had no idea before I started researching my project. Most people tend to instantly think "feeling sick, hair falling out".

BluePinky15 karma

Not until the doctor started describing the possible side effects.

dontworryimstupid9 karma

My feet are super numb, I feel like I’m walking on meat sponges.

BluePinky4 karma

From neuropathy?

HCG-Vedette6 karma

How did you tell the people close to you? Cant imagine that being be easy

BluePinky19 karma

Telling my kids was the hardest.

lavenderonribs5 karma

How has your experience w healthcare professionals been? Have they treated you well?

BluePinky7 karma

they've been great TBH.

Noussa115 karma

Praying that you beat this and recover quickly!! How are you feeling mentally and physically right now?

BluePinky4 karma

Today has been good thus far.

ThatOneKid19955 karma

I just had my first chemo for Hodgkins on Friday and will be doing 4 4 week cycles (8 infusions). How're you handling the side effects from chemo? I knew it would be tough but I didn't expect to get totally knocked out this weekend.

Edit: mine is ABVD chemo*

BluePinky5 karma

Yeah, it's a knockout. My treatments are on Thursdays so me weekends are out, but by Monday I can usually go to work.

Dolemarq3 karma

When was your previous colonoscapy? (Did you ever have one?)

I have a question about treatment cycles but will edit this comment to ask

Edited- during the 3 weeks is it chemo daily or in the hospital?

BluePinky3 karma

First colonoscopy.
3 week cycles. First day is an infusion, then 2 weeks of oral chemo, then one week off. Rinse and repeat.

frood_not_food3 karma

Are you religious/spiritual?

BluePinky6 karma

Yes, I am religious.

Herr__Lipp3 karma

How are you doing?

BluePinky3 karma

Doing well.

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BluePinky6 karma

No, they can't really point to a cause. These things develop slowly, over the years.

privacypirateire2 karma

where you getting regular colonoscopy? Hope you're okay and recover fast

BluePinky3 karma

No, this was my first.

SawHendrix2 karma

Was chemo the only option? Was gamma( cyber knife) surgery an option?

BluePinky8 karma

No, where not at that point and hopefully will never be. Chemo/radiation. The hope is to avoid surgery altogether.

3250feralhogs1 karma

People say they get sick from chemo; what’s the sickness like?

BluePinky2 karma

Nauseua, fatigue, Neuropathy.

KentondeJong1 karma

I know this is the least of your concerns, but how do you plan to help with hair regrowth?

BluePinky3 karma

This treatment has not really affected my hair, as of yet. People don't typically lose their hair with this treatment regimen. Some thinning perhaps, but that already started years ago for me.

h2uP1 karma

How is your family coping?

What are your math odds? Why?

Any new introspective/revelation that can only come from your situation you would like to share? Would not like to share but will anyway?

How does it affect your sex drive?

Thanks for answering. Please, recover and be without sufferage.

BluePinky2 karma

How is your family coping?

Was not easy at first but they've adjusted to the new normal.

What are your math odds? Why?

My doctor doesn't like giving mathematical odds. Everyone is different. He says whatever my odds are, they are. It won't help looking at other people's odds.

Any new introspective/revelation that can only come from your situation you would like to share? Would not like to share but will anyway?

Not really.

How does it affect your sex drive?

Hard to get in the mood when you're dealing with chemo side effects.

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If you are in the US, did you already get your disability lined up for financial support?

BluePinky7 karma

I am working every day so far. I am in an executive position, so it's not like I clock in. I leave when I am not feeling well.

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BluePinky3 karma

Yes. My family has been great.

JooseyJayrod0 karma

My prayers are going out to you :)) Have you tried any alternative meds (like frequency therapy) for the pain/discomfort? I've seen mind blowing results from it.

BluePinky1 karma

I haven't. I am not in pain.

ssillo0 karma

I know this is anecdotal at best, but my AMA question would be did you eat a lot of sugar or processed foods the last 10-20 years of your life? I ask this because colon cancer seems to be on the rise and I personally am guessing it is something in society rather than genetics. Thank you for doing this AMA.

BluePinky1 karma

Not really. I mean, I ate normally. Nothing excessive.

ChillyPeppersAreHot0 karma

Can you put me in your will?

BluePinky10 karma

Asking the real questions.

ChillyPeppersAreHot6 karma

In all seriousness, cancer manifested itself in your ass. Make sure to repay the favor by kicking cancer's.

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Submitted proof to the mods.

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BluePinky6 karma

I am. I assume you are not, just by the nasty attitude. We are generally pleasant people.