My ex husband hired someone to kill me. AMA!

What are your thoughts on people who remain in abusive relationships even when they are able to choose not to? I've seen it happen more than once. A common response seems to be "but I still love him" but I just don't buy it.

Not the OP, but I was in an abusive relationship in my teenage years. For me personally, it wasn't about love towards the end. It was about control and fear. It's very easy to claim that you are in love and "everybody has their issues", but it is not so simple to convey the sheer terror and hopelessness you truly feel.

It's almost like being a child again, you feel as if all of your needs are in control by this one dominating figure, and unlike childhood, you are constantly aware of the consequences of those things being taken away. You may think that sounds crazy, as obviously there are always resources to support yourself, no matter how dire. And it is. It is crazy, because you've been basically brainwashed by terror into that delusion.

It turns into this cycle of, "Well he's in control of my life and if I try to fight it, he's still going to be in control but I will ALSO be punished. I might as well just submit."

That was my experience and I by no way claim that anyone's would be identical.

That is a very good explanation of what it is like. I'd been thinking this question over for a while, trying to decide exactly how to answer it. I think I will come back later and elaborate.

Knowing that your husband hired someone to kill you, if you could go back in time would you still marry him?

Absolutely not. Although we made 3 perfect children together, I honestly wish that he'd never been my husband and wasn't their father. I can only imagine what they are going to deal with when they are older and people find out about their father.

Do you have any tattoos?

I don't see how that is relevant to the topic of discussion.

Your topic was not marked serious. And this negativity sucks, I am sorry that this happened, but I want to know a positive.

Yes, I do. Sorry if I offended.

Did he get his money back?

I'm not sure if this is even a serious question, but I'm assuming that it was kept as evidence.

What's your and his skin color?

If you're politely asking our race, we are both white.

So, do you have a book or a movie deal yet?

I believe the channel is called Lifetime, if you're in the USA.

If I had a dollar for every time someone told me that it would make a great Lifetime movie, I would never have to worry about money again, lol. But no, I don't have any plans to sell my story. I don't want my kids to find out the whole story by watching it on TV in a few years.

Was your husband a huge asshole or were you just really annoying?

He was a HUGE asshole. Unless what you consider annoying is things like wanting to be able to leave the house now and then, have contact with friends and family, etc.