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I'm Lisa Jakub - I grew up working as an actor in movies like Mrs. Doubtfire and Independence Day. I decided to retire instead of becoming a stereotypical train wreck child actor. I now live in Virginia where I am a writer. AMA!
Hey Reddit!
My name is Lisa Jakub. I was an actor from the ages of 4 - 22, in movies like Mrs. Doubtfire, Independence Day, Matinee and a bunch of TV movies where I cried a lot.
I enjoyed acting for a while, but I eventually realized that it just wasn't my passion. I retired and left LA to try to find a more authentic life for myself. I now live in Virginia where I am a writer, a wife and a mom to the best rescue dog in the world.
I write at http://www.lisajakub.net/ and http://hellogiggles.com/ and I am just finishing up my first book.
I'm doing this on my own so as long as you are prepared for typos and swearing - let's do this thing. AMA!
My Proof: https://twitter.com/Lisa_Jakub/status/441265329704939520/photo/1
EDIT: Okay, so now I'm hungry, so I have to go. But THANK YOU SO MUCH for making this such a fun experience. I admit - I was scared of you guys - but this was awesome. Please keep in touch with me through Facebook https://www.facebook.com/LisaJakub108 Twitter https://twitter.com/Lisa_Jakub and my blog http://www.lisajakub.net/ Let's keep the conversation going!! xoxoxo
Lisa_Jakub369 karma
Chris Columbus actually introduced us to "his mother" - we had a whole conversation with her without knowing it was Robin as Mrs. D.
PushedPawn103 karma
You're my childhood celebrity crush, so thanks for that.
What's your favorite food?
Reasonable_Dan90 karma
Does Pierce Brosnan smell like beer and sex? I've always assumed he might.
Lisa_Jakub217 karma
I was 14 when I worked with him, so I couldn’t have told you what beer and sex smelled like. So, I guess the answer is - probably.
bullmoose_atx70 karma
Does the successful transition from child actor to adult actor for some current actors (Leonardo Di Caprio, Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Neil Patrick Harris, Claire Danes, Joseph Gordon Levitt, etc) lead you to second guess your decision?
Lisa_Jakub145 karma
Nope. I think the transition is totally do-able, if you love it and want to dedicate your life to it. After 18 years, it was just time for something new. And I am so much happier as a writer living in Virginia that I was as an actor in LA.
caseden59 karma
Parts of your story (and your attitude) around acting are similar to Mara Wilson, who I know you worked with way back on Mrs Doubtfire. Do the two of you keep in touch much, based on these commonalities?
Lisa_Jakub111 karma
Mara and I recently got back in touch. We were very close during filming, and for a while after (only in part because had a crush on her older brother) but we were both working/traveling a lot and we just drifted apart. But I have always loved her like a little sister and I’m thrilled that we are back in each other’s lives. She’s an awesome woman and a great writer.
blacklisted_by_redit58 karma
Googled your pics - you transitioned from cutey to foxey quite nicely.
Chinhigh37 karma
So, I think this is how it works- you get paid a royalty every time Mrs. Doubtfire is on tv?
Lisa_Jakub74 karma
Yeah - fractions of a penny, and the amount decreases over time. I actually wrote about that here, if you are interested. http://lisajakub.wordpress.com/2013/04/18/money/
Chinhigh46 karma
Well, now I'm an ass. Your blog told me to follow up on your weight and the date of your last period.
But I'm all ears. Do tell.
JuvenL1 karma
I don't know why is ridiculous to talk about money I think people shouldn't have tabus and it should be talked naturally just like any other thing
My question: If I remembet correctly you were already a teen in Mrs. D so what where the fav movies of your childhood before Mrs. D.?
Lisa_Jakub6 karma
I loved old movies. To Kill A Mockingbird, It Happened One Night and Arsenic and Old Lace.
popdisaster0036 karma
Did you voluntarily want to act as a child, or did your parents make that decision for you? I always wonder about that when children start acting at such a young age.
Lisa_Jakub60 karma
When I was 4, my parents and I were in a market in Toronto and we were approached by a man who was working on casting a commercial. They asked if I wanted to audition, I thought it sounded fun, so I went. They sent me to an agent and my whole career just sort of snowballed from that.
brunohusker34 karma
Hope i'm not too late. So what was it like to work with Robin Williams?
Lisa_Jakub153 karma
Robin was wonderful. I actually got thrown out of high school during the shooting of Doubtfire – my school didn’t want to deal with the extra work of having my “non-traditional” situation. I was very upset about it and he asked me if he could write a letter to my school asking them to support me in trying to get my education while working. The school framed the letter, but didn’t let me back in. But it was very kind of him to try.
Lisa_Jakub101 karma
The only thing I miss is having someone who knew how to do my hair and makeup. I'm 35 years old and have no clue about either.
Zouch19 karma
After you retired, did you receive any interesting acting offers that made you question your decision, or did you cut all contacts to Hollywood cold turkey?
Lisa_Jakub48 karma
I pretty much went cold turkey. After I moved to VA, I was temped into doing an audition tape for The Aviator because it was Martin Scorsese - but I realized after that I was just done and needed to cut all ties if I was going to really be retired. I actually wrote about that audition here -- http://lisajakub.wordpress.com/2013/11/04/the-last-audition/
buckyboy2817 karma
I've been poking around your blog a little bit, and I really enjoy the inside view of an industry most of us know very little about. Most people do tend to assume that all actors are billionaires and everyone in the industry knows everyone else, so it is really refreshing to see the real side.
Keep on writing!
everythingisopposite17 karma
Hi Lisa, do you have fond memories of San Francisco from your time filing here?
Lisa_Jakub25 karma
Loved SF. We lived at the Saint Francis hotel for months. It was a good gig.
Boodah9315 karma
For what it's worth I think you were an awesome actress and one of my childhood crushes(along with kat the second pink ranger lol) anyway I've just read some of your blogs that you've posted and I've seen you say a few times that you have an affinity for cuss words and well since I couldn't think of another question I'll just ask this:
Most people including myself have a "favorite" or "go to" curse word. My would be "sum bitch" as get that sum bitch out of my way(yes I am southern lol). What would you say that yours is?
Lisa_Jakub37 karma
She is truly fabulous. We adopted her from the SPCA a few years ago - she is a senior, probably about 7 years old when we got her. She is my muse, my writing partner and my example of how to be a present, loving person.
UseYourIllusionII14 karma
Was there ever an audition you had that you were really upset you didn't get?
Lisa_Jakub37 karma
I was sad that I didn't get the role of Velma in Scooby-Doo. That would have just been cool.
Lisa_Jakub28 karma
I'm obsessed with these pan fried honey bananas. You can skip the honey or use another sweetener if you are a vegan that don't eat honey. http://rachelschultz.com/2013/05/15/fried-honey-bananas/
Lisa_Jakub14 karma
The filmmakers were all friends of mine, and I'm so glad they asked me to be part of it. It's a great little movie.
nerveendingstory13 karma
Do you ever wonder how different your life would be if you didn't retire? Are there any roles that you were tempted to get back in the business to perform?
Lisa_Jakub32 karma
No, it's funny, I've never thought that. I guess I just don't really have that passion for acting. A couple of times I've missed living in LA - but that's only because there is a really good Chinese place there called Chin Chin.
Soup_Can_Stu10 karma
You are awesome and beautiful. What is your favorite memory of acting?
Lisa_Jakub23 karma
That’s sweet, thank you. My favorite memory of acting isn’t a specific event, it’s more just the feeling of community that you get on set. The cast and crew really bond. You are working long hours together in sometimes strange locations and people get very close - in various types of ways. It can be a really wonderful, supportive, creative environment.
cardamomgirl110 karma
Thank you for the AMA. I'm always curious what it is like working on a movie with big name actors, especially playing a child or sibling of a famous actor.
Lisa_Jakub16 karma
Obviously, the experience differs from movie to movie, but mostly, each project just another job – regardless of how famous the coworkers are. Bigger budget sets feel a little fancier and have more security - but what matters most is the chemistry between the actors and the filmmakers. That's what makes is a great experience. You can have that - or not - with big or small movies.
caseden9 karma
I get the sense that being Canadian becomes somewhat of a novelty (with some exceptions) for actors who have long since left. Your story seems a little different though, and you seem more thoughtful. What's your relationship like with Canada, and Toronto, specifically?
Lisa_Jakub13 karma
Even though I don't live there, I will always be Canadian. I feel it's a big part of my identity. I don't get back there as much as I'd like to, but I feel a strong connection to it. If it weren't so damn cold, I'd want to go back. All those years of LA thinned my blood.
caseden9 karma
As an introvert, I'd see the hollywood lifestyle (at least in the social sense) perhaps a little euphoric at first, but then quickly exhausting and torturously nerve wracking. Writing is so much more peaceful, self-paced, and somehow less vulnerable. Is this accurate for you at all?
ultradip8 karma
Would you ever go back to acting, now that you're past the teenaged drama stage?
Lisa_Jakub14 karma
No, I'm really happy being a writer and being out of that life. It just didn't suit me anymore.
Jorion6 karma
Hi, Lisa! I have a two-parter question: if you had a time machine, where/when would you go, and what kind of sandwich would you bring as a snack?
24fpsuk6 karma
Matinée was one of my favourite films as a kid, and actually still is now. Any memories or stories from shooting that?
Lisa_Jakub16 karma
Matinee was a great shoot. Joe Dante is a wonderful person and creative genius. But the kissing scene in the bomb shelter was incredibly awkward. I was 13 and it was my first kiss EVER. It’s uncomfortable to have your first kiss be with 60 crew members and your mother watching.
FistyAnn6 karma
I love your writing and your face! What do you prefer about writing over acting?
Lisa_Jakub14 karma
Thank you! Writing feels much more creative to me than acting ever did. I’m freer. As an actor, I wore the clothes someone else picked, said the words that someone else wrote and stood where someone told me to. With writing, I get to do it all myself. Plus, as a writer, I get to wear sweatpants a lot.
Lisa_Jakub10 karma
Memento, The Philadelphia Story, Amalie, To Kill A Mocking Bird, It Happened One Night. In no particular order.
jeffreysbuck5 karma
Was there a particular film role that you didn't take on that you wish you would have now?
paradox28jon5 karma
Hi Lisa! I'm a few years older than you and when I saw you in Matinee I immediately developed a teenage crush on you. I'm glad you are doing well with your husband in Virginia. Love the blog, you're a good writer.
Anyway, questions:
do you ever catch yourself on TV - like whenever Mrs. Doubtfire is on the TV? If so, do you immediately change the channel?
acting and writing are both creative arts. How is the writing subculture very much like or different than the child acting environment?
Did you have much interaction with John Goodman on the set of Matinee?
Given your shy nature and that you're actually a smart person, do you really think - had you continued an acting career - that you'd become a stereotypical train wreck child actor? Natalie Portmand and Emma Watson seem to have sailed through fine; I use as examples.
Lisa_Jakub17 karma
Thanks! Yeah, I have caught myself on TV. It's really fucking weird. I change the channel immediately.
Writing is a very different experience, because it it pretty much is just me at my computer. I like that.
Yeah, John was lovely on Matinee. Good guy.
I don't know what would have happened if I stayed. I'm was never into the Hollywood scene, so I would have likely been okay. But it's stressful to feel like you are living a life that isn't authentic to who you are.
I_Am_Not_Satan5 karma
Hi, Lisa!
Is there anywhere that you've always wanted to travel to, but haven't yet?
Lisa_Jakub6 karma
I have a long list. I've not been to many places in Asia. I've been to Southern Africa but I'd love to go to Western Africa, too. Pretty much anywhere I haven't seen, I want to.
wpmullen4 karma
Are you able to enjoy movies and television now as a fan? Or do you look at the medium critically?
Lisa_Jakub16 karma
I don't think I'm more critical now, I can get lost in movies just like everyone else. But bad dialogue does make me cringe...
danceswithvodka794 karma
Hi, Lisa! I've really enjoyed your blogs, and look forward to your first book. Do you have any plans to begin another book anytime after you get this one published? If so do you have any ideas on the next topic? I'd be very interested in reading a fictional story written by you.
Lisa_Jakub8 karma
Thank you so much! I've got a few ideas for the next book. I'd love to play around with some fiction, maybe do some travel writing, I love telling other people's stories, so maybe more non-fiction.....Lots of ideas!
RudyButkus4 karma
What was it like being Randy Quaid's daughter in Independence Day? Was he fun on the set. Thank you doing this AMA.
Lisa_Jakub12 karma
Randy is truly a lovely human being. I really enjoyed him. He's just the kind of guy you can hang out and talk with.
unglad4 karma
I just spent an hour reading your blog. I love it! All its entries are short and sweet, so it makes for perfect light reading.
tijuanachamp4 karma
My grandma was a housekeeper at the St. Francis hotel, and said that she caught you with a pet turtle in the hotel. Did you ever have any other run ins with your turtle and do you still have it?
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
Oh my gosh!! That was Shelly. She traveled with me to several film shoots and was a wonderful companion. Once she got out of her cage on an airplane and wandered down the aisle and freaked everyone out. She was an adventurer. I don't have her any more. She actually ran away - true story. Tell your grandma I said hi and again - I'm sorry.
iheartmpls3 karma
Hi Lisa! Do you enjoy watching Independence Day or Mrs. Doubtfire on those lazy Sunday afternoons? If so, do you still critique yourself or just enjoy the movie?
Lisa_Jakub5 karma
OH DEAR GOD NO! (So I guess the answer is that I still critique myself.)
iheartmpls3 karma
I'm a retired musician and it's still a guilty pleasure when I catch one of my songs on the radio (from time to time). You're telling me you don't grin just a little bit when you see yourself on the tele?! C'mon now... be honest!? :-)
Lisa_Jakub27 karma
Nope. I'm Canadian. We tend to be humiliated by everything we've ever done.
caseden3 karma
Did you really not watch the Oscars? Would it have been like watching remnants of an old relationship, or is it just completely outside of your sphere of interest now?
Lisa_Jakub14 karma
I didn't watch them. It's not like it's out of bitterness or anything - it just doesn't really have any relevance to my life anymore. Well, okay, maybe they make me feel a little bad about the fact that I only ever wear yoga pants and Chuck Taylors.
Derptastrophe3 karma
Hey Lisa, I'm just wondering if you are ever bothered when someone approaches you and asks for a picture or autograph. I have a feeling it must get annoying at some points.
Lisa_Jakub9 karma
Mostly, people are very nice and it's fine. But I recently got recognized as I was half-naked in a yoga studio change room. So...you know....that's uncomfortable.
aionzeta3 karma
Hi, Lisa. How do you prepare yourself mentally when writing your blog, or when working on a book. (You are working on a book, yes?)
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
I have a pretty strict writing schedule from 8:30 - 12 every day. That is really helpful for me. Other than that, I need a big cup of tea and my dog at my feet.
Lisa_Jakub11 karma
Not at all! I was an actor for 18 years and for the most part, I enjoyed it. But at a certain point, I realized it was making me unhappy and giving me panic attacks. I left my job for the same reasons anyone leaves any job. When I made my pro/con list, the cons were too significant to ignore. I was ready to see what else was out there. I wanted to get an education and try to figure out who I was beneath the label of actor.
wpmullen3 karma
You may have touched on this before, but did you make any close friends on the audition trail? Any fond memories you like to share about some of your contemporaries that you recall? I'm a fan of your work then and now. Thank you for doing this AMA.
Lisa_Jakub17 karma
I auditioned with Hilary Swank for Boys Don't Cry. She was COMMITTED to that role. She showed up dressed like a boy, walked and talked like a boy. The only thing I had done was put my hair in a ponytail. I walked into that audition and thought - let's get this over with - Hilary is who you want in this role, not me!
jimmyproductions3 karma
Hi, I thought I'd say hello. Im just an interested guy in the uk wondering what its like knowing you were a film star. Are you happier now?
Lisa_Jakub5 karma
I'm much happier. It feels good living a life that is more authentic to what you want to be doing.
carvedog3 karma
I just want to say good for you for not letting the hype of of how 'cool' it is to be an actor rule your life. I look forward to reading what you have written. In my work in the mountains in a resort known for skiing and outdoor recreation I have been involved with quite a few celebrities and many actors. They are not all happy. You look and sound happy and at peace.
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
Oh that's so nice! Thanks. You can check out my blog for some of my writing, and I'll keep that up to date with book news.
Lisa_Jakub9 karma
The things that might seem annoying or gross are not at all because you love them so damn much.
T-Shazam2 karma
Hi Lisa, Thank you so much for doing this AMA.
Do you have any stories from the set of Independence Day?
Lisa_Jakub5 karma
ID4 was a really fun shoot - I'd never done anything with big effects like that. I did not hate kissing Andrew Keegan.
swiviol2 karma
What was your favorite movie that you acted in? If you could choose any modern movie to be in (either recently in theaters or upcoming), which would it be, and why?
Lisa_Jakub2 karma
That's kinda like picking a favorite child - they all had good things about them and I would feel bad singling out on of them. I kind of wish I was in the documentary Spinning Plates, because watching it made me hungry and I wanted to eat all that lovely food.
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
My lit agent and I are going out to publishers now - I'll keep my FB page and blog updated with news about when it'll be available!
PandoraBlackBox2 karma
What r u favorite novels?or autors? Do u speak french? What do u like to do in ur freetime? Thanks
Lisa_Jakub2 karma
I have a bunch of favorite books, like, Poisonwood Bible, East of Eden, Signature of All Things, 1Q84, A Prayer for Owen Meany, Nine Stories, Don’t let’s go to the dogs tonight....just a few! I used to be fluent in French but it's fading. In my free time I'm pretty much always at the yoga studio!
kleinjesse2 karma
My girlfriend would want me to ask you what it is like to go from actress to regular life out here in Virginia? She would assume that you would be pestered to point of extreme annoyance if you were recognized in public.
Congrats on deciding to live in Virginia. I live in the Northern Neck of Virginia myself. If you are ever out in Reedville, stop by and pick some crabs.
Lisa_Jakub2 karma
It sometimes happens, but people don't really tend to care much. I absolutely love it here - and that's just one of the reasons why.
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
I don't even remember. I started writing as soon as I could hold a crayon. I just love telling stories and creating a world with words.
DigitalEvil1 karma
In your opinion, what is the hardest part of being a writer? How do you enjoy it compared to acting?
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
I think the hardest part of writing is self- discipline. I stick to my writing schedule pretty religiously, so that helps. It's very solitary work, but that suits me quite well. It's pretty great to feel like you have found what you are supposed to be doing with your life.
Lisa_Jakub5 karma
I could google something and sound snotty and fancy - but I think I'll just admit that I don't have one. I can tell you about my favorite Barenaked Ladies song, though.
Dreaditall1 karma
I always wondered what happened to you. Thought you were pretty good. What parts of the industry made you want to leave?
Lisa_Jakub2 karma
Lack of privacy, too much focus on physical appearance, challenge of maintaining important relationships when you need to leave for a shoot for months at a time... Mostly, I didn’t feel that deep passion for acting that many of my friend’s seemed to feel.
paradox28jon1 karma
Last question, I promise! You were an actor from 4 to 22. For the last year you've worked on your book and blog. So what were you doing from 22 until 34?
Lisa_Jakub17 karma
I wandered around crying and feeling lost. No. Actually, I did a bunch of things. I answered phones at a women's shelter, I taught at a literacy center, I worked as a radio DJ....but the big thing was that I got my GED and attended the University of Virginia. I graduated when I was 32.
joethetipper2 karma
Love UVA. And Virginia beats the hell out of Los Angeles. Did you major in Creative Writing?
Lisa_Jakub11 karma
Not sexism specifically - but I was told several times that I was a good actor but I was just not pretty enough. There can be a pretty narrow definition of what women should be/look like.
eekrodg1 karma
Wishing you the best on finishing your first book. How is life after hollywood?
ericj721 karma
Hope I'm not too late to join in here! Was just in a long meeting. So Lisa, tell us... what is the nerdiest thing you've ever done in your life? (that you're willing to share!) Thx!
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
My entire life is pretty nerdy. I'm in bed with a book almost every night by 9:30. I'll pick a book over pretty much any social engagement.
Lisa_Jakub11 karma
Married 8 years. But a married lady always likes to get a winky face, so thank you!
westcor1 karma
I had the biggest crush on you, when I saw you on Matinee. How was working with John Goodman??
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
How could you not have a crush on Sandra?? She was kickass. John was lovely.
RollingCompass1 karma
Hi Lisa!
What would you say to actors from different countries who aren't living in the film making area? Would you say that a career as an actor is unstable and extremely hard?
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
There are a lot of difficult things about being an actor. It can also be really fun. It's just all about if the trade-offs are worth it for you. In the end, they were no longer worth it for me.
BornNRaised4151 karma
Do you work out of passion for an organization or because you need money? I'm guessing you get residuals.
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
I'm not set for life, if that's what you are asking. I actually wrote in-depth about that here, if you are interested. http://lisajakub.wordpress.com/2014/01/06/money-part-2/
MrDonamus1 karma
Why Virginia? I see you in the middle of the Appalachians on top of a mountain in a cabin writing by candle light. andbeingverypretty
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
Ha! Well, Virginia seemed very far away from LA, and my boyfriend (now husband) liked the business school here.
evknight1 karma
How were you treated on set? Were adult actors annoyed by you or was there camaraderie?
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
Mostly, there was a lot of camaraderie. Occasionally, there would be someone who was annoyed by having a kid around, and they made that obvious. But that was the exception.
MONKSFTW1 karma
Hey Lisa Jakub! As a huge fan of Mrs. Doubtfire and Independence Day it's amazing to get this opportunity even though it's 5 am here in Australia so I hope you get to my questions
What was it like working with the cast and crew on Mrs. Doubtfire?
Do you have any favourite memories on or off camera of any of your films?
I've read that you're writing your first book about growing up in the film industry, How's that going?
just for fun, Nicolas Cage, yay or nay?
Thank you again for giving us this opportunity, on behalf of this AMA I'd like to commend you on your talents and wish you luck on your current and future projects.
Lisa_Jakub5 karma
That's so nice of you - thanks for being up so early!!!
Doubtfire was a wonderful shoot. We were all very close - it felt like a family environment.
It's hard to pick a favorite...I was lucky to be able to travel a lot for my work, and I think that is what I am most grateful for. Being able to spend a couple months in Rome or Prague is pretty amazing.
The book is going well. My literary agent is shopping it around to publishers now. It's a very exciting process.
Thanks again and I hope you get a nap this afternoon!
Lisa_Jakub4 karma
I don't think I actually have one! I'm a vegetarian, I have excellent digestion. Sometimes my dog farts and wakes herself up. Does that count?
Alex26791 karma
Hi Lisa, I follow your blog and facebook, and I always thought you seemed like a really sweet genuine person.
How did you feel about doing the partial nudity in Painted Angels?
Lisa_Jakub3 karma
Thank you so much. How did I feel about the partial nudity? Kind of cold.
PandoraBlackBox0 karma
Hello lisa, waw, ur life seems uncommun! What makes u think that acting wasn't for u? What the title of ur first book? What will it talk about? Who or what inspires u for writing? And finally r u happy in ur life now? Thanks xoxo
Lisa_Jakub1 karma
The book is about growing up in the film industry and making the decision to leave to try something new. It was really fun to write. And I tend to get inspired by everything around me. It's always wonderful to remember that it's about the little things in life. And yes, I'm very happy. :)
Frajer107 karma
What was your reaction the first time you saw Robin in character as Mrs. Doubtfire?
Did you ever confuse Chris Colombus with Christopher Colombus?
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