nanny, rich, wealthy, babysitter
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heemster422 karma2013-01-07 01:47:53 UTC
Nice try Fran.
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Sarbanes_Foxy681 karma2013-01-07 01:54:41 UTC
afieldoutside253 karma2013-01-07 02:06:45 UTC
If the kids got up in the night, did they come to your or their parents? Were you responsible for the middle of the night things? I know you said the younger ones were 2, but with potty training, accidents, etc., I know they wake up.
Sarbanes_Foxy469 karma2013-01-07 02:26:41 UTC
My bedroom was on the second floor, just down the hall from the children's bedrooms, and mom and dad slept downstairs. The baby monitor was also in my room, so 90% of the time I handled it when they got up in the middle of the night. Many mornings I woke up and had all three kids in my bed.
creepingender234 karma2013-01-07 01:22:27 UTC
Was sex with the husband/father good?
Sarbanes_Foxy555 karma2013-01-07 01:24:54 UTC
Ask his wife
creepingender539 karma2013-01-07 01:36:55 UTC
Got it. Sorry for the confusion. How was sex with the wife?
Sarbanes_Foxy691 karma2013-01-07 01:39:59 UTC
Oh, man. She was dynamite.
nvkaushik92 karma2013-01-07 02:56:08 UTC
Is this What I think it is!
Sarbanes_Foxy127 karma2013-01-07 02:56:57 UTC
It depends...is it?
Taco_Human228 karma2013-01-07 01:28:05 UTC
What's the worst first world problem thing you've seen?
Sarbanes_Foxy681 karma2013-01-07 01:33:38 UTC
The mother was constantly flitting from one home business to another. Selling embroidered children's clothes, turning old wine bottles into candles, Scentsy, custom handbags, you name it. She was constantly hosting these trunk shows and parties, at her house and at other venues.
One afternoon, she called me four times in a row while I was in school, and I stepped out of class to answer assuming it was an emergency. She was flying off the handle because her friend had forgotten to buy flowers for whatever inane party she was having that afternoon. So I swallowed my rage and said I would stop at Kroger and buy flowers.
"Oh, God. Kroger flowers? Absolutely not."
"What then, ma'am?"
"You have to get them from --some random boutique local florist---"
I go to said florist, bring home what I considered a very beautiful set of flowers.
This woman literally BREAKS DOWN IN TEARS because I got the wrong flowers. I had to go upstairs and play with the jack-in-the-box with her two-year-old to calm the fuck down.
AtilG10 karma2013-01-07 05:52:56 UTC
Good Old Georgia. I'm pretty sure you live in the Fulton Area now. :D
Sarbanes_Foxy14 karma2013-01-07 11:22:19 UTC
This was actually in Tennessee outside of Nashville, but I do live in Atlanta now!
nobloominspace197 karma2013-01-07 01:34:29 UTC
How often would the parents spend time with the children?
What was the mothers occupation?
How did the parents treat you as a staff member?
Sarbanes_Foxy422 karma2013-01-07 01:38:14 UTC
The dad worked in shifts that where generally 24 hours on, 24 hours off. He was a genuinely good guy, very down to earth, and you could tell that he would have liked to spend a lot more time with his kids, but it didn't happen as often as he wanted.
As I mentioned in another comment, the mother didn't really have a set occupation other than brief infatuations with businesses. Avon, custom jewelry, embroidered handbags, custom tupperware. Shit like that. She wasn't in the house very often, and when she was, she was "busy."
The parents almost treated me like an older teenage daughter. They knew my parents pretty well, and I really never felt like a staff, more like one of their kids who happened to be solely in charge of taking care of their younger kids.
0its0me0178 karma2013-01-07 02:10:39 UTC
I saw you had the first world problem thing with the mom, but what was the most first world problem moment with the spoiled daughter?
Sarbanes_Foxy536 karma2013-01-07 02:33:03 UTC
She had been going absolutely ape-shit leading up to Christmas over this dollhouse she wanted. It was in a catalog, no plastic Barbie stuff for her, and she pored over the thing constantly. Christmas came and went and she got the dollhouse, which was made of real wood, had faux carpet in some of the rooms, and real wood furniture. It was beautiful, like a tiny Victorian house in the playroom.
About February of that year she started coloring on the wood with crayons. Real subtle at first and then broad swatches of the exterior of the house would be different colors. I tried to clean it off and tell her not to do it again, I knew how expensive it was, but she enjoyed coloring the house. By April, the outside of the house looked really shitty, repeated colorings and my repeated attempts to clean it.
Fast forward to the end of April, I'm changing one of the younger kids and I hear this absolutely horrific crash. Like, I thought someone was breaking into the house. Turns out, she had pushed this stunning dollhouse down the stairs, shattering it to pieces. And she had this completely serene look on her face the whole time. It took me almost an hour to get all of the wood shards and pieces off the floor, and at the end of it when I scolded her, her only answer was "I didn't like it anymore."
0its0me0252 karma2013-01-07 02:40:04 UTC
So instead of giving it away to someone who wanted it more, she threw it down the stairs. Makes sense.
Sarbanes_Foxy624 karma2013-01-07 02:42:48 UTC
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and venture that she wasn't thinking about anyone else...ever.
adalov155 karma2013-01-07 04:36:30 UTC
What was the reaction of the parents to the situation (if there was a reaction)?
Sarbanes_Foxy227 karma2013-01-07 11:26:06 UTC
The mother shrugged and said she wouldn't get dessert for a week (reminded me of Lindsay Bluth yelling "I punish thee!") which wore off after a day. The little girl then started talking about some other toy she wanted, and from what I know, another dollhouse was never had.
idpeeinherbutt68 karma2013-01-07 06:06:29 UTC
Nothing like a fixer upper dollhouse. You could flip that real quick for easy money.
Sarbanes_Foxy71 karma2013-01-07 11:26:37 UTC
You should have seen it flip down the stairs. I'm almost sad I missed it.
Bardlar85 karma2013-01-07 05:00:18 UTC
I'm not sure if it's your occupation or choice of diction, but I'm totally reading all your posts in an uptight British accent, akin to Mary Poppins. Just thought you should know.
Sarbanes_Foxy73 karma2013-01-07 11:27:10 UTC
Bahahahaha!! Try reading it in a Canadian accent. That's what I am
I_Brittad_It157 karma2013-01-07 01:40:07 UTC
Did you stop working for them because of your auditing job, or did you quit on your own before then? Did the parents ever give you fancy gifts or anything out of the ordinary (if you don't mind me asking)?
Sarbanes_Foxy330 karma2013-01-07 01:41:52 UTC
I quit when I moved out of town for college. They knew it was coming and they had a replacement lined up.
Probably the nicest thing was getting to go on vacation with them. We were in resorts that my poor ass would probably never have seen the inside of, and I had access to all the amenities and such. Of course, I was there to watch the kids, but it was still nice.
Blindspot_McKnowsYou143 karma2013-01-07 05:23:53 UTC
Do you miss those kids?
Sarbanes_Foxy154 karma2013-01-07 11:29:31 UTC
Yes, less now but initially I did. It was surreal to go to the grocery store alone and have an evening alone. I kept the tv on just for the background noise for a few months.
IsaywhatIthink300045 karma2013-01-07 05:17:09 UTC
I must ask, did you think or did it bother you that the only reason you were brought along was so that the parents could take the "luxury" of not having to deal with their own progeny?
Or did you feel that they brought you along as a sort of bonus or reward?
Sarbanes_Foxy52 karma2013-01-07 11:30:17 UTC
Both. They could have left the kids at home with me and go on vacation, which they had done before, but at least twice a year they took me along.
LezBeOwn146 karma2013-01-07 01:15:38 UTC
What's "obscenely" rich in your book?
Sarbanes_Foxy164 karma2013-01-07 01:16:51 UTC
In excess of $500k per year
dead_badger292 karma2013-01-07 02:28:23 UTC
I didn't realize that was obscenely wealthy, I was thinking "scrooge mcduck"
Sarbanes_Foxy269 karma2013-01-07 02:35:34 UTC
Well, for me it was obscenely wealthy. As in, their house could have literally fit seven of the house I grew up in and they had five cars...for two drivers.
antvsant50 karma2013-01-07 01:22:12 UTC
Were they new money or old money? Also were the older kids spoiled and do you think the younger ones will one day become like this?
Sarbanes_Foxy144 karma2013-01-07 01:23:21 UTC
The father was a trauma neurosurgeon. They were Canadian, and from what I understand, both of their parents were moderately wealthy. But it was self-made, mostly.
FunSizedTime136 karma2013-01-07 01:55:25 UTC
How much did you make? Salary or hourly? Do you miss it?
Sarbanes_Foxy291 karma2013-01-07 01:57:36 UTC
Salary. Abt 19k when I started, 22k when I left.
Sometimes, yes. It was sometimes a really easy job, like after they had gone to bed and I was reading a book downstairs and eating frozen yogurt and technically on the clock. And other times it was really hard, like realizing that despite all the love and time and effort you put into these little kids, you will ultimately never get credit for how they turn out.
mitchrodee168 karma2013-01-07 02:22:00 UTC
20k and little to no living expenses? I hope you banked most of it.
Sarbanes_Foxy398 karma2013-01-07 02:34:55 UTC
Totally. I payed for most of college that way. Escaped with only $12,000 in loans for five years of school.
Warlizard92 karma2013-01-07 02:15:16 UTC
WTF? I was paying 28.5k a year for mine.
Sarbanes_Foxy171 karma2013-01-07 02:34:02 UTC
I wasn't a professional by any means and really only got the job because my parents knew them.
Warlizard65 karma2013-01-07 02:40:39 UTC
Hrm. That would have been a plus. I hate interviewing nannies. I always suspect they are going to smother my kids. We've had the same one for a few years now, although she has been part-time since we are home all the time now.
Oh, and after spending too many years in the corporate world, your username is making my eye twitch.
Sarbanes_Foxy79 karma2013-01-07 02:47:51 UTC
I will admit, there have been times I WANTED to smother a kid, but I wouldn't even entertain the thought of actually doing it.
I like to read IFRS when it gets late...
Warlizard73 karma2013-01-07 02:55:58 UTC
The second thing you just said is the worse of the two.
Sarbanes_Foxy52 karma2013-01-07 02:56:29 UTC
malebitchtits135 karma2013-01-07 03:18:36 UTC
how did you master the art of using a umbrella as a parachute?
Sarbanes_Foxy219 karma2013-01-07 11:33:46 UTC
Dude, let me tell you. It's all in the forearm. And your shoulder really hurts after a while so shrugs are a must. Cling and press and deadlifts also.
Noveltyaccount101109 karma2013-01-07 04:35:17 UTC
My wife was up until very recently the nanny for a legitimately obscenely wealthy family (read family assets in excess of $1B USD) and had been for a little over 6 years. We would be considered good friends of theirs despite being in a substantially different socioeconomic group (our combined incomes are circa $120k). They are one of the nicest families we know and their children are exceptionally well mannered and socially adjusted despite knowing their social position.
I think you may have just worked for a bunch of Jerks. Would you ever do it again with another family?
Sarbanes_Foxy43 karma2013-01-07 11:36:52 UTC
Okay you win on the obscene front.
I like auditing people and doing their taxes better... :D
Frajer82 karma2013-01-07 01:23:53 UTC
Were the kids spoiled? If so how?
Sarbanes_Foxy215 karma2013-01-07 01:27:09 UTC
The older child definitely was. She had absolutely no respect for her toys and things, it was very obvious that her mindset was she could always get another one if something happened to what she currently had.
After her was a set of twins. I began nannying when they were two years old, and the older child was already six. The younger two were sweeter and less spoiled, probably because they had to share and the older child had really never been exposed to it until her siblings came along. Both parents were very much out of the picture, and I sort of like to think I had a hand in normalizing the younger two.
waveoflife42 karma2013-01-07 04:58:50 UTC
Was the mom old when she had the twins?
Sarbanes_Foxy234 karma2013-01-07 11:33:07 UTC
Her age was...indeterminate...
NeutralParty79 karma2013-01-07 03:01:07 UTC
I did some dog walking for a fairly wealthy family myself. They had, amongst other things, a pool complete with a waterfall made out of nice stone slabs and a water pump, a lounge with a grand piano, their own live-in nanny, and more. It was pretty off-setting.
Felt bad for the nanny too. They went through three in my time walking for them. (We're talking one every few months.)
One of their kids was adopted from China as an abondoned girl. She was the worst of them. You'd think you'd get some perspective hearing: "Yeah, you'd be dead in a ditch or in a god awful orphanage in rural China right now, but instead you're lavished with all this shit in our house."
No such luck.
She even threatened to lie to her parents to get the nanny fired for refusing her something once. She quit next week of her own accord.
Sarbanes_Foxy54 karma2013-01-07 03:03:45 UTC
Yeesh, mine weren't that bad. She sounds like a peach
Staankygirl77 karma2013-01-07 01:42:44 UTC
no trying to one up you but I was a full time nanny for a celebrity couple in LA. Where were you a nanny? I am always curious to see how much nannies in other cities make... I think LA, NY and London the salaries are the highest. I am just interested because I want to travel and be a nanny again but with the great pay in LA its hard to leave...
Sarbanes_Foxy115 karma2013-01-07 01:53:55 UTC
I was a nanny in Franklin, TN, just south of Nashville. It's sort of the Beverly Hills of country music. I was doing decent I think, it ended up being about 19K a year when I started and close to 22K a year. I lived with them so they didn't do hourly. And they paid any medical bills I had!
thehorribleyouth58 karma2013-01-07 05:51:53 UTC
I don't know if you mind, but I just looked at some of your answers and can already tell his wife's short-term occupations, his occupation (rather rare position) and now their location.
Just wanted you to watch out if you don't want people to find out who you're talking about/watch what you're saying about them if you don't mind people knowing.
Also, you sound like a great nanny.
Sarbanes_Foxy25 karma2013-01-07 11:34:36 UTC
I have changed a few absolute facts, but the basics are still the same :) good thinking tho!
dead_badger65 karma2013-01-07 02:31:51 UTC
So after doing this, do you think being raised rich is good for kids? They had everything taken care of, so they never had medical problems they couldn't treat (or what have you), but as far as human beings, what's your take?
Sarbanes_Foxy203 karma2013-01-07 02:37:00 UTC
I really think it depends. I've known families that were rich that gave their children everything they needed, but didn't always give them everything they WANTED, they had to work for that. Contrast that with children who get both whenever they want, and they never learn the value of what they have.
dead_badger46 karma2013-01-07 02:55:12 UTC
Thanks for the answer, thanks for doing an AMA
Sarbanes_Foxy155 karma2013-01-07 02:57:45 UTC
Welcome...and I hope that badger gets better...
antvsant61 karma2013-01-07 01:15:23 UTC
Did you enjoy it?
Sarbanes_Foxy127 karma2013-01-07 01:16:32 UTC
Sometimes, yes. The kids were decent, the older one was a complete shit but the younger ones were really sweet. It was a lot of responsibility at the time and it made me think really differently about having kids, but overall, yes, I enjoyed it.
calafragilistic61 karma2013-01-07 04:54:17 UTC
So how do you feel about having kids?
Sarbanes_Foxy55 karma2013-01-07 11:35:55 UTC
Definitely not for a very long time. After you've been in the day to day grit of actually taking care of them, it really makes you think. Especially going from 0-3 overnight.
mrsquares53 karma2013-01-07 03:04:02 UTC
What features did the mansion have?
Sarbanes_Foxy160 karma2013-01-07 03:05:44 UTC
Too many rooms and insanely high shag carpet. Cinema. Indoor and outdoor pool. Two playrooms. Each kid had a bedroom, I had a bedroom, two spare rooms. Gym. Guest house behind the main house. Five car garage.
3xtra_1ife41 karma2013-01-07 01:41:42 UTC
This entire thread has made me respect you. I do have a question, though.
Was there anything the family owned that was just too absurd or expensive to you?
Sarbanes_Foxy73 karma2013-01-07 01:44:51 UTC
Mom had a pretty extensive wardrobe. But I would say the only thing that probably appalled me with the expense was an outdoor jungle gym that cost somewhere north of $13,000. I have absolutely NO IDEA why that damn thing was so expensive. It had two slides, monkey bars, a fireman's pole, and a seesaw. Essentially a full blown private playground in the background, but it didn't seem like it should have been that expensive to me...maybe someone else here has some insight?
MargeTyrell53 karma2013-01-07 02:50:59 UTC
Yes, backyard play structures cost a lot, way more than you think they should. Even crappy ones can cost $5,000 after installation. It's quite a racket.
Sarbanes_Foxy85 karma2013-01-07 02:53:37 UTC
I may be in the wrong business...
3xtra_1ife29 karma2013-01-07 01:59:27 UTC
Well, maybe it had some type of secret contraption or Bat-Cave installed. They were filthy rich.
EDIT: I capped too many letters.
Sarbanes_Foxy60 karma2013-01-07 02:00:36 UTC
OMG maybe their dad had a secret lab and that's where he was all the time...
BiggerJ40 karma2013-01-07 02:07:00 UTC
Did your experiences influence your opinion of rich people?
Sarbanes_Foxy104 karma2013-01-07 02:27:22 UTC
Not really. My parents were upper middle class, and really, rich people are just like normal people, they just have different sets of worries.
It did really make me see the transparency of social climbing.
notathr0waway194 karma2013-01-07 03:53:02 UTC
"transparency of social climbing?" Can you elaborate please?
Sarbanes_Foxy53 karma2013-01-07 11:39:12 UTC
You may have someone that you dislike a little bit, but when you're both wealthy, it comes out in trying to one up each other with objects, purchases, getting your kid into that exclusive ballet school. It's all out in the open, and you know that people are consciously trying to do better than you, and saying really terrible things about you.
IsaywhatIthink300037 karma2013-01-07 05:35:36 UTC
How many lessons did you teach the children through the medium of song? Do you have a talking umbrella?
Sarbanes_Foxy40 karma2013-01-07 11:46:48 UTC
I taught them that we have to stay off the grass after the nice man comes and sprays for ticks, and paint doesn't come with us into the bathtub. That was a good song too...
No, I have a singing poncho
Tichigo32 karma2013-01-07 02:48:41 UTC
Was it sad to leave the kids and the parents or did you not really care? Would you consider Nannying again?
Sarbanes_Foxy93 karma2013-01-07 02:53:02 UTC
It was sad to leave the younger two, I felt like I had really invested a lot on their lives. I speak German and I had even started teaching them a little bit.
It's really surreal now to see them getting older. The oldest one has a Facebook...
VicariousShaner20 karma2013-01-07 06:21:58 UTC
Is she still as spoiled rotten as she was when you were her nanny?
Sarbanes_Foxy16 karma2013-01-07 11:42:37 UTC
I really can't tell from the pictures. I would assume?
Needmo26 karma2013-01-07 03:05:45 UTC
Well, did ya steal anything?
Sarbanes_Foxy158 karma2013-01-07 03:06:04 UTC
I think I stole a package of chicken nuggets once...
HuntersReddit24 karma2013-01-07 01:21:01 UTC
How long did you nanny for them? and are you still a nanny? if not what do you do now?
Sarbanes_Foxy53 karma2013-01-07 01:24:48 UTC
Roughly two years. I was a nanny my last two years of college, and also working retail about 5-10 hours a week. I'm no longer a nanny, now I work as an auditor.
casualhobos25 karma2013-01-07 01:44:17 UTC
Sarbanes_Foxy47 karma2013-01-07 01:51:16 UTC
*I had quite a bit of time in the morning and between classes when they were in kindergarten/pre-school to study. I also had two days a week off (which, ironically, the mother hired ANOTHER nanny to come in for those days). I only worked retail on Saturday or Sunday mornings, and the job was extremely easy.
*No, not really. I sort of felt like a mother figure to the children, because they rarely saw their own mother, but they weren't capable of asking for advice or getting into the shenanigans like on the show.
*I once had to clean an ant farm that had fallen on the kitchen floor. I also had to clean Flarp (google it) from the inside of the dryer.
*Kaboom is amazing.
buttons30114 karma2013-01-07 02:15:59 UTC
Flarp is one resilient substance. Source: When I was younger, my baby sister and her friend took my Flarp and ground it into the carpet.
Sarbanes_Foxy32 karma2013-01-07 02:34:23 UTC
God save whoever got that mess out of the carpet. Baked Flarp has a smell that I cannot un-smell.
BrevityBrony24 karma2013-01-07 05:18:59 UTC
Have you ever been paid a little bit more to pretend like something didn't happen?
Sarbanes_Foxy20 karma2013-01-07 11:46:06 UTC
Never. I have been paid when the kids destroyed my stuff tho.
mwlgo620 karma2013-01-07 03:11:33 UTC
Did you have any situations that the level of discipline required was more than you could administer? If so, what was it?
Thanks for the AMA.
Sarbanes_Foxy14 karma2013-01-07 11:44:00 UTC
That was generally when they started fighting with each other. They used the threat "I'm going to tell DAD!" on each other all the time. Which never really worked because he wasn't there a lot. If the fighting got really bad or if they broke something, I had to let a parent know.
Also when the older one discovered swears, I had to get mom involved.
JollyRogerPipes19 karma2013-01-07 01:38:48 UTC
How many Ferrari's did they own?
Sarbanes_Foxy53 karma2013-01-07 01:40:35 UTC
Lol, none actually. Their nicest car was a Porsche Cayenne for transporting children. Dad had a motorcycle, an Indian I believe.
ILoveNegKarma17 karma2013-01-07 03:10:21 UTC
hi, I've been thinking about studying to become an auditor. how is the pay/benefits starting off and where does it plateau?
Sarbanes_Foxy24 karma2013-01-07 03:19:38 UTC
I'm in Atlanta. Starts around 55 and plateaus at partner if you stay with the firm route
thunderedclouds15 karma2013-01-07 02:51:42 UTC
Did you feel like Jane Eyre?
Sarbanes_Foxy64 karma2013-01-07 02:54:22 UTC
Not really, as I am not an orphan and did not attend a girl's school. They may have had a ghost or two and the cleaning lady was always good for a yarn when I caught her in the right mood.
Rock_it_Scientist12 karma2013-01-07 04:43:06 UTC
How did they want the children disciplined? Spank, scold, take away their stuff? By the sounds of it they were pretty awful kids. Did ANY discipline work?
Sarbanes_Foxy11 karma2013-01-07 11:47:19 UTC
On the younger two, yes. The older smartened up a bit when she started kindergarten and had to start interacting with other children. They weren't going to take her shit.
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