Hello Reddit. I am a convicted sex offender who spent 7+ years in state & private prison, did treatment, finished parole. AMA!
Hello everybody. I apologize for the lengthy description but I just wanted to lay out a framework because the pieces are their own stories as well but it's also all one big experience.
When I was a senior in high school I committed a sex offense against a 12 year old girl. I knew her from school (very small school, 7th - 12th grade combined in one building/study halls, etc). I don't think specifics are necessary, however there was no physical force, violence (or threat of), used during my offense.
I was initially given a stayed sentence with a little jail time to serve. With a plea agreement that I'd be on probation for 15 years, and follow all of the terms, which included attending sex offender treatment a long with your typical no substance use, no contact with minors, etc.
As a stupid (adult) teenager, I didn't know how deep of trouble I had gotten myself into so I didn't take the initial sentencing seriously and when I was released from jail continued to have contact with minors (half my friends were still 17, for example so I justified that being "ok") and other things that were violations of my probation agreement like smoking weed.
This along with my inability to really do any kind of meaningful work during my sessions at sex offender treatment led to an eventual execution of my full 144 month (12 year) sentence.. which was a shock, to say the least.
My time incarcerated was split almost 50/50 between state run facilities and a private prison. Both had their ups, both had their downs. My final 3 years I participated in sex offender treatment in prison, 6 hours a day - 5 days a week. Some form of group therapy, classes, or individual sessions with a psychologist.
A lot of lights came on for me in treatment and I spent a good deal of time learning about myself and how I've impacted other people and their lifestyles. I think I really embraced the opportunity to make myself a better person (as much as I could) and still use a lot of the tools I learned in there, in my every day life.
I served 7.5 years (good behavior, time served) and then another 5 years on parole. Parole and probation are two entirely different things, btw. Even though I graduated treatment in prison, I was still required to attend treatment when I was released. I showed them all the work I had done while in prison, and was recommended for aftercare (fast track) to completion.
I had to take polygraphs to prove my written sexual histories didn't contain any more forms of victimization or any other offenses I hadn't admitted to. As well as to confirm truthfulness in sexual fantasies and attractions, etc.
Finally last year, I was finished with my sentence. I'm still registered on my states predatory offender registry (and will be, for life) -- but I am officially no longer incarcerated or on supervision. I even managed to get registered to vote in time for last years midterms.
Sorry for the wall of text.
Feel free to ask me anything!
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EDIT Well I've been at this awhile so I'm going to call it. I want to thank everybody for their awesome questions. I'm genuinely surprised at how civil the conversation was, so kudos to everybody for that. Thanks again! Have a good night Reddit.