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IamA Adoptee who just met his identical twin brother for the first time. AMA
EDIT: Seems like i'm still doing this! haha - keep the questions coming. i'll come back and answer each day!!!!!
Howdy. My name is Dan, i'm a Korean adoptee who just met his biological family, including an identical twin brother i never knew about for the first time and it's been stupid crazy ever since. We made a documentary about it. I also rap! Twitter/Instagram: @DANakaDAN
- Check out the doc here: http://youtu.be/OzGHY6enzDs
- Check out my music here: http://youtu.be/ABazRWEvu18
- Check out this funny cat video here: http://youtu.be/jAT9MpKCVpQ
My Proof: http://i.imgur.com/WWXgQgj.jpg | http://twitter.com/DANakaDAN
Vaguely_Reckless16 karma
Have you discovered that the two of you share any specific mannerisms or habits?
bloopeeriod3 karma
Toonses the driving cat can. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9n1cqbvCpDg
omg_pwnies2 karma
Just not very well.
(ed: I can't remember dialogue from 26 years ago very well. :p )
crimsonros310 karma
I just got in touch with my father and his family as well and didn't know I had an older sister on that side... I wasn't told anything of that side even though they lived like 30 mins from me my entire life and had no contact or knowledge of who they were. My question is were you told you were adopted and did you take any unusual measures to find out more information... in other words how did the adoption affect you your entire life and why did they just keep your twin?
DANakaDAN20 karma
great question - I was told that I was adopted - i'm Korean and my parents are caucasian - so I was very self aware my entire life. I'd say the adoption greatly affected me during my life - definitely gave me a unique view on how i see myself and the world. My biological family said that we were both very sick when i was younger and they were very poor- so they could only afford one of us- my brother got better and i remained sick- so they thought i'd be in better care with an adoption agency.
reck0nr6 karma
Not at all because of your ethnic background, but this would make a great Korean drama xD
sewsnap2 karma
As a mother, I could not imagine how much that sucked. How did your mom get through it? Was she told that you got better when you were little?
slimwallet9 karma
Do you guys sound the same? Did your environment affect how your voices developed?
DANakaDAN24 karma
i think that the environment totally affected the way we sound. Because of the different languages (korean and english) - has definitely shaped our vox. i'm a little bit more higher pitched. He sounds like Matthew Perry. If Matthew Perry was Korean and Younger.
reck0nr8 karma
Is your brother musically talented as well?
EDIT: HOLY shit you're Dan! I've seen your work before through Kollaboration - had no idea you were Korean lol. I enjoy your work, keep it up, OP :)
DANakaDAN9 karma
thanks! I'm only KINDA korean though. Only my blood and skin and body are korean. my mind is probably a mix of other stuff.
whiskeyfox446 karma
Have you tried harmonizing with your twin brother? Technically, it should be pitch perfect.
DANakaDAN19 karma
Weird Al. That's not even a joke. I listened to a lot of Weird Al and Dr. Dre when I was younger.
hellosoph4 karma
Hi Dan! Do you have any plans with your Korean family in the near future?
And when are you releasing that collab song with your brother?
Welcome to Reddit. :)
DANakaDAN4 karma
Get outta here Sophia! No Sophia's allowed!
Also- yes! I do have plans with my Korean Family in the future - i'll be seeing them hopefully in a few months! I think i'll release the song sometime this month? That sound good?
hibryd4 karma
I would imagine that identical twins raised apart would be a scientific data treasure trove, and it's probably not very common. Have you been approached to be in any studies?
DANakaDAN4 karma
no! but i'd really love to. RiGHT? i think there's a lot to learn. someone study us!
DANakaDAN11 karma
we both enjoy rainy days and have scoliosis! Thanks Slimwallet! Who is this?!
DANakaDAN4 karma
They kept my brother, but I was put up for adoption. He remained in Korea and I was adopted to the United States.
passtheawkwardsauce3 karma
Would you rather fight 100 duck-sized horses or 1 horse-sized duck?
rinjin3 karma
Watched your Youtube series about you meeting your family, it was really great.
Have you kept in contact with your biological family after your initial meeting?
DANakaDAN5 karma
i have! it's been great how easy the internet and mobile texting apps make it. we talk through skype and kakao! it's really nice. i've been out to visit once more after the original trip
rickwinston2 karma
I also had a korean roommate who was adopted when I went to MSU. Maybe you're a triplet!
souverianwerewe3 karma
Wow, just looked around and checked out your story, incredibly fascinating. What are your long term goals with your birth family? Do you want to try to visit them again in Korea or have them come to America? Are you satisfied with just having met them, and possibly maybe move on from there?
Also I saw you have a younger sister who is also adopted, has she tried to find her birth family?
DANakaDAN2 karma
Thanks so much! i hope to continue my relationship with them - i think it'll be a long time though before i really get to know them. I do want to visit them in korea and have them come to America too. I don't think i'd move there. She has not
mokoyo2 karma
How do you get over the language barrier? Will both of you be learning a new language?
DANakaDAN2 karma
it's tough! i don't think we ever will.....i want to learn korean, but it'll take time
TheFakeTomTelesco2 karma
I knew it! seriously though - cool AMA - I should ask a real question.
Are there any small details that you're surprised that the two of you either think similarly about, or small preferences regarding food, etc. that you find interesting, given your different upbringings?
DANakaDAN2 karma
Alot of interesting similarities! mainly that we're both really into hip hop!
TheManDudeGuy2 karma
DANakaDAN! I am a huge fan of your stuff!
Do you guys have a lot of common interests? Common qualities? Do you guys like the same color?
DANakaDAN2 karma
we do! We love colors and qualities! That's our favorite thing - qualities!
AfellowchuckerEh2 karma
Did you practice your 1st conversation talking to yourself in the mirror?
Quick_man2 karma
Did you two mirror each others movements like you were looking in a mirror?
DANakaDAN3 karma
yes! and it was a ton of fun especially when we had a mirror in between us!
HIIIIHELLOO2 karma
DANNNNNNNNNN!! love your documentary.
do you still keep in touch with them? how is the language barrier? do you plan on visiting your biological family more often? have you considered learning korean? any plans on a follow up documentary?
cheezzblob2 karma
Hey Dan! We met at Kollaboration Chicago, love your music and your story.
Will you be making more music anytime soon?
How would you describe your relationship to your biological family?
Welcome to Reddit by the way! :)
DANakaDAN1 karma
thanks so much! I hope so! Early 2015 maybe? I've got a good relationship with them. improving each day
sansational2 karma
How supportive were your adoptive parents in your search for your biological fam?
DANakaDAN4 karma
incredibly supportive - they were right behind me every step of the way. I'm very grateful
Goodwizzle1 karma
Have you ever read The Third Twin? Look into it!
Also, are you the son of the guy that posted on here a while back about adopting what he thought was a chinese son only to find out 17 years later that he was actually korean?
hpetey131 karma
Hi Dan! I am a Korean adoptee as well, adopted through Eastern. I want to begin the process, but I'm not really sure how or if I'm ready to try to find my birth mother/family. Do you have any advice?
terrapat2 karma
I was adopted through Eastern as well. I met my birth family a few months ago. The information you are looking for can be found on the website
http://adoption.eastern.or.kr/eastern/main/view.jsp?c_no=002003002
and you can get in contact with someone from the office at this email: [email protected]
I don't have much advice for whether or not you should. A birth search is really just about you so people have many reasons for doing it. Personally, I was curious about who I looked like and whether or not I had any family medical history. I think it's better to look as soon as you are ready because the younger both of you are, the easier it might be to build a lasting relationship *provided that is something you both want.
DANakaDAN2 karma
Thanks for this info Terrapat! please feel free to email me at [email protected] and i can respond with more info.
-Pandamonium1 karma
Hey Dan! I've been a big fan of your music since I saw you documentary on ISA. I have two questions. 1) When is your next album releasing? 2) In your songs from what I can understand you are very conflicted with meeting your biological family and it made me wonder how everything is and your current relationship with your family. Do you plan on living with them, alone, or staying with your adoptive parents?
DANakaDAN2 karma
thanks so much! 1. hopefully will do another one early 2015. 2. That's a good question - will defintiely stay in touch with them - but i'm at a place in my life where i think i'm pretty set with living in the US for a long time. hopefully will know more soon
DANakaDAN2 karma
Yes. They were all very bad interns though and had to be punished. Lots of spankings were had.
Jeff4eyp1 karma
Hey Dan you're a beast! Have you ever thought about acting in one of Wong Fu Production's shorts?
jpfukumae1 karma
In your videos I heard you say "cool cool cool" once. Do you pull your inspirations from Abed or is that your own unique catch phrase?
jpfukumae1 karma
If you had the choice between 1 million dollars or owning a real life Pikachu, what would you choose? And why?
tkdjdgrl1 karma
Dan! I loved watching your documentary, thanks for letting your fans follow your journey!
My questions are: - How much Korean culture did you grow up with, both from your adoptive family and your environment? - Since meeting your family, have you become more interested in the culture, learning Korean, etc?
Thanks!
EDIT: Come to the East Coast!
Enfrag1 karma
So do you speak Korean or does he speak english or do you both know both? Can you write me 16 bars right here right now? are you from the bay? Do you play league of legends? Tell me a cool talent you have please? What's your opinion on Kanye west I ask because I saw on your Instagram you were in Chicago? Who is your favorite artist?
DANakaDAN3 karma
- He speaks english - so it's easier. but not that much
- hi, bye, lie, die, try, sigh, guy, mye, mai, rye, tai, tye, gry, fry, pry, nye (you really have to say the words slowly - and there you ahve it!
- no i do not! no league
- i'm from LA
- i can make it rain!
- i love kanye west
- kanye west or vin deisel
sirussimons1 karma
When you spent some time with your twin for the first time, did you sense that you knew what he was thinking like how twins do?
Kaywin1 karma
Hello, fellow adoptee!
What questions about your adoptee status by non-adoptees really grind your gears? Mine are anything that contains the expression "my real mom." Honorable mention goes to my friend from middle school who asked me if I "remembered the orphanage."
DANakaDAN1 karma
that question about the real mom definitely gets me too. HMM..i'd have to think about that. I think asking me about how asian i feel is a little strange too
MajesticSeaFerret1 karma
Your music is awesome! That's not really a question though...
Your music is awesome?
Pandasaysthis1 karma
Hey Dan! Been a fan ever since I saw you perform at korus festival in northern VA, absolutely killed it!
My question is what are some shared activities that you and your brother might have and which do you enjoy the most??
DANakaDAN1 karma
thanks so much! glad you were there! Definitely hip hop. we both have very similar tastes in music and style
DANakaDAN36 karma
i don't know how to use reddit.
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