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PARADOX002442 karma

Do they call you the flamethrower?

IDontWannaLook79 karma


PaulMcgranite114 karma

They should.

IDontWannaLook31 karma


NotSid119 karma

how appropriate is your username in this situation?

IDontWannaLook175 karma

Very. Sometimes you gotta see things that you can't unsee.

vinnnce108 karma

Do you get hit on often?

IDontWannaLook200 karma

Yeah, but I think most people do it in the hopes of getting special treatment. I get hit on by women too, and it doesn't fool me.

Koala_waffle81 karma


IDontWannaLook164 karma

Yes, straight women included. It's not worth losing a well paying job or having the girl say made her do something she didn't want to.

punchbunny78 karma

The funniest/worst experience you've ever had in your occupation?

IDontWannaLook311 karma

My first night I walked in on two guys. One was bent over with his fingers stretching his asshole out, and one was putting a rubber on. I saw right up the dude's colon and couldn't unsee it.

Funniest is tough to say because I try to find the humor in everything. Maybe the bachelorette party that thought I was gay and one of them shoved her tits in my face. One of the regulars laughed his was off and shouted "He's a HETERO!!!!!"

It was awkward for them.

PatternWolf157 karma

I've never understood why women were so free sexually with men who they know don't get off on it.

IDontWannaLook281 karma

They can be free and silly without feeling threatened.

Wrestlingisgood62 karma

how did you get this job?

IDontWannaLook107 karma

I knew my boss prior to starting this gig. I tried it out for one night, and while it was traumatizing, the pay is worth it.

xdiegofuego48 karma

Traumatizing? How so?

IDontWannaLook171 karma

Saw a guy stretching his as whole open.

Wrestlingisgood41 karma


IDontWannaLook222 karma

To make room for the penis of the guy putting a condom on.

TheRedditDoctor70 karma

Is that... legal?

Edit: I mean sex in a club, not gay sex.

IDontWannaLook143 karma

Nope. That's why we try to prevent it.

mirkle25 karma

Why? Was he already inside the asshole?

IDontWannaLook30 karma


Bigtmac1917 karma

His asshole?

IDontWannaLook88 karma

Yes autocorrect is an asshole

TheExplodingChimp9 karma

I don't want to diminish what you do.... but do you pretty much just need to be intimidating looking to get into this work? I've been thinking about doing this since I'm a large man with scary steely blue eyes and large beard.

IDontWannaLook27 karma

No, I don't want to make well paying customers to feel uncomfortable. I am a professional and I try to keep stupid things from happening before they happen.

Ron_Donald57 karma

Has your work changed your perspective on gay people somehow?

IDontWannaLook178 karma

I was raised to treat everybody equally. There's a lot of intelligent, successful, and respectable people. There's a lot of people who perpetuate the stereotype by being sassy, rude, and lewd (like fucking in the bathroom).

That said, I understand drag queens a lot more. They're pretty chill, and usually have my back.

Hollowbody57143 karma

I just imagined a crowd of drag queens throwing an unruly customer out the door. I giggled a little.

IDontWannaLook211 karma

They really are helpful. They'll point things out to me, or some of the burly ones will tell the unruly customers to leave before I can even get over there! They love me because as one of them said, "He's SOOO CHIVALROUS!!!"

ScotchandTweed92 karma

As a former drag queen I totally get this. I used to work at my town's bar and performed there. It was our home and the bartenders and bouncers were our family. We liked to play momma bird. Don't be fuckin with the drag queens!

IDontWannaLook130 karma

You go, girl.

theorig50 karma


IDontWannaLook84 karma

No, that's why God made bar backs.

Shinyface65 karma

I used to be a bar back in a bar, and we never had to clean up blood. We had a punching machine and whichever bouncer hit the lowest had to. It was a good system

IDontWannaLook77 karma

Cool story. I would simply refuse.

woodz199146 karma

For someone looking to start bouncing, are job opportunities greater for those who are taller?

I'm 5'8 and reckon i'm too short to give off that kind of "presence"

IDontWannaLook89 karma

A taller and stronger guy is preferable, but it means nothing if you are not professional, courteous, and alert.

kingoff00ls17 karma

5'6'' and I powerlift. No dice right?

IDontWannaLook23 karma

Read the comment above.

britishpete22 karma

Ha ha! You sound like a bouncer answering these questions. "Oh! I already told you! Move along!"

IDontWannaLook12 karma

I didn't feel like answering the same thing over and over.

Chrono8033 karma

Something similar to this I've always wondered about. Why would a bar hire someone overweight as a bouncer? Is it more for an intimidation factor?

IDontWannaLook11 karma

Some places would rather have a fat douchebag at the door and pay him minimum wage as opposed to a professional. Those places have less success and more lawsuits.

oneday75246 karma

Have you ever spotted a friend/relative at the bar that you didn't know was gay?

IDontWannaLook104 karma

I've seen a few friends/classmates there. Only one surprised me.

WG4760 karma

You do know you don't have to be gay to go to a gay bar, right? Straight people have gay friends who sometimes wanna go to gay bars.

IDontWannaLook60 karma

This is true. I've seen straight girls I know in there.

Wrestlingisgood37 karma

Do gay bar fights really happen? if so are they campy?

IDontWannaLook62 karma

We keep a tight lid on things and are proactive when it comes to keeping trouble makers out. I've broken up a few fights and have gotten there before it even came to blows.

deltopia36 karma

Do your colleagues/bartenders/owners split tips with you? Do you work hourly, or is the number of customers a factor in your pay?

IDontWannaLook56 karma

They do not share tips with me, even when their patrons (some who are regulars) pass out, lose control of their bodily fluids, or cause other problems as a result of the bartenders consciously overseeing them. Some bartenders will do anything for their tips, whether it's dangerously overseeing people, or attempting to pour drinks after last call, when people should be leaving.

SmugMacGyver13 karma

Coming from a bartender that takes care of his barracks/security that sucks they over serve then call on you to deal with it. Sorry man.

IDontWannaLook8 karma

It's ok, there are bartenders and DJs who work with me, not against me. Most of the bartenders are assholes like that, though.

NotaPeckerwood26 karma

This could be interpreted two ways. Do you keep all the straight men out or are you straight?

IDontWannaLook36 karma

I am straight.

samsung144323 karma

1-what nationalities do you get at the bar? 2-has any fights or drama erupted in the bar? 3-what forced you to do such a job? 4-how much do you make?

thanks buddy :D

IDontWannaLook43 karma

1 All kinds

2 Answered already

3 It pays well and it's really not that bad.

4 $30 an hour

DCdictator27 karma

You make more than most nurses

IDontWannaLook125 karma

No benefits or job security, though.

That said, nurses should make more. They're real heroes.

OAGSpengler19 karma

Have you developed any negative views of homosexuals as a result of what you've seen?

IDontWannaLook107 karma

No, nasty people are everywhere, and they come in all varieties. A lot of the regulars are kind and caring people.

doublrainbow6 karma

Have you ever become friends with any of the 'regulars' and hang out with them outside of the bar?

IDontWannaLook14 karma


LiveChaz19 karma

Do the gay people who like you introduce you to their hot, straight female friends?

IDontWannaLook77 karma

I wish they did.

Wrestlingisgood18 karma

Ok, ill ask it.

Have you ever had to throw some one out for using a gloryhole?

IDontWannaLook41 karma

Using a glory hole? No.

Using the bathroom as a sex/drug den, yes. My first night I walked in on two guys. One was bent over with his fingers stretching his asshole out, and one was putting a rubber on.

lemonade_rage123417 karma

Damn, this makes me want to be what you are.

How long do you work each night, and starting at what time?

IDontWannaLook28 karma

The time varies.

Why do you want to be what I am?

lemonade_rage123414 karma

Sounds quite fun and amusing, I don't know exactly why though.

Also, 30$/hour seems like a fair amount.

Do you imagine yourself in your job for many more years to come or are you planning on getting a new job, some time in life?

IDontWannaLook29 karma

I'm looking for a full time job with benefits but this economy blows.

DatAntagonist17 karma

Do you work for Gay Tony?

IDontWannaLook33 karma

No, he kept asking me to try his "sauseege."

maylillylee15 karma

What does a gay bar fight look like?

IDontWannaLook38 karma

Rough, these guys are in good shape.

BallnOnABudget14 karma

Has a gay guy ever intentionally tried to get himself thrown out, just because he wanted you to manhandle him?

IDontWannaLook35 karma

Not that I know of. I try not to manhandle anybody.

constipated_pig13 karma

I work with a guy who was working weekends as a bouncer at a gay bar. He quit doing it because there was so much drama he couldn't deal with it.

IDontWannaLook14 karma

Some people aren't cut out for it. Some bouncers only make $10/hr. That ain't worth it to me.

TJPMPotatoes13 karma


IDontWannaLook18 karma

Not sure how to prove it without revealing where I work. A photo of my security shirt? That's kind of weak though.

GiantPandaCunt10 karma

Is there a technique to throwing someone out? The only time I was ever thrown out of a bar, it was by a very courteous bouncer that secured me by my belt and shirt collar. I was also so drunk I had passed out on the floor of the bathroom at this shitty dive...

IDontWannaLook27 karma

I ask people to step outside so I can talk to them. They usually go. If I have to move you, I'll call for backup if possible. If there's no backup, I do it as safely as possible. I don't grab people by the throat or do anything violent if they're nonviolent. That said, my safety trumps your safety.

benosmartin10 karma

do you enjoy it?

IDontWannaLook23 karma

When it's not stressful, yes. Better than being a couch potato.

Cloveny9 karma

What do you actually earn for this and have you ever tried bouncing at a "normal" bar?

IDontWannaLook25 karma

$30 US an hour.

I've done it at straight bars, but they don't pay as well.

KissTheBlade5 karma

Why do you think the gay bar pays better?

IDontWannaLook14 karma

Less reliable guys that are willing to work there. Also, the nature of problems can get weird.

ericsegal8 karma

How much do you weigh? Muscular, fat, both?

IDontWannaLook25 karma

I'm 5'11" and 235lbs. I frequent /r/fitness and have played varsity sports. I'm both, though. I'm strong and mostly solid, but with a beer gut.

XtotheV8 karma

Do anyone ever offer to take you home at the end of the night?

IDontWannaLook14 karma


CRad_BBF8 karma

do you tend to get less people underage trying to get in without id or is it more or less the same?

also is it less violent than a 'normal' bar/club?

IDontWannaLook48 karma

Every night I get fakes, IDs that don't belong to the person using it, people who aren't 21 and hand me their ID thinking that I won't look at the date of birth. I also get underage kids who say "Oh, I lost it/I left it at home/my dog ate it," or older guys who try to bring their boy toys in by saying, "he's with me." Cool story bro, you still need ID.

nitroswingfish4 karma

How often do you rough up gay bashers? Met some bouncers once that told me they are told by management to absolutely destroy anybody coming around looking to hassle the patrons.

IDontWannaLook7 karma

I don't let them in to begin with.

HeadsetOnWorldOff3 karma

have you ever gotten lucky/got laid/scored/made-out with any girl that one of your gay patrons brought to the bar? follow-up, same question but replace the word "girl" with the word "guy".

IDontWannaLook5 karma


sirwiggum2 karma

The biggest gay bar in Belfast, The Kremlin, is known for having a fantastic after hours nightclub, even for straights.

IDontWannaLook12 karma

Straight people come to my bar as well. More straight women than men.

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IDontWannaLook10 karma

Never. That's a stereotype. Plus, I don't dress for fashion when I work.