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hillsfar189 karma

I wonder if they would prosecute her for fraud, perjury, false imprisonment.

Cosmicwarmuffin278 karma

She was prosecuted for perjury and domestic abuse, punishable by up to 20 years in prison and and a $25,000 fine. My dad bailed her and now I have a restraining order.

hillsfar105 karma

How was the diagnosis found to have been falsified? Is there going to be a court trial? Does your father support her story/version of events? How are your relations with him?Who do you live with now?

Cosmicwarmuffin288 karma

The diagnosis was falsified when I proved to the court that she had abused me. I videotaped her one night when she was going off on me, and I used the evidence against her. My father refuses to acknowledge that any of it ever happened. He and my mother are still married. I live with my godfather and his family, and they have ceased to contact my real family.

hillsfar33 karma

Will there be a court trial of her? (You mentioned she was bailed.)

Cosmicwarmuffin83 karma

She's out free for now. I have a restraining order, but that's it. Nothing else has happened since the restraining order was filed.

vrosej10146 karma

Oh something almost identical happened to me. I didn't spend a much time in institutions but I spent years heavily medicated. It is a terrible place to be and I have great sympathy for you.

Cosmicwarmuffin101 karma

I have great sympathy for you as well. Thank you for the support!

McJennifer113 karma

Was there anybody along the way that believed and supported you?

Cosmicwarmuffin301 karma

I had a few kids at my high school who would see the cuts and bruises when I would show up at school. They actually came to testify in court for me.

Princess-Seh100 karma

I am sorry that you got dealt a shitty hand parentally. I sincerely mean this. Do you have any contact with your parents now?

Cosmicwarmuffin101 karma

I haven't talked to my mom for a while now. Last time I talked to my dad was Christmas. Thanks for the support! It's always nice to know that people like you exist in this world.

Sugar_Skull35 karma

Did you punch her in the face?

Edit: I'm not advocating here, just feeling emotional and angry about OP's abuse.

Cosmicwarmuffin75 karma

The only time I ever returned any violence was when she threw a bottle at me. It missed me and landed on the couch behind me so it didn't break. I picked it up and threw it back. It scraped her up pretty bad.

shrum96 karma

Well, on the brighter side of things, did you at least meet anyone cool or do you have any interesting stories?

Cosmicwarmuffin206 karma

Actually, yeah. There were a lot of really interesting people in all of the different places. I met one kid who was dealing drugs, some people tried to rob him so he stabbed and killed them. He was 14. The really interesting thing was that he was going to be in prison for most of his life after he left the clinic, but he was one of the most happy-go-lucky kids I've ever met.

InsaneGenis87 karma

When I was 13 I was placed in a hospital. I was there for 3 weeks. The last week one of the counselors told me that the staff has came to an agreement that its my parents who belong in a hospital. When I turn 18 I should consider moving out as fast as possible.

One of the most frustrating things in my life. I had a brother that was in on the abuse also. When I was 16 he put a gun to my head and threatened to kill me. My parents felt I did something to deserve it and punished him by having him keep his gun in his car instead of the house. I contacted my psychologist from when I was younger. He told my parents in front of me that they kick my brother out (he was 19) or he goes to the police.

My abuse wasn't as bad as yours OP, but I know the feeling. My mother and brother believe they have food allergies and tried to make me believe I had them also when I was younger. Just weird shit.

Cosmicwarmuffin57 karma

Sound's horrifying. I'm glad you could share your experience. I'm sorry that happened to you.

treyisajedi9376 karma

Why did they just believe her when she said 'no.' I would hope there was a more thorough investigation.

Cosmicwarmuffin118 karma

Because my dad also denied that she did. It went to court, and it wasn't until I was living at home again and set up a camera to record it that the court actually believed me.

CaramelCreme76 karma

Seriouslly fucked up shit.

Physical, mental or emotional abuse? Physical would have been easy to prove I hope.

Cosmicwarmuffin81 karma

Mainly physical and emotional. It's been a while, but I do have scars. I didn't think this thread would have been interested in that though.

randomcharacters4261 karma

Do you think you ever be able to forgive her?

Cosmicwarmuffin108 karma

Actually, one of the positive's of one institution was that it helped me a lot with forgiving and forgetting. It's hard to forget, but I have forgiven her for some of the things she has done.

HugYouSoHard58 karma

As a therapist, first I am so sorry you had to go through all of this, it's awful. Second, I'm curious why it took so long to convince the professionals that you weren't schizophrenic. How many assessments were done? Did you see a licensed psychologist? I feel appalled-- if the proper assessments and testing were done it shouldn't have taken so long to prove your mental status. Maybe I'm missing part of the story-- but either way I'm glad everything turned out as good as it could be for you now.

Cosmicwarmuffin52 karma

I don't know if you're the kind of therapist that works inside of a facility or not, but if you are you may know that the doctors see the patients about once a week. And because I continued to accuse my mother of abuse, they continued to think there was something wrong with me. So I never saw them enough to really have a good conversation about what happened.

amphetaminesfailure28 karma

None of the doctors or other mental health professionals in the different institutions you were in were able to realize that you were not schizophrenic?

Cosmicwarmuffin46 karma

The doctors thought I was because they didn't really see us that much. We would go in and talk with real professionals about once a week. We mainly saw the nurses and night guards, and most of them actually didn't believe I was schizophrenic after a few weeks, but then I would be sent to another clinic and it would start all over again.

imnotreallypjottr6 karma

What type of schizofrenia did they diagnose you with and what arguments did they have for their diagnosis?

Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

Undifferentiated. I was really paranoid about my mom, so schizophrenic paranoia was justification. They also assumed that I really believed my mom abused me when she said she didn't. I mean I did believe it because it's true, but they didn't think it was true.

secretcrazy3 karma

Have you put in requests for your hospitalization records? This is very easy to do. Just contact the hospitals records office. You pay have to pay a small copying fee.

I'm very confused about how they could think it was schizophrenia when it was not. Were you otherwise in a lot of distress? Is is possible they thought you were a danger to yourself and that that the primary reason for hospitalization rather than schizophrenia? Even if you did have schizophrenia that wouldn't justify a years worth of hospitalization without being a danger to yourself or others. There's a shortage fo hospital beds and more often than not people are forced to leave before they're ready so I'm finding this confusing. OP not doubting you, but can you clarify things?

Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

So I was pretty terrified of my mom. I would freak out when I saw her. It made me pretty paranoid, actually. The problem was that people viewed her as a harmless person so the paranoia wasn't justified. Sorry, I probably should've clarified that. Also, I don't really want my hospital records. I have no interest in seeing them.

btbrian3 karma

What if the twist at the end of this AMA is that you actually are schizophrenic, and your mom was a ghost the entire time?


Cosmicwarmuffin3 karma

I mean I know this a serious thread and I'm trying to be serious, but that was funny.

thinburrito3 karma


Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

I'm sorry that happened to you too! Hugs right back at you! I hope you're ok too.

WickerSandman3 karma

I had to stay in a similar institution, on account of being in the hospital for attempted suicide for a third time. I was only there for a month, but I remember at night, every 15 minutes a nurse would open my door to check on me. Did they do that for you as well? Maybe it was just because I was on suicide watch haha I actually had a great time during the day. We played a lot of games, I flirted with nurses, and the snacks were awesome. Is that the same situation you had? Or was it more like the cliché movie mental wards with cells? (Sorry for the horrid formatting, I'm on my phone)

Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

I'm sorry that happened! But answering your question, there was one padded cell where people were put if they behaved poorly. The other patients were really the most horrifying part.

IAmADudette3 karma

I don't really have a question, but I want to give a small part of my story, just in the hope it makes you feel less alone if anything.

I was in a very similar situation with my mum, she was more emotionally abusive than physically as she was scared of me being able to prove her neglect, but I really don't think the type of abuse matters. Having a parent, your parent do so wrong by you is awful on any level.

I'm mid twenties now and I'm still recovering from the years of abuse, I still can't open new packets of food, and have only recently stopped asking if I can use the toilet. At my worst I was suicidal and house bound due to her abuse, but of course she denies all the abuse.

I'm so happy for you that you had god parents to take you in, and I hope you continue on the up and up in your life.

I suppose I have a question after all that, what are you going to do with your life now? What's ahead for you now you're more free?

Keep that chin up.

Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

I'm glad you could share your story. I'm sorry that all of that happened. You should keep your chin up too! As for your question, I want to be an author. I would like to write stories based on the many experiences I've had.

Zamr2 karma

Didnt it take more than a mothers deranged accusations to put such a serious diagnosis as schizophrenia?

Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

Well who does society like more, adults or adolescents? Who do you think you are more likely to believe?

kugzly2 karma

Remember that you are in Texas. Texas is fucked.

Cosmicwarmuffin2 karma

You sir are a funny person.

VonSnoe1 karma

What person did you tell that you where being abused at home? Going through something like this must be tough as hell and im just guessing but i assume you told someone that you felt that you could trust? Did that person stick with you through out this ordeal or did that person bail on you once you got instutionalised?

Cosmicwarmuffin1 karma

I told one of my best friends, and they told their parents. Their parents called the police on her. My friend stuck with me because he had seen the scratches and bruises at school.