My mother was murdered by my father when I was 18. AMA
My parents had been in a nasty divorce for about 4 years. It was almost over (about to be decreed by the courts), my father broke into the house where my brother and I lived with my mother and killed her. Physical violence had never been an aspect of their relationship in the past, to my knowledge.
My mother had been taking care of my brother and I by herself for 4 years. My father was self employed and hid his income from the court so he had to pay minimal child support. He rarely paid. Afterwards, we depended on relatives for support. I was in college but I dropped out because it was too hard with the grief. Some relatives were great, others kept my mom's life insurance money. It's been hard.
After almost 2 decades my dream is to start a non-profit that helps young people who have lost a parent graduate from college. I'm working on it slowly. I'd love to hear from anyone who has lost a parent what would have helped you or what did help you the most. PM me.
Most popular question: "How did he kill her?" Answer: Her death certificate says "blunt force trauma and asphyxiation". Her hyoid bone was broken according to the autopsy. That is not an easy thing to do. There were also many (in the 50s, if I remember correctly) deep bruises all over her body. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyoid_bone#Fracture_and_applied_anatomy (of note- the "fracture and applied anatomy" section)
I am submitting proof to the mods because doing so reveals my name and location. My proof has been verified. There is a post that says so if you care to find it.
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