IAMA Man who had a sexual relationship with his mother. Verified

Update 6/6/12 I will no longer be answering questions on the AMA

Most the the questions have already been answered

It has been a fun five months. Thanks

I will post info when the Dr/Researcher's work is made available

When I was in my teens, I had a sexual relationship with my mother. I think that we would both characterize the experience as positive. Please fee free to ask anything but I will not discuss anything that would reveal my identity. Recently, my mom and I spoke with a researcher that is studying example of incest that were not traumatic. He is preparing a paper on the subject. I am not an advocate for incest. For whatever reason, it worked for us. Don't use use my experience as a template. I am here to relate my experience, not debate incest as a subject.

Here are a few FAQs that people will probably ask:

It started when I was 14, my mom was 37

I have an older sister that was unaware and not involved.

My dad knew about it from the beginning and supported my mom's decision.

It ended around college.

Edit 1 I am probably missing question but I will go back and answer anything that I missed.

Edit 2 Verification took about a month of going back and forth with a researcher that verified both my mom's and my identity for his research. He reached out to the mods and verified with them. It was also verified that he is who he says he is and that his field of practice is child psychology and sexual research.

Edit 3 I need to leave for a little while but will be back to answer questions that haven't been answered.

Edit 4 I will continue to try to answer questions from the AMA as well as PMs but I need to call it a day. Thank you for the questions. 1pm PST

Edit 5 December 28 I am happy to continue answering questions if any are posted. I am going through the AMA now and trying to cover it. Too clear up one thing that people have been commenting about. My father and sister did not have a sexual relationship. Like I said, my sister was not wired that way. Plus, I did bring this up with my mom as our sexual relationship progressed. She said that my dad wasn't I treated and that my sister certainly wouldn't want to be involved. She said that my dad was jealous of the relationship that mom and I had but that he harbored no lustful thoughts towards my sister. There was no reason for my mom to lie to me about that back then. It certainly would have made the sneaking around a lot easier when my sister was at the house.

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remisser1317 karma

If you ever have a son, would you support your wife if the same situation arose?

verifiedson1464 karma

Probably not

markstrech1223 karma

Did you get confused when your dad asked you to seed the lawn during the summer?

verifiedson460 karma


SickPervert1021 karma


  1. What did you guys do?

  2. Why was your father supportive?

  3. Why did this even happen?

  4. Why?

verifiedson775 karma

It started with her masturbating me. Progressed to her giving me oral and eventually we had sex/made love. It was a slow progression.

remisser751 karma

Were you ever attracted to your sister?

verifiedson1062 karma

Yes, but not overly.

mkymonkey721 karma

  1. How was the first time you had sex with her. I mean, full on intercourse.
  2. Do you remember what was going through your mind?
  3. How did she react afterwards. I mean, did she just leave your room and go to her bedroom with dad?
  4. What was it like at breakfast the next day? Did you guys talk about it?
  5. You say it was clinical, did she walk you through things? Did she teach you how to do certain... maneuvers?
  6. Have you ever told your sister? I think you're gonna say no as you haven't told the woman you plan to marry.

This is very interesting to me and of course repulsive as I cannot imagine ever doing that with my mother. Nor have my wife do that with my child. But I am very curious and would love to know the thoughts that were going through your head. Incest is one thing people just do not volunteer. Even though you're remaining anonymous, I applaud you in your efforts in trying to shed some light for the rest of us.

verifiedson1243 karma

Well, The first time we had intercourse, I was lying in bed getting oral from her. In the middle of it, she stopped, climbed up my body, pulled her panties aside and sat on me. She was wearing a long Tshirt. She told me not to cum and she rode me for about a minute and came. She then finished me with her mouth. My head was spinning.

Sometimes it was discussed at the table but not with my dad around.

I would never tell anyone I know.

kmentropy648 karma

Who started the interactions?

Was your dad ever present?

verifiedson1360 karma

Well, without giving away too info, I was injured in an accident at 14 and incapacitated. I went from masturbating 2 times a day to zero. After 2 weeks, I was frustrated and took it out on my parents. My mom and dad knew what was up and talked about my mom "helping" me masturbate. The approached me one afternoon and wWhen my mom said, I know you are frustrated and why you are frustrated would you like some help masturbating. Blood was rushing in my ears and I said yes but I really didn't know if she meant what I thought she meant. I was excited and confused. She said that she would take care of me when I went to bed. Hours away.

IfailedEnglish400 karma

So you were incapacitated when this started, was this permanent (ie: quad/paraplegic) or was it just temporary? if it was temporary did the relationship extend beyond you being unable to take care of business?

verifiedson656 karma

Yes, it was temporary. During that time, I was not sure if her masturbating me would continue one I recovered. It did continue and progressed.

verifiedson474 karma

Over the years by dad had seen us together but he never watched per se.

indigopillow595 karma

  1. Did you ever kiss? Was anything clearly off limits?
  2. How did your relationship with your mom change through those years? Did you still respect her authority as much, did you keep seeing her as a mother or did she become more of a sexual partner?
  3. Any jealousy issues when you started dating?
  4. How were interactions with your dad and your sister? Did it feel different to deal with them?
  5. What's your favorite and least favorite memory of your sexual relationship with your mother?
  6. What were your favorite sexual positions? Did you perform oral sex on her? Did anything you did feel weird? Did anything particularly turn you on (excite you more than other things)?
  7. Were your sexual dealings limited/confined to a specific place (your room, for example) or were you active in different places?
  8. Was there any close call in which you felt excited by her or did anything sexual when you shouldn't have, in public or with other people nearby?
  9. Was there any romance going on, like 'dates', watching movies together or anything like that that went beyond something purely sexual?
  10. And finally...did your sexual experience with her change the gifts you gave to each other for B-days, Christmas, Valentine's Day and the like? Did you ever give each other's clothes while thinking about removing them, or underwear that you knew you'd both like?

verifiedson533 karma

We had kissed when orgasming but it was weird and it rarely happened.

Yes, respected her authority. She never rewarded or threatened with sex.

No jealousy from her.

It happened in my room and her room.

No close calls.

No "dates" haha (it wasn't a romantic relationship)

No special presents.

jbeddo592 karma

Were you and your mom on Fear Factor a few weeks ago?

verifiedson862 karma

We came in 2nd place. :(

Mr_Weiss447 karma

Were you ever worried about babies and what not?

verifiedson609 karma

Well, my mom was on the pill and never got pregnant.

woofiegrrl394 karma

How did the researcher find you, and what made you decide to be involved with his work?

verifiedson447 karma

Well, I was aware of some of his work so he was on my radar and then I saw a notice online that he was looking for people in my situation.

overdrivecow337 karma

Was there a fear that your sister would find out?

verifiedson454 karma

There was at first but we were careful. She left for college pretty soon after it started so that made it a little easier.

kirizzel307 karma

Stupid question: Any possibility you're adopted?

verifiedson214 karma

Nope biological

HeyFlo218 karma

Did you cuddle afterwards, ever kiss passionately, or was it just straightforward sex?

verifiedson1003 karma

There was no cuddling. There once was a passionate kiss that happened during but it was weird so we didn't kiss after that. Pretty vanilla sex.

---Here, I'll say it. "Guy fucking his mom says that kissing her is weird"

the_answer_42168 karma

Do you still continue this sexual relationship today?

verifiedson324 karma

No, it ended after I left for college. It just started to slow down and then eventually stopped. There wasn't an event that ended it. I have talked to my mother and father about it over the years. The subject is not off limits. I don't think that either of us wishes it to start up again.

yuwashme134 karma

  • Why did you feel tha need of sharing this experience?*
  • Why now?
  • What happened?
  • Does your mother know, that you are discussing this right now?
  • If yes, does she agree?

verifiedson316 karma

I am new to Reddit and saw the guy with his sister. I'm not sure it he turned out to be real but either way. Most of you were not assholes about it. It seemed like an easy way to inform and share. It is a bit cathartic to answer questions.

Nutshell38125 karma

Did you ever talk dirty to each other?

verifiedson227 karma

No, no dirty talk. At the beginning, she could be clinical in her description of what she was doing and I would get turned on, but not dirty dirty. At orgasm, there could be the "Oh Shit" or "Oh Fuck"

skankopotamus120 karma

Had you already lost your virginity, or was your mother your first?

verifiedson219 karma

I lost my hanjob/blowjob virginity to my mom. But intercourse was with a GF

Styleofdoggy51 karma

Did your parents ever tell you not to tell anyone outside of the household? if so how?

verifiedson49 karma

They never had to tell me, I think that it was a mutual decision.