Comments: 560 • Responses: 27 • Date: 2020-02-09 18:21:40 UTCsource
Ckuefler1045 karma2020-02-09 18:25:57 UTC
I guess the most obvious one; why???
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ComedianDavidFowles875 karma2020-02-09 19:06:06 UTC
We had an argument that was very heated. He had been drinking. Courts will decide what else was involved. My opinion is, his pride was hurt and he lost an internal battle between his self-interest and the satisfaction of hurting the imagined source of that hurt.
I was expecting to have a very strained house meeting the following day and was writing a detailed diary entry at the time of the assault.
jb3ck24548 karma2020-02-09 18:46:03 UTC
He’s actually posting answers here: Casual IAMA
ComedianDavidFowles44 karma2020-02-09 19:21:17 UTC
I’m here now, I’m just a reddit noob
Vacksta423 karma2020-02-09 18:30:20 UTC
What was the argument about?
ComedianDavidFowles363 karma2020-02-09 19:18:32 UTC
I thought things were great, turns out he was harbouring resentments. He chose to lecture me about (his mistaken understanding of) my lifestyle while he was drunk at 1am. I wasn’t having it, not one freaking minute of it. I’ve lived in that house for about two and a half years and this guy was there three months and thought he had a right to spring it on us that he smokes pot. I’m fine with people doing what they want (though it is illegal here) but not in my house, you are upfront about that stuff, there’s people for you. I’m not proud that I let him get me so furious, but I think the police are satisfied with my recounting of the night’s events, I was very detailed, didn’t embellish, didn’t make myself out to be a hero. Accuracy is really important to justice.
It wound down and I’d basically told him to start looking for somewhere else to live. I got ready for bed, lay down and wrote a diary entry about the night’s events while my cat slept next to me. He also showered etc, went to his room, then made a terrible decision.
KittenPics173 karma2020-02-09 18:32:16 UTC
Will this teach you to wash your god damn dishes after you use them?
ComedianDavidFowles11 karma2020-02-09 19:29:16 UTC
I do all the housework apart from other people’s dishes. Quite happy doing that.
7up7up7up7up7u123 karma2020-02-09 18:26:32 UTC
I wish you a speedy recovery!
What crossed your mind if anything else other than you didn't want to die?
ComedianDavidFowles111 karma2020-02-09 19:20:14 UTC
The effect this would have on everyone I know if I did die. My social community suffered a terrible loss just 18 months or so ago, also a violent murder, so a second one would have been devastating.
SoulSolemn74 karma2020-02-09 18:27:04 UTC
Would you mind elaborating on what exactly made him stop and help you instead?
Hope you get 100% rehabilitated.
ComedianDavidFowles21 karma2020-02-09 19:20:47 UTC
The courts will decide, I’m not going to speak for him.
tryin2figureitout64 karma2020-02-09 18:31:37 UTC
How did he break your neck?
ComedianDavidFowles45 karma2020-02-09 19:27:36 UTC
We struggled. I’m honestly not 100% sure. Doctors tell me I have fractures in my neck and need this brace for 6 weeks (4 to go now!)
yomoma42348 karma2020-02-09 18:31:05 UTC
Did you know him before or did you find him off the internet?
How long had you been flatmates?
ComedianDavidFowles34 karma2020-02-09 19:26:17 UTC
Internet. Three months or so.
universe-atom41 karma2020-02-09 18:27:48 UTC
Glad you are alive. What did it feel like to actually be on the verge of and know that you are dying?
ComedianDavidFowles68 karma2020-02-09 19:24:02 UTC
I was all business, had to be to survive. In the ambulance I was just yelling my medications, pre existing conditions, blood type, parents phone number, then allowed myself to collapse and start screaming until they tranqed me with (I’m told) ketamine. Lot of awful hallucinations after that, took an eternity to come out of it but it was just 2-3 hours.
dorvekowi41 karma2020-02-09 18:32:09 UTC
Can you talk about the pain levels? What part hurt the most? Are there some injuries you didnt feel? What surprised you most?
ComedianDavidFowles39 karma2020-02-09 19:32:30 UTC
Pain med to thank I guess. After the first four-five days of infinite pain (so much you kind of don’t care) the worst part has been my right hand, which had really painful slices across it. I have inexplicable nerve pain in the right arm too, the skin feels burnt and people keep patting my arm reassuringly! What surprised me was the speed I recovered, and that I survived in the first place!
CrackItJack34 karma2020-02-09 18:32:37 UTC
How did you "acquire" this "housemate" ?
ComedianDavidFowles7 karma2020-02-09 19:42:36 UTC
Online. He seemed a normal fellow and was genuinely not the worst person I’ve lived with by a mile before this happened. My cat liked him, and they rubbed faces in the kitchen, during our argument, not long before he attacked. I felt like telling him to get the hell away from my cat, but instead said “good girl!” as I always encourage her to be affectionate with people in the house. Pets lift the mood just by existing.
SadBrontosaurus31 karma2020-02-09 18:42:20 UTC
This is all still very recent for you. Without sounding like an idiot, has this situation really struck you yet? Or do you feel like you're still in that twilight period between an event, and the gravity of said event?
Have you started writing any material based on this encounter? If so, I'd assume it trends pretty dark. Do you think you'd actually use it in a set, or is it more of just therapeutic off-loading right now?
Finally, the fact that you were able to talk this roommate out of finishing the job... Do you believe they felt remorse for what they did to you, or did they stop out of fear of the repercussions? Would you pursue a relationship with them going forward? (Albeit a much changed dynamic, obviously)
Glad you are doing better!
Edit: why do I have an award? I have two upvotes...?
ComedianDavidFowles34 karma2020-02-09 19:38:52 UTC
I was joking about this on the phone to my Dad at 6:30 am the first day. He wasn’t laughing because he’s a worry-wort. I did say “tis but a scratch!” so someone while I was covered head to toe in blood, because you have to.
As for your other great questions, I have no roadmap for this. I went through a life-changing event. Life will change.
I will leave it to courts to comment on the perp’s end of it as much as I can.
MrLiamGallagher10 karma2020-02-09 18:33:16 UTC
How did you stay calm enough to think it through? Pretty sure if someone was trying to murder me I wouldn't talk about the effects it will have on their life lol
ComedianDavidFowles7 karma2020-02-09 19:43:18 UTC
I’ve been through hellish things that prepared me for this moment.
Danstrada289 karma2020-02-09 18:27:34 UTC
How do you cope and continue to deal with the trauma day by day?
ComedianDavidFowles6 karma2020-02-09 19:51:26 UTC
I talk. I make it clear, with patience, to the medical staff and well-wishers what my needs are. Needles are a trial, the little blades they remove sutures with, the scissors they cut dressings off with. There’s work to be done here, clearly, but I cry when I want to. Without being a sook, I feel I’ve earned the right to say and feel what I need to when I need to.
Viewlesslight9 karma2020-02-09 18:40:21 UTC
Where there any signs of him being violent before the incident?
ComedianDavidFowles13 karma2020-02-09 19:45:23 UTC
Prideful, yes. Admitted to having a substance abuse problem. We had a fairly open conversation about mental health one day. I thought he got the message that he simply can’t use drugs or alcohol, but I misunderstood his mind, clearly. The violence was a surprise.
PeppyHydra8 karma2020-02-09 18:31:43 UTC
Jesus Christ this'll be material for upcoming comedy...if you somehow see any comedy in this.
What does it feel like to be stabbed? Or were your feelings completely dulled from pure adrenalin?
ComedianDavidFowles3 karma2020-02-09 19:34:25 UTC
It hurts later.
Sunshine_Breeze8 karma2020-02-09 18:38:10 UTC
Was your housemate reasonably clean? Like he cleans his own dishes
ComedianDavidFowles18 karma2020-02-09 19:52:34 UTC
Yeah. He was a good housemate apart from the murdering.
waskonator7 karma2020-02-09 18:37:22 UTC
Comedians often have a dark sense of humor that allows them to process traumatic events more efficiently.
What was the funniest thing you found about this awful situation you've been put in?
ComedianDavidFowles8 karma2020-02-09 19:48:20 UTC
Oh my god, someday I hope to get a copy of the emergency services call, as they record them. At one point he said “stop playing the victim all the time” and I called him a silly-billy. It was like Alan Partridge directed by David Cronenberg in that room I swear.
FadingShad0ws3 karma2020-02-09 18:38:36 UTC
Are you gonna press charges?
ComedianDavidFowles5 karma2020-02-09 19:54:15 UTC
Cops do that without me. I gave a detailed statement already.
procrastinating_atm3 karma2020-02-09 18:38:24 UTC
What's your attitude towards the would-be murderer now?
ComedianDavidFowles5 karma2020-02-09 19:53:29 UTC
Sad for him. He made terrible choices all night, but at least his last choice was a good one.
AcceptableVegetable3 karma2020-02-09 18:32:13 UTC
How were you able to stay calm enough to have such a logical conversation?
ComedianDavidFowles6 karma2020-02-09 19:54:43 UTC
Death was the second option.
clokstar2 karma2020-02-09 18:40:34 UTC
You mentioned group of comedy friends - did you try to break the tension with your attacker by using any jokes, and if so, what were they/ did they work?
ComedianDavidFowles3 karma2020-02-09 19:56:12 UTC
Not during the attack, but after, a little. I was conscious that he could change his mind again, and the knife was RIGHT there the whole time.
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