yourmomlurks

This could be one season of a funny tv show.

If you have a positive net worth of $100, and you’re under the age of 34, you’re in the 25th-30th percentile in the US. So if you meet 1000 people you have more than around 300 of them.

Edit: here is my source for anyone who has questions about my use of the word percentile or other age ranges: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2019/08/12/upshot/are-you-rich-where-does-your-net-worth-rank-wealth.html

I am sorry you asked an earnest question and got such a shitty bullshit answer.

I am just an engineer and a mom but there’s two things I would try with my kids (one is a picker). First reward not picking. Even if it’s just for one minute or five minutes at first (set a timer). This has been really powerful for us. Before you do something you enjoy, set a timer for five minutes and don’t pick. Just reset the timer without judgement if you do pick. Then enjoy your reward. Can also do small things like listening to a certain song or having a small piece of chocolate.

Second, you recognize your triggers already. Decide what you want instead. When I quit smoking I made a list of things I don’t associate with smoking like showering and grocery shopping and I quickly did one of those things instead. Retrain your subconscious.

Good luck to you.

I am hearing and found deaf people super welcoming as long as you’re trying to learn sign or can sign. I made myself handy as a (crappy but functional) interpreter at times.

Source: Deaf best friend, several deaf friends.

I am hearing but really put a lot of effort in learning about Deaf culture.

Deafness does affect your ability to read. There are too many reasons to list but at a high level, ASL doesn't have Be verbs (is, are, being) or articles (the, a, an). Therefore written english has a lot of 'noise' in it that you don't pick up from immersion.

There are lots of words that are either signed the same or signed very differently plus gramatical differences in the mix. Examples:

Same: Guess, assume, and estimate. Reservation (as in a restaurant) habit, and used to (accustomed). Feature and fancy. Sentence, comment, and mention.

Differently: stepmom becomes fake-mother.

Grammer: Question sentence can start and end with the question, as in "Why you go store Why?"

The delta between a hearing persons natural language and the written word is much much smaller than ASL and written english. It takes a gargantuan amount of effort to reconcile the two. Imagine if you spoke English and were taught to read Korean only. Not impossible but incredibly difficult.

Then couple that with a lot of societal issues that give deaf people severe educational disadvantages. 80% of deaf people are born to hearing parents; often for these parents their kid is the first deaf person they have ever met.

You have to really work hard to experience Deaf culture to be able to make statements about it as a hearing person. There is a lot more to it than simply saying that since you can see written words, you obviously would not have impaired reading skills.

ASL btw, in my opinion, is not a flawed or underdeveloped language. It does bear the marks and scars of a lot of cultural oppression, though. Learning it has taught me so much that it would be absolutely tragic if it were obliterated (as historically, many have tried to do)