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I’m so sorry to hear that. That’s actually one of the things I’m in the process of writing about and researching at the moment is domestic violence with female perpetrators, because I think a lot of people have the misinformed opinion that it’s not as common or it’s not as bad or damaging. There are 2.2 million male victims of domestic abuse yet in the UK there are only enough spaces in refuge for just over 100 males. Also, 52% men in relationships like this are too scared to leave because they feel embarrassed. It’s a massive issue. Alcohol is a poison and can completely change someone, I know a lot of similar stories. Alcoholism is a demon and I’m so sorry to hear that your mum is struggling. If you feel like writing about it could get things off your chest you’re more than welcome to. You can stay anonymous too.

I’m totally open to it, I want people to learn and grow from reading my website and the way to do that is by sharing information from all perspectives, and I think it’s rare to find a reformed abuser willing to share their journey so I think it would be really valuable and a good insight from the other side

I have no words to even write back to your comment. This has made me feel so emotional. I almost teared up. I'm so sorry you've had to go through it too and I'm sorry you're seeing your siblings mimic that behaviour, it must feel like history repeating itself. I really do wish you all the best and I know for myself, writing has given me a lot of strength so if you do want to speak out and share your story at any point you are more than welcome to do so on my blog and you can even remain anonymous if you like. Thank you so much for your comment. It really touched me.

That's the hardest thing about it. Don't blame yourself for seeing the signs. I lived with it for 3 years, would visit my grandmother every single weekend and she has always been the closest person to me, even before she took me in but she even had no idea. The control aspect makes it so hard to spot, it's literally like brainwashing. I even wrote a letter to social workers telling them my step dad was like a dad to me and proclaimed how much I loved him. I had been forced to do it obviously, but that's what makes it so hard to spot. I wrote an article on the warning signs etc. You might find it a helpful read, but don't beat yourself up. I'm so sorry to hear the story but you should be so thankful that your sister is out, there are a lot of people that never escape. Have a read here. https://writeforadifference.com/2018/01/02/why-you-may-be-in-an-abusive-relationship-without-knowing/

Absolutely! There is no excuse for domestic violence. Yes, drink can change you, however if you know you get out of hand under the influence and still choose to drink then it’s inexcusable.