My husband and I are expecting our first next April. I am 13 weeks. That said, I am terrified we could lose the baby so I am afraid to really announce. I have already miscarried once. Our parents and siblings know. They keep asking if I'm excited and honestly I'm afraid to be. I'm afraid to be happy. On top of already being afraid, some friends of mine just lost their daughter at 22 weeks, a week ago. Knowing this is a possibility, I don't really want to tell people. I have my own fears to deal with. And I'm trying to be compassionate and empathetic toward my friends who recently lost their baby girl and others such as yourself and the other parents here who have grieved a child. So I was wondering, do you think it was better or worse for people to know that you were expecting when you had to tell them you had lost your child? How did that personally affect you? Also...because I want to be sensitive to this issue, is there a long enough time I could wait, to where it won't be quite as painful for my friends for me to announce? I know the wound is still fresh for them. I don't want to make it worse.
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My husband and I are expecting our first next April. I am 13 weeks. That said, I am terrified we could lose the baby so I am afraid to really announce. I have already miscarried once. Our parents and siblings know. They keep asking if I'm excited and honestly I'm afraid to be. I'm afraid to be happy. On top of already being afraid, some friends of mine just lost their daughter at 22 weeks, a week ago. Knowing this is a possibility, I don't really want to tell people. I have my own fears to deal with. And I'm trying to be compassionate and empathetic toward my friends who recently lost their baby girl and others such as yourself and the other parents here who have grieved a child. So I was wondering, do you think it was better or worse for people to know that you were expecting when you had to tell them you had lost your child? How did that personally affect you? Also...because I want to be sensitive to this issue, is there a long enough time I could wait, to where it won't be quite as painful for my friends for me to announce? I know the wound is still fresh for them. I don't want to make it worse.
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