uzes_lightning

I felt that way for a long time. The key is to find a purpose in life, a real purpose, in which you love what you do and are valued for it. The world is a negative-ass place, and if you can find a way to be positive, everyone will flock to you. I had been in your shoes for a long time, and turned it around about 8-9 years ago. In my 40s now. Another key is what would you be if there were no constraints? You have to try things. People will always respect you if you are passionate about something and take the time and care to excel at it. It you derive satisfaction from that, it will make things (and you) more positive. That's the upward spiral. Then you start to get even better at it, and then people start leaning toward you. If you stick with something you love long enough you become a leader. Keep your head when you start getting accolades, stay humble. People will elevate you even more. For me, it was coaching runners. I'm pretty well-known for that now, and though I have a day job I am not crazy about, doing this on the side has been really helpful for my overall Mojo. Last bit of advice, if starting from scratch, fake it till you make it. We all start from somewhere. Even Keith Richards had to pick up a mic for the first time...

OK - this might sound like an off-color question. You hear about the stereotype that Asian women are submissive and I don't really buy into that. I'm pretty good at sticking my foot into my mouth so here goes: Do men or women in Japan typically have the dominant role in the bedroom?