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If you insert some links into your comment I guarantee you'll get a ton more people checking them out.

We are a lazy people here.

I have a friend who does this with any celebrity he meets, so far most all of them have agreed. It's him standing looking very pridefully unimpressed and them looking SO EXCITED at the chance to meet/take a picture with him. Role reversal, basically. It's hilarious to see them in my feed.

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For example, Kenan.

I think I have a question, I'm not sure.

This past September I went on a weekend trip with my (soon-to-be-ex) husband so that I could take our newborn daughter to meet her cousins and my in-laws since he wouldn't let me leave the state before then. It felt like a bad idea, and I shouldn't have gone, but I really wanted her to meet her cousins and our separation thus far had been pretty amicable. We separated last January and were occasionally having consensual sex, but once I found out he was lying about not having other partners (which really shouldn't have surprised me, as that was the entirety of our marriage anyway) I told him I no longer wanted to continue to sleep together. So, months later, we have to stay in a hotel during this trip, and it only has one bed. I figure maybe we'll just cuddle or kiss or whatever, he's the only person I've ever been with and even though he treated me horribly during our marriage - I was lonely. I don't know what I was expecting, but I figured since I had already talked to him about not having sex, if he tried something I would just say no and that would be it.

Well I get into bed to go to sleep and he said he was going to do some work, alright, but he comes into the bed and starts giving me a massage, okay I think, a massage is nice, that's fine. He will probably try something, so I tell him we're not having sex. He says okay. A couple minutes later he pulls the sheets etc down and puts himself inside me. I tell him we're not having sex and to stop. He says okay well I won't move at all I'll just sit here. I tell him that's not the same, and he asks if I want him to stop, I say yes I do.

I won't go over all the details, no one really needs to hear that, but the general jist of things is that I continued to say no and when he asked if I wanted him to stop I would say yes I do. He would go off on some string of comments or another, maybe as distraction? I would occasionally pause before saying no (in the beginning), and sometimes a "noise" of sexual arousal would escape from my mouth. I felt like something was wrong with me because it DID feel good at the start of it, but I didn't want to have sex with him. I hated my body and I felt like it was betraying me. I never stopped saying no, and eventually once he started justifying what he was doing ("if you didn't want it you wouldn't be here with me." "If you didn't want it you wouldn't be sleeping in the same bed." "Your words are saying no but your body is saying yes." "I won't move, I'll just lie here inside you, just touch yourself. I want you to feel good.") and still wouldn't stop after dozens of "no"'s all pleasure vanished. I started to feel sore and hopeless and eventually ended up sobbing. At that point he really got into it, finished, and let go of me. I didn't have an orgasm, but I still feel conflicted. It took me talking to a women in crisis therapist about it, and then later HIS sexual abuse therapist, to feel like I had the "right" to admit to myself that it was sexual assault. The fact that I felt any pleasure in it at all made me feel like he was right. And sometimes I'm afraid that it means I really wasn't assaulted - even though I know I was. Does that make sense?

I know he still doesn't believe he did anything wrong. I brought it up when we were in a confidential mediation at the court and he started saying that I had "trapped him".

I feel defeated. There is a lot more background as to why exactly it's important in court, but currently we're going through custody issues and I have brought it up with our family relations case handler. The only problem is I feel like because he so strongly believes it was consensual that no one in the court will believe me. I hate myself, my body, I hate that I feel like he will never ever see that what he did was wrong.

Is it common for court personnel to downplay concerns in these situations? I feel like as soon as he brings up that I "said no" but because I showed arousal in the beginning, and because I was willing to sleep in the same bed in the first place, that I have no ground to stand on. I feel trapped, and like it's my own fault. When I talk about it with our case handler I can feel him looking at me like I am just being vengeful and vindictive. I don't care about hurting my ex, I don't want to ruin his life, I don't want to press charges - but I want someone TO TAKE ME SERIOUSLY.

Sorry this is so long. I don't know if you will see this. I haven't talked about this with anyone personal in my life so I probably should have used a throwaway, but it is what it is. Maybe I just needed to ramble. I don't know. Thanks for doing this AMA.

I'm not sure how the value of what they're stealing equates to excusing the blame.

Can you expand on what you meant by this?