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In your new book, you talk about essential conversations. Does the opposite exist, topics of conversation that couples are better off never discussing?

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Hello, Dr. Gottman2!

Thank you so much for taking the time to do this AMA! I have a few questions.

  1. Have you found any interesting cultural differences that affect relationship success? Ex. arranged vs. western marriage, etc.
  2. What have you learned through your research that affected your approach to your own relationship?
  3. Frankly, I'm a huge fan of your work, have a passion for the subject. I aim to follow in your footsteps and obtain a PhD in psychology, focusing on relationships. What would be the best use of my time between undergraduate and graduate school?

I'm looking forward to reading your new book!

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In addition to the Gottman's words, you might be interested in Esther Perel's work. She's a renowned couples' therapist who recently wrote an excellent book on infidelity; The State of Affairs. I can't recommend it enough.

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Dr. Joel! Really interesting research, I can't imagine the tenacity needed to collaborate and coordinate with so many researchers.

Looking forward, what variables do you envision accounting for that initial spark between two people, before an established relationship exists?

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Hey Dr. Eastwick! Thanks for dropping by.

What originally drew you to studying the science of relationships?

What's the most interesting paper/poster you've come across at SPSP's virtual preconference this year?