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Thank you for doing this AMA and thanks to Dean for being your typist.

I want to discuss policy issues, since you are AVfM policy advisor.

Scenario: A man is being battered by his wife and she is using the child as a human shield. What should he do?

Bad advice #1: He should leave the home.

In a situation without children this would be the best advice, to leave and never look back. Unfortunately, in this situation the man must deal with the issue of abandoning his children to the abusive woman. IF he leaves, he is showing that he does not consider her to be a danger to the child and that will be enough evidence for social workers. That may be the case, but not always and it’s not an easy decision to be made with such callous disregard (eg. Dean and Kristina) for the concern about the child’s safety and the child’s future upbringing under the full control of the abusive mother. Even if the mother is not physically abusive to the child, the child will learn those abusive behaviors from the mother and her future relationships.

Bad advice #2: He should call the police

Unless there is some clear physical evidence to support his claims, she will likely make the accusation of being the true victim in her defense. Very likely, he will be either arrested or forced to leave the home. I’m in agreement with Trudy Schuett on this one, do not call the police unless your life is immediate danger.

Bad advice #3: Continue taking the beatings until he has enough bruises and blood to provide unequivocal evidence that can not be ignored or excused by police and social workers.

Blaming the victim as the cause of her aggression.

Solution: Remove the victim and leave the child with an abusive and irrational mother.

That's why your MSW isn't worth $0.01