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I have aspergers, and was bad growing up but feel like I've improved (I'm only 18yrs) and my case is mild. my brother is 13 and I probably shouldn't worry but he is way worse than I was at that age. He can never ever be wrong so even when presented with facts he will still argue. He debates everything and can never tell when he's making people angry. He can't recognize emotions at all. Everything thinks he's a pretentious asshole, even my family, but I know from experience he really doesn't understand.

My mum is emotionally fragile, and can't really deal with it. I'm worried of what might happen.

So my question: When he's going through a fit, and refusing to do something simple or refusing to accept he is wrong, is there anything I can do to help him see?

Yes, I'm a pretty big gamer too so I understand it is frustrating. But we wait for the round to end or him to find a save point. He usually keeps going anyways.

The biggest problem is there isn't a lot of empathy. Just in normal conversation he can get bad. It's weird because he can be this totally sweet kid, and then the next day you don't know why he's so mean. And you know when you hurt someone, usually you stop, but even if my mum is sobbing he'll keep going because he is "doing nothing wrong"

I suppose looking into a school counselor would be a good idea, although in my personal experience they aren't the most understanding or helpful.

Also, thanks for taking to time to respond and help me. It's greatly appreciated.

Geez man, thanks so much for your help. He responds well to schedules and structure, so it would make sense a concrete plan would help.

I'm gonna keep an eye out for how to show him my point of view.. however it's nearly impossible for him to not feel like he's being attacked.

I'll talk to my mom about the school counselor.

And hey, maybe he'll grow out of it. I certainly grew a lot and people are shocked when I tell them I have it.

He has been diagnosed but he doesn't have insurance for a counselor. It's usually when he's at home playing video games (which is really all he does besides school) and someone asks him something or asks him to do something.

Even when he is incredible rude, he seems thoroughly convinced he is the victim.

He seems to be fine in school now that he's in middle school... but I guess he doesn't act the same around us.

Alright I'll keep that in mind. Thanks.