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timhortonsbitchass14 karma

Fwiw, I grew up in a crappy old house with so many mice that, at one point, my dad basically cracked and started keeping a BB next to the couch to shoot them with. What really helped to lessen their population to tolerable levels (they'll never 100% go away, sorry) was something called a "rat zapper". It's this little plastic tunnel that electrocutes the mouse to death. We used dog kibble as bait, as the machine recommended. It was very humane and clean; you never actually had to touch a nasty little mouse corpse.

timhortonsbitchass13 karma

Hi Marissa,

I'm a woman in finance, and I feel totally supported at work. My coworkers and my boss encourage work-life balance, I am never encouraged to "behave like a man" or adopt male-slanted "success behaviours", I have never been treated disrespectfully, save one or two flip comments. It's at home that things are different.

My mother is an engineer, and my mother in law is a healthcare executive. My mother is the picture perfect negative stereotype of a female engineer -- tries to act like a man, very "not like other girls" vibe -- and my mother in law has given me several copies of Lean In. They both expect me to be a powerful corporate woman and to outearn and outdo my husband. They are only ever proud of me for my accomplishments at work and are always pushing me to take on more and more training. If I don't do this stuff, they view me as repressed, traditional, weak, and somehow "un-feminist". These expectations can feel onerous and crushing. I love my current job but I just don't like working that much. I have no desire to be a manager or executive; I just want to earn a decent salary for 8 hours a day, go home, and hang out with my husband and friends. I would love to one day take a lower-ranking work from home job, or move down to part-time, but I know everyone would be ashamed of me.

Did women in your family ever make you feel like this? Like you weren't a strong woman or a good feminist if you didn't "Lean In"? How did you cope?

timhortonsbitchass2 karma

Hey Sam! Two questions, one fun one serious.

Fun question: Have you seen the new HBO show, Years and Years? It's speculative fiction, but spends a lot of time on speculating what the news will be like in the future. I think you might like it!

Serious question: As an experienced journalist, what's your speculation on the future of journalism work itself, and did the current state of journalistic work have any role in you choosing to launch your own podcast? I graduated from journalism school a few years ago, and now work in finance -- journalism jobs were brutally competitive, nepotistic in hiring, and almost all unpaid for the first 3-5 years out of college. I know some folks in the industry who have worked for reputed publications here in Canada like CBC, Postmedia, Torstar for years, and are still "permalancers".