My best friend and I had a thing for many years and even though we've stopped sleeping together, we still pretty much act like we're in a relationship.
Here's the part I'm really struggling with. I love her as my best friend. I am not in love with her, nor do I want to be in a relationship with her. But even though we both know this, I still have trouble moving forward and finding someone else to be with. Even though we haven't been "together" for two years at this point, we've been roommates (with another girl) for even longer. I feel like I can never bring a guy home. Really, I feel guilty for even talking to someone else because it feels like cheating.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend. I mean it when I say that I care about her deeply. But I really am ready to move on, I just don't want to hurt her or ruin our friendship.
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Can you give me advice?
My best friend and I had a thing for many years and even though we've stopped sleeping together, we still pretty much act like we're in a relationship.
Here's the part I'm really struggling with. I love her as my best friend. I am not in love with her, nor do I want to be in a relationship with her. But even though we both know this, I still have trouble moving forward and finding someone else to be with. Even though we haven't been "together" for two years at this point, we've been roommates (with another girl) for even longer. I feel like I can never bring a guy home. Really, I feel guilty for even talking to someone else because it feels like cheating.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend. I mean it when I say that I care about her deeply. But I really am ready to move on, I just don't want to hurt her or ruin our friendship.
Thoughts?
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