throwingit_out_there

I have a good friend in NYC who is ridiculously picky. He has to have a degree from an Ivy League AND has to have a masters or PhD, make x amount of money, have a good job, be tall (she's 5'7)...and on and on. I'm afraid she is going to be single for life. Sadly, she is also dying to have babies, which is something guys don't want to think about on a first or second date...

I'm all for knowing what you want, but aren't there limits? Just because a guy went to a state school instead of Harvard doesn't mean he's not intellectual. If he doesn't make what you think is a good salary so what? If he has a good work/life balance and enjoys what he does and is good at it then shouldn't that count for something? I'd rather date a guy with a 8-5 schedule making 50k than a lawyer clocking 80 hours a week and making 100k.

What's crazy is that a lot of people in NYC move in together after dating for only a few months because it's cheaper than renting your own place.