I grew up poor but went to schools for the wealthy (a combination of hardworking parents and scholarships.) I'm already working as a young professional but still live with my parents (in my early twenties, which is normal for my Asian country.) Most of my peers are wealthy and make up my available dating circle. I've always been insecure about letting people in because I've grown up knowing the disparity between my economic background and those around me; there's also a feeling of impostor syndrome whenever I make new friends since I was lumped in with the rich kids growing up. This has manifested itself in my dating life in that I don't let people get too close to me for fear of them seeing where I live (and figuring out/resenting me for the "impostor" that I am for speaking and acting like them despite not being "of their class.") I'd like to break this cycle of insecurity. How should I start?
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I grew up poor but went to schools for the wealthy (a combination of hardworking parents and scholarships.) I'm already working as a young professional but still live with my parents (in my early twenties, which is normal for my Asian country.) Most of my peers are wealthy and make up my available dating circle. I've always been insecure about letting people in because I've grown up knowing the disparity between my economic background and those around me; there's also a feeling of impostor syndrome whenever I make new friends since I was lumped in with the rich kids growing up. This has manifested itself in my dating life in that I don't let people get too close to me for fear of them seeing where I live (and figuring out/resenting me for the "impostor" that I am for speaking and acting like them despite not being "of their class.") I'd like to break this cycle of insecurity. How should I start?
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