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Good day, AP.

I've discussed this with a number of male victims of rape or sexual assault, of my acquaintance. Quite a few have said that their perpetrators (either sex) deliberately tried to provoke a physical reaction from them, for various reasons. In other words, the victim's arousal or orgasm wasn't an incidental aspect of the assault, but one of its main purposes.

Have you seen much evidence of this in the course of your professional work?

It's a terrible and cruel act as it leaves many victims believing they seduced, wanted, partnered in their abuse...

Indeed. And sadly, that's what the general public seem to believe too. I wonder how the message can best be conveyed to them that this is in fact an especially nasty and damaging kind of assault, whose perpetrators if anything deserve a particularly severe sentence.

All very true. But apparently sensible people of both sexes and all countries completely lose their minds, and their ability to engage in basic chains of reasoning, whenever sexual violence is involved.

Probably there's a doctoral dissertation waiting to be written about why that is so.

Well, I'm happy to chip in here with a firm opinion. u/chad313 most definitely did the right thing. The perpetrator in question, however charming and persuasive, is a serial rapist. There is no such thing as an "innocuous" rape, nor can either the rapist or the victim predict the amount of damage -- short or long-term -- that any such act is going to cause. I, for one, am greatly relieved that so reckless and selfish an individual is no longer on the streets, and am exceedingly grateful to u/chad313 for the part he played in bringing that about.

Rape is the penetration of a female body with the penis.

This is incorrect. In eight U.S. states -- Arkansas, Delaware, Indiana, Massachusetts, Ohio, Kentucky, Tennessee, and South Dakota -- any sexual penetration by one person of another (including instrumental and digital penetration) is defined as rape. Alaska, Arizona, Colorado, Florida, Illinois, Iowa, Michigan, Minnesota, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Dakota, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, West Virginia, Wisconsin, and Wyoming do not use the term "rape" in their criminal codes; they refer instead to such terms as "sexual assault" and "sexual intercourse without consent"; but do not distinguish by sex between perpetrators and victims. The same is true of the District of Columbia.

Is this person really a lawyer? Has Reddit checked her credentials?