thestone41

I came out my senior year of high school in a sort of fucked up situation. In short, I was basically harrased into coming out by my father who's sadly blinded by religion and thought he was genuinely doing good by trying to talk me into being straight - on a daily basis. I think it's important to point this out though, he was never intentionally disrespectful to me during the whole blow up. He never used any dirogotory terms or name calling, it was more just saying how wrong and against the Bible homosexuality is. And honestly I think it was even worse that way. It was a really confusing time in my life and I'm glad to say that we've both come a long ways since my first couple years of undergrad. So no, he doesnt hate me and never has. Even during the worst arguments, he made sure to make it a point to say he loved me and always would. It's sad because I really do believe he thought he was doing the right thing at that time.

I currently go to a four year university and I'm living alone, working towards my degree with some help from scholarships. As upset I was with my Father for being a total prick, I was more upset with my mom for being so silent during the whole blow-up. Although I could see it in her eyes that she wanted to say something and stand up for me, she never did...that to me was the hardest part.

All of my immediate family is cool with it besides my dad. I'm really close with my siblings and they played a huge role in saving my relationship with my parents.

He wears a suit and tie.

I was basically forced to come out. My dad recognized that I started staying out later and started tracking where I was going and found out that I had gone to a few gay bars. Instead of letting me come to him, he sat me down one day and straight up asked me. I lied for a while but I'd keep going out and he'd keep playing passive aggressive until one day I had enough and just told him. In retrospect, I really think I made the right choice. Yes, I had a couple rough semesters, but I learned a lot about myself and I'm a better person today because of it.