thedanielmasterson

This is the only time I ever, ever, ever encourage anyone to be less than truthful. Don't admit you're a virgin. Don't admit it to the women you date, don't admit it to yourself. From this day forward, you are an extremely charming man who has a lot of sexual history. Don't fake it until you make it, fake it until you become it.

I want you to, right now, stop what you're doing. Give yourself permission to have sex. Clean your apartment. Get your bedroom ready for sex. Go to the grocery store and buy a box of condoms (even if you already have some).

I want you to affirm to yourself on a regular basis that sex isn't a big deal. It's something that just happens as part of the regular course of two consenting adult's lives.

It is also time to cut porn out of your life. Switch to POV porn when you NEED it, and try to visualize it being real.

Your next step is to attempt to sleep with any woman that will have you, even a prostitute if that's legal in your area. It might not be special, but it is time to pull off the band aid.

2 problems: 1) you haven't had a lot of success, and success builds confidence. 2) It's because you're outcome oriented man. A lot of dudes have this problem. You get so attached to your fantasy outcome that you're already afraid of losing it. Just enjoy being in the moment, and let go of your attachment to the outcome. Learn to love flirting with women!

Also, I bet the guys who stormed Normandy Beach were scared too, but they did it anyway. Good luck brother!

A student of mine was an awesome guy. Made a lot of money, drove a sports car, fit, handsome, funny, just all around rad. His whole life he'd had no success with women. He was dating a very, very physically and mentally unattractive and mean woman. She dumped HIM in a very mean way.

He worked with me and my former partner, got his confidence up, had a lot of dating and sexual success, and then got married to a total knockout that treats him like gold.

He was my first former student to get married.

I'm sex positive. We all like weird stuff, who cares as long as nobody is getting hurt.

Do it during post-sex cuddling after you've been dating for a while. Best to break out the off-beat stuff when you're feeling the closest.