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I'm sorry if this has been asked: do you have any tips for someone who isn't good at 'dirty talk' or sharing sexual fantasies? My boyfriend has been sexually active for much longer than I have, and I know he used to be more adventurous, but whenever I ask him to talk dirty to me during sex, or tell me what scenarios/fetishes he likes, he shuts down. Maybe what I'm asking is, do you have any tips for me as to how I can get him to open up?

Hi Heather. Just last night I had a frustrating conversation with my boyfriend after mutual masturbation. He mentioned there is a difference between his method and mine when it comes to hand jobs, and when I asked him to elaborate he got very shy and was unwilling to explain further as these matters are "intimate to himself only." I've noticed the same when I try to discuss other things like porn preferences and sexual fantasies. We have been together 2 years now and I feel that being denied the ability to discuss these things is missing out on that form of intimacy. Is it normal for someone to keep a certain level of intimacy to themselves, and how can I get him to open up to me?