thattimeofyearagain

Thank you for posting this. It’s nice to know other dads are out there and coping with this. In your experience have people tended to write off your pain and emotions because you are male? It was something that I struggled with and still do. I lost my daughter too but whenever it got brought up to me everyone asked how my wife was holding up instead of how are you two holding up.

Me and my wife became to completely different people after we lost our daughter. Have you become bitter or angry? If so how are controlling it or dealing with it?

Hi, not op but I also lost my daughter. She was 26 weeks and we celebrate her birthday in our own way. I have other kids so we usually go for ice cream and treat them each to a small toy. It’s kind of strange and felt weird the first year we did it but, we are celebrating her, and remembering her. About bringing it up it’s usually awkward and everyone is different but, I usually leave the conversation happy I got to talk about her.

This could not be anymore true and at the risk of crying or making any one else cry here’s my experience with that. I have an eight year old daughter. Her sister would have been two years younger. I cried when my daughter started her first day of school, when she lost her first tooth, when she played her first soccer game, when I took her to our first daddy daughter dance. These are things I will never get to do with her sister. It has helped me to truly appreciate all these moments in the moment. The mourning and the what if’s will always be there and I commend everyone who ever has to deal with the loss of a child. We are strong but fragile.