I adopted an older child from the foster care system (after an unbelievable ordeal from social workers who didn't think LGBTQ people had any business being parents). It's been a challenging road, and I'd like to believe my daughter (who's now almost 19 and has chosen to live for now with birth family) is better off for the 8 years she spent with me. But between her struggles and the horrendous ordeal that the system put all of us through to get her adopted, it's hard sometimes not to feel that all that effort was an exercise in futility and that the attempt of the social services system to "help" her has, overall, been a net negative for her. What are your thoughts about whether, and how much, the system actually helps kids?
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I adopted an older child from the foster care system (after an unbelievable ordeal from social workers who didn't think LGBTQ people had any business being parents). It's been a challenging road, and I'd like to believe my daughter (who's now almost 19 and has chosen to live for now with birth family) is better off for the 8 years she spent with me. But between her struggles and the horrendous ordeal that the system put all of us through to get her adopted, it's hard sometimes not to feel that all that effort was an exercise in futility and that the attempt of the social services system to "help" her has, overall, been a net negative for her. What are your thoughts about whether, and how much, the system actually helps kids?
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