swordrush

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My wife stopped wanting to go out too. She knew I still needed to get out, not just for groceries and chores and the like, but to recharge a little. But it was hard for me too, to do anything or go anywhere. We'd get a notification about the same friend having one, and a second, and a third successful pregnancy--adding to the 2 children they already had at the time--so I'd make myself offer congrats each time to try to push back the pain I was feeling.

I appreciate that. Seems like you've had it pretty rough too with what I've read here so far. It's still a long road that I hope you make it through. I'll think of something to start with and send you a message later.

Struggled over the course of about five years for us. Spent the first 9-12 months just trying to clear up pregnancy-related issues enough so that we could have a good chance at getting pregnant. Unfortunately, our first pregnancy was stillborn at 20 weeks, just as we came in to start finding out about gender. After trying for years more, and with some extra special medical help, it looks like maybe we'll be having our second child next year.

Do you feel like people have an especially large amount of empathy for mothers of stillborns/miscarriages/children who've passed away young, but have nothing to give or say to fathers?