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I fucking love this guy! This is a great example of an intuitive rather than an ego- or fear-based approach. When you are responsive to your partner it puts you in a less 'endgame' frame of mind. That's what kills a lot of people who've been socialized male, this toxic expectation that you have to be a 'something' as opposed to really being down for this particular experience with this particular (in this case) woman. Keep eating it, my friend. You're doing god's work.

Wish I could upvote this 1,000 times.

There are many resources on the internet and IRL for dealing with premature ejaculation from practicing with a Fleshlight to masturbating to reduce sensitivity to many other methods. We have come a long way from repeating "Baseball, apple pie, and Chevrolet," maybe because just thinking about these things might make some Americans cum ;-) I don't want to trivialize your question, because it is a serious one that has likely caused you at least some level of frustration or upset. What I coach people on, and talk about in the book, is strengthening the connection between the Cerebral, the Emotional, and the Genital. If you're cumming quickly, in my way of working it is probably connected to something you either think about yourself, or feel about the other person or yourself, as opposed to strictly a mechanical or Genital issue. We would set about uncovering where the connection between these three parts is being disrupted. Losing control is an admirable trait in the bedroom, and it is so unfortunate that so many people socialized male have been taught that they have to "perform" when it comes to sex. We would work on lowering the pressure you're feeling, so you're more free to create the experience you want for yourself and your partner.

Hahaha thank you! I have repeatedly been told that I'm doing the 'lord's work' and I think it is true to the extent that the more people get laid with the kind of sex they want with the kind of people they want it with, the more peaceful our world will be! Thanks again for the laugh, have been typing for 4 hours straight and needed it.

You know, weirdly enough, the chicken was probably better! A banana has a lot of sugar that would unbalance her vaginal ph even more. That said, GREAT STORY! Not even the weirdest or kinkiest I've heard, but a great advertisement for having a large assortment of body safe silicone sex toys on hand. If your wife is on meds that affect her libido, and you are meeting your sexual needs in other ways, then there is no problem, so we don't need to make one! However, if you're finding yourself climbing the walls, then it is important to take your own needs seriously, because no matter how old we are, no one knows how much time we have left on this planet. Read my book ;-) Thank god it wasn't a live chicken, they can't consent...