spankey027

Resource Limit Reached... RIP website.

...was a good friend of mine..

i am a nurse, and work in a state hospital with adolescents...mostly dhs ( department of human services/ wards of the state ) kids. for starters, i am glad to see that you are on the road to a happier life and a family that can be your ' family' . sometimes blood relations arent always better.

i would say that in some of your comments you said that people are sometimes hesitant about adopting foster kids...especially older ones, and from my experience, this is true. as with most things, the news and people tell or report the worst case scenarios here...successful adoptions of older kids arent ' newsworthy' . on the flip side of that, i know of families that have tried to adopt and been burned...mostly from children that have become so jaded in the foster care system that they dont trust or open up at all, or from kids that just plain old have issues that they cant deal with. i applaude you for this ama.

and you are 100% correct..in many many cases a poor social worker..especially one in an overburdened system..can adversely affect the childs life forever.

i hope you and your new parents can develop the mutual respect and trust that is needed in these situations. the only advice i will give at this point is try as hard as you can...both you and them...to be open and honest and dont let anything( example..your friend that ran off to cali) come between you. and i only have one question....do you think it will be possible to view these new people as actual family forever?...i really dont know my real dad and this question always makes me wonder..

good luck and congratulations!

I am probably too late..i like most all of your work...but I loved the mini series ' the lost room ' ...what was your opinion on it?..i think a second one should have been made!..how fun of a part was it to play?