somenicekitties

We deal with this and while we don't give in to the abuse or engage it, our concern is when the child comes home talking about things the other parent does and says to them, we don't have a way to help with that. An example is after we bought the child new clothes for school, the other parent hid them away and said they 'couldn't find it' so they couldn't wear them, or giving the child gifts in the car on their way to our home and saying they won't have time to play with it because they have to go to our house, not engaging the child when they say positive things about our family. These actions are so subtle that even though we document them, they're not 'loud' enough for the court to acknowledge. But these things are almost constant, and the child is acting out. HC parent won't agree to therapy for the child, so we feel really stuck in regard to how to help them when the court is unwilling to enforce agreements like not disparaging us in front of the child. What do you do when the court won't listen?

When dealing with a coparent with high conflict and narcissistic abuse issues that 'flies under the radar' in court, how can you protect the child when custody is not in your favor? Emotional abuse is extremely hard to prove, any advice on that?