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My mother had this surgery, as did my older sister due to a pretty severe underbite. My ortho was proactive and prevented mine from happening by using headgear very similar to this that attached to hooks on my braces on my upper jaw with rubberbands. I wore it every night for the majority of my time in braces.

It was terrible and I'm pretty sure it turned me into a mouth breather for life, and no one can prepare you for the amount of drool that will be all over your chin come morning. BUT now I have a pretty strong jaw and chin (with no underbite) for a woman which is one of my favorite features. My sister on the other hand has a much weaker jaw and chin (the same that happened for OP). So in the end I'm very happy with the method that my ortho used.

You probably know swingers who haven’t told you. There are a lot more out there than you’d think. One of my closest friends and her husband swing and they would be the last people you’d expect. Outside of her swinging groups she’s only told two people so she has many close friends that don’t know this about her.

My mother had this surgery, and 40 years ago, so I'm sure it was much less perfected than it is now. During her recovery, she had the nightmarish discovery that she is allergic to Vicodin. She said it was one of the scariest moments in her life. I don't even think they knew what to do from the sound of it. She said the nurses were pacing at her bedside as she was hunched over a bucket trying to get the vomit out between the gaps in her teeth. Terrifying. They didn't cut the wires, although I wonder at what point they would have.

I really envision myself fostering, and have been volunteering as an advocate through CASA, to hopefully prepare myself for eventually fostering. I know you’ve already provided some advice for prospective foster parents, but I felt the need to elaborate on my specific concerns…

I have (what I know is) an idealized vision of what fostering will be like. I am someone who loves cooking and I picture myself inundating any future foster children with tons of home cooked food in hopes that it’ll make them feel loved and safe. My question is, I know that any children that may get placed with us may very well have food insecurities, so in your experience did you find (or do you think) that this type of affection would be traumatizing for a child with food insecurity? If so, what is the best way to help a child with food insecurities feel more comfortable?

Not OP, but you should consider becoming a court-appointed child advocate with CASA! It’s a very manageable commitment and means that there’s one more person keeping an eye on an at-risk child and looking out for their best interests. You may be surprised by how near a CASA office is to you.