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TotallyMully - This is a career that came to me. From a really young age, I've always had a genuine curiosity about sex and sexuality. In the 8th grade I gave a speech on homosexuality...to a room full of my peers and mostly conservative-minded private school teachers. I had no idea that I was going to cause a stir! I've just always had a desire to learn about sex and help others do the same.

But really I became a "sexpert" (which is a totally made-up word) by accident. I started Ohhh Canada because I love both sex and entrepreneurship. In fact, Ohhh is only one of my businesses, and I speak as often about entrepreneurship as I do about sex!

As I continued in the business, my team and I immediately identified the need for more and more adult education. So we started running workshops out of our store or other venues - and I kept getting booked from there, especially on my areas of specialty - getting your mojo back, and dirty talk.

Some people really dig my style - I often use personal stories (always with the permission of my partners!), laugh at myself, use both non-technical words as well as proper terminology, and I'm a bit quirky and goofy. It's really my honour to be able to help people find the answers they need and inspire others to live sexier lives. I'm very fortunate.

Oooh! I love this question. Weirdest is hard to categorize because what's weird to one person may be totally normal to the next, you know? Different strokes for different folks.

I did a talk in Toronto on Sex & Technology, and during the Q&A period we talked about the different uses for full size sex dolls - and how to construct fantasy threesomes and orgies by using dolls as the other players. It was a really fun talk that sparked a lot of discussion.

A candy cane dildo... as in, a dildo made out of sugary candy. No no no no. So bad for so many reasons. You're asking for trouble pushing a dissolvable block of sugar into your vagina.

There are also a lot of anal toys where you can't actually reach the controls when the toy is inserted... seems like that might be a fail, no?

I hesitate to label any product as "weird" because that's a pretty judgemental word. So I'll give you one that makes me giggle...

Check out this tiny vibrating octopus. He's kind of creepy to me, but also really cute.

Hey ByteBandit! Really great question, and thanks for posting it here. Fifty Shades has definitely caused it's share of controversy, and will continue to do so. Check out Ohhh Canada's Instagram for an image we mentioned was Fifty Shades-inspired to see some of the discussion that has sparked there (and feel free to add your comments there as well - we love discussion!)

We actually had several meetings internally at Ohhh Canada about how we were going to address the Fifty Shades phenomenon, and also the potential resulting backlash. The truth is that we have a LOT of customers who come to us saying that Fifty Shades was their first introduction to erotica. Most aren't even really interested in true BDSM, but more into light role-play. We love that we have both a physical store and also that customers can easily access us online for questions so that we can help provide information about healthy sexual play - including kink and BDSM. So if they are going to go somewhere, for both business reasons, and because it's in line with our mission, we want them to come to us.

We're really closely connected with the BDSM community, and we've sponsored and run workshops to help dispel the misinformation propagated by the popularity of the Fifty Shades series.

We've made the decision to meet people where they're at - and for many people, the "kinky act" is actually reading Fifty Shades. Because that's where they are at, that's where we try to meet them.

Our customers who are more versed in BDSM, to be honest, usually special order from us as they want items that more durable or for more specific purposes than the paddles, whips, etc. that we recommend in our Fifty Shades collection. What we've found is that most of our regular customers just give us a bit of an eye roll - but know that we're there to provide advice and guidance for those who are interested in more than a light rubber tickler.

We're actually also looking to partner with a local movie theatre here in Toronto to provide educational workshops before and after the film to actually help point out the differences between healthy consensual BDSM play and what's depicted in the movie.

Hope this gives you some idea of where we (and I) are coming from! Keep the questions coming, though. This type of discussion is important and appreciated.