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robs10kfriends27 karma

Thanks! I met a man named Chris (#1300 on my page) in Oct 2017 who I think about a lot. When he was 16, he was living in Romania and flew to NYC to go boating on the Hudson with some friends. He fell off the boat and got run over by it, causing his legs to be sucked up into the engines. He described it as if his legs had been put into a blender. He lost 5 of 6 liters of blood on the way to the hospital and was give a 12% chance of ever walking again and a 15% chance of living. He beat both odds and we spent our hour together walking around the streets of Philly :). Really makes me think about what's a problem vs. what's an inconvenience in life so I'm thankful for that perspective.

I'm currently in LA until Oct 15th and then driving back to the east coast to spend Nov & Dec in Philly (where I'm from) before hopefully taking the project abroad in 2019!

robs10kfriends12 karma

None of us know what we're doing in life. We're all just doing the best we can with the resources we have available to us. I think a lot of people operate with the mindset that "everyone but me has their life together" when in reality it should be "no one, including me, has their life together and that's ok." Understanding this has made me a much more confident and less stressed person.

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In the beginning, I just emailed random people or DM'ed creative people on Instagram asking if they'd want to be 1 of the first 10 people of this idea that I had. Luckily, some people early on thought it was a cool idea and agreed to sit down with me. After I met 8 people, I put our pics and their stories on Instagram. I'd then reach out to anyone who liked any of my photos or started following me asking if they'd join. 65 people into the project I got my first piece of press coverage which helped people learn about the project and since then it's been a mix of press here and there and people resharing our photos on their Instagrams, which has always led to their friends wanting to meet up! Now, I have a constant flow of DM's on my Instagram account that always keeps me busy with new people to meet! And thanks so much! :)

robs10kfriends9 karma

A lot of the people I've talked to say that their ultimate goal is just to help other people so I think a lot of us have a desire to help or make a positive impact on the world. I think sometimes we can be inefficient about how we want to help (i.e. two people wanting to start two different nonprofits to solve the same issue) because we're not always aware of each other's initiative, but in general the desire to do so has been a big theme.

Beyond that, I think we all just want to feel connected and accepted. I've come to realize that we all have insecurities and fears and I think we rely on each other or our close friends to get past those things!

robs10kfriends9 karma

So I always like to think about people's lives as a movie. I'm always curious about where people were, where they are now, the in-between of how they got there and where they want to go. More specifically this plays out in me asking questions like:

  1. Where are you originally from? If it's a different city, you can ask why they moved there. If it's the same city, you can ask if they've ever left.
  2. Did you go to college after high school? If so, what did you study and why? If not, what did you do after graduation?
  3. What's your family like? Do you have siblings? If so, are you close with them?
  4. What, if any, overarching goals are you working towards in life?
  5. What are some of your passions or hobbies outside of work?

And then of course, there are the topics of favorite music, foods, movies, Netflix shows, etc.

Also, these may be helpful resources for you as they're both aimed at helping people create deeper authentic connections: 1. https://www.instagram.com/socards/ 2. http://www.makebigtalk.com/play-the-question-card-game/

Hope this helps!