rhythmtastic

I have a very similar experience and relationship with my mother. Her boyfriend abused me and my older brother and younger sister. I have since learned that he probably molested many other children in his role as a psychiatrist.

Despite this, he was a mentor to me in ways that are still very meaningful to me. He nurtured my interest in science and was probably the best teacher that I ever had. For so long it was incredibly confusing to have had this mix of complicated feelings and experiences about him but I've now realized that a person is more than the sum total of evil things that they have done.

My relationship with my mother who is still in denial despite years of therapy and confrontation is actually more complicated than my relationship with the abuser boyfriend. For years I had to completely cut her out of my life in order to be psychologically and even physically well. As she gets older though, I have started to reach out to her and reconnect. It's difficult at times but like you, I love my mother and relate to her as a person on a much deeper level than I do with many people.

Reading your response meant a lot to me. It's reassuring to hear that the work I've done is not completely lonesome.

TL;DR Thank you for your response. I feel the same way.

What software did they use to monitor the laptops? Were there any cases of students figuring out that there was suspicious behavior on their computers?