pintSzeSlasher

To add a wife's perspective on anal if I may..

I think anal should be in its own category. Being adventurous and trying new things doesn't include anal for a lot of women, it's just a big fat no. Despite what porn portrays, a lot of women are not interested in it (I would venture to say most but some may disagree) and those that have tried it don't like it or may have experienced pain from it.

There's other things you might bring up that she might be willing to try.. role playing, toys, handcuffs etc but if she's not interested in trying anal, she's likely not going to ever change her mind on that. I guess what I'm trying to say is not wanting to try anal shouldn't mean she isnt down to try any number of other things..

I think you're on to something with your comment of anal almost becoming this "prize to be won". Maybe that's what bugs me about anal (aside from the fact that I don't like it!) In conversations with both girl and guy friends as well as past boyfriends, anal seems to be that ever elusive golden ticket. The pressure to "give it up" can cheapen regular sex and make it seem like it will never be as thrilling or exciting as anal. I think just seems to me that many (not all!) guys almost feel entitled to it, perhaps because it has become more mainstream and "normal" now.

And I guess when I say anal belongs in its own category because of everything it entails - possible pain, injury, discomfort and..well, poo. It kinda goes beyond just being adventurous. When I was younger I was up to try anything - bondage, handcuffs, toys, roleplay, photos and video, sex anywhere in public, etc. I did try anal and the boyfriends I tried it were gentle and slow with it and it was just too painful and icky feeling for me. More power to the many women that enjoy it but it was just not for me! I still considered myself adventurous because I would still do anything else BUT anal.

So OP describing his GF as not adventurous because she won't try anal just seems weird to me.

I'm so sorry for what you guys went through. We miscarried our second pregnancy and my husband and I were devastated.

I don't want to ever forget that there was a second baby so I talk about it at times. My husband on the other hand doesn't want to talk about it anymore, especially because we are now pregnant again. He thinks it's a "downer" topic.

From a father's perspective, how did you best deal with this loss? What's a good way to bring up the baby so we acknowledge it's existence in a way that my husband would be comfortable? Or should I just keep to myself?

You are so right! Honestly I started using that whenever I was being pressured for anal. "Okay let me try it on you first." No one was ever willing to take me up on that 🙂

Thankfully my husband had a bad experience as a teenager involving lots and lots of poop so it's not something he wants to revisit. Though he does like to tease me endlessly about when I'm going to give up my "forbidden eye" or "tart little butthole" or "balloon knot". He likes to gross me out but it cracks me up haha.

What do you like to do for fun? Favorite TV shows? Favorite book authors?

Where have you traveled before and where do you want to go?

Thanks for doing this AMA; I look forward to reading your autobiography someday!